Jerks Or The Nice Guy?

heh, wow... you could be quoting me.

 

People will be people. Often, at times, people don't realize or look at what they need or think they aren't able to find it...

but they can go with what they want, besides, let's face it, most people care about what they want.

 

From reading all the posts, I come away with this, confidence is the number 1 attraction to the opposite sex. So, I must be the most attractive person walking this earth then, because you know why, I do no fear death. And what is the fear of the majority, it is the fear of death. So, am I getting the pussy for being the most confident person in the world. No. Because the majority of women are still superficial, and materalistic. So I guess I must be a enigma, because I'm the quiet type, who loves to read and smoke pot, stay inside and watch movies, but I have the confidence of a fucking rock star. Do I have a girlfriend? no, can I walk through a mall, with all the girls looking my way, No, you know why because society has conditioned the girls to drool over the Tall, Muscular, Handsome chizzled male. If I even dared to walk up to a female I thought was attractive and ask them for their number, I'm sure to get shot down, because I'm 5'7, and dont look like a movie star. It's ridiculous, and I feel I have no chance just because I know that all women think like this, and if you dont, I'll drop to bended knee. This is me by the way...

 

The nice guy, I always go for nice guys. Of course everyone has their not so nice moments but you always truely know what's in thier heart and that's what's most important.

 

shaba, you're not confident. "If I even dared to walk up to a female I thought was attractive and ask them for their number, I'm sure to get shot down, because I'm 5'7, and dont look like a movie star. It's ridiculous, and I feel I have no chance just because I know that all women think like this, and if you dont, I'll drop to bended knee."

my husband is 5'9", has a big nose, short legs and frizzy hair. but he STRUTS. he KNOWS he's the best thing going. it's how he got me, and any number of other women, chasing after him. the fact that i got him is a compliment to ME, not to him.

 

see I consider myself a nice guy, but I am not very romantic at all. I also don't try to be more romantic than what I am because like you've said, it would be bullshiting on my part. Because of this, most women I date end up thinking I'm a jerk and things fall apart.

 

I dont think you got the point, confidence in thinking your the hot shit and my confidence about life are on totally different levels. Girls obviously, such as yourself, are looking for the hot shit, and not the right person like my self with the right outlook on life. I walk around with a supreme confidence, that makes me "STRUT" like I own the planet. And that confidence goes no where in getting the girl, because thats not what they are looking for. They're looking for the guy who walks like they got the biggest cock.

 

who says he doesn't have the right outlook on life? sounds like you're afraid to take more risks to me.

 

Thats your opinion, and I shared mine. Please keep your assumptions to your self.

 

you made assumptions of what all us shallow bitches are interested in, and when i showed and example of where you're wrong, you made assumptions about my man. i wouldn't be afraid of death if i was just sitting around getting stoned, either. put down the pipe, get off your couch, get something going for yourself, THEN start approaching women. not the little cutie pies you see at the freakin' mall, they ARE holding out for the typical cute guy.

 

actually, the confidence most of us gals look for is either confidence in yourself, or not being afraid of rejection. Not fearing death doesn't even factor into the equation.

and I don't understand why so many men assume that women are superficial and materialistic. NONE of my friends are like that. Hell, of all the chicks I've had conversations with, only two were superficial and materialistic. Out of however many hundreds o gals I've spoken with. If you don't like that type of girl, don't try to ask them out. yeesh.

 

And you dont think being confident about who you are, and what stand you for doesnt equal a confidence in my self?

 

it doesn't if you assume women are gonna shott you down based on your looks. that's a self-esteem problem in most people's books.

 

self-esteem-belief and confidence in your own ability and value

self-confidence-behaving calmly because you have no doubts about your ability or knowledge

its one in the same. and I have both

 

then why do you think women are going to turn you down?

 

well i just be myself which is a nice guy. not workin out so far though . first question i ask em is if they speak english cuz i live in a mainly french city and i cant speak it too well

 

If I had the answer then we wouldnt be having this discussion. I work the 9 to 5 daily grind, make decent cashola, and I think I have alot to offer, it just doesnt work out for the nice quiet guy.

 

you don't consider yourself attractive? shiiit, wonder what thats like. some people find me ugly as fuck and some think i look good, myself in the latter group.

 

what you mean quiet? you can't sit in the corner and expect a girl to know you're interested and whatever, you gotta go talk to em

 

"quiet" usually translates to "i never approach or talk to anyone because they'll hate me because they're all shallow assholes and i'm not."