Issues with our bodies/the way we look...:(

ughhhh.. yes. it can be hard. [warning: about to vent] i recently moved from a small town of 14,000 to a big city (Philadelphia) where there are all different kinds of people. It's been hot lately, 75-85 degrees during the day. for most people this wouldn't be a problem, but I haaaaate wearing shorts. I'm super insecure about my legs. I have big hips and thighs, and a booty. I know I'm not super overweight or anything...im actually proportioned fairly well i think, but my thighs are something ive always been super insecure about. Today I was walking around downtown with my boyfriend in a new pair of shorts i forced myself to buy...and all i could think about was my fucking legs! it was sooo irritating. I was literally frustrated with myself for having these thoughts because i know its stupid and shallow... but i literally felt like everyone who looked at me was thinking "ew". it was a seriously awful feeling!

well, later in the evening my boyfriend was teasing me because he apparently noticed that "black guys were checking me out all day". I laughed since we often joke how mexicans and black guys always hit on me because of my ass. i broke down and told him how i was feeling all day. he was shocked actually, because he'd been giving me compliments all morning (since he could actually see my legs bc i was in shorts!).
he was saying that if people were looking at me, it was probably because i'm hot...whereas i felt the COMPLETE opposite.
just goes to show you how very different people's perspectives can be. i hope this is an issue i can get over someday...i really want to work on it and i think i'm going to join a gym in the next few days. hopefully that will help my self esteem...because i dont think i can take walking around and feeling that way anymore. it's rough.

 

If the media didn't constantly state that you have to have great hair, ass loads of make up and not an ounce of fat on your body, No wonder every woman feels insecure. I know I do some days, But I also know that I love myself and I'm confident enough in myself that my looks aren't everything.

 

Blame the media, genetics, emotions, education, corporations.

I blame sexy people for settin the bar too high.

I am insecure about my head to toe mostly

I just let go of the shame and don't try to hide it

 

I have to say some people seem to treat me like they have no respect for me because I'm not a bombshell.

So I'm not that sexy and I don't put on make-up and stylish clothes. So I don't make you want to do me. Who bloody cares, I don't want you to want me, if I did I'd be trying.

It's not an issue often, but I pick it up from time to time.

Some people look at me like I'm a lowlife.

And my body fats. Some people have the opinion that if you're not thin, you are a lazy food-addict. I don't pretend to be a health nut, but the fact is I get fat easier than some people and I would have to abide a very strict diet and fitness lifestyle to not be a pudge. I know plenty of thin people that eat and sit a hellovalot more than I do. I run around serving tables 35+ hours a week, not athletics but the skinniest girl I know works in an office and eats like a football player.

And with girls... I've had 2 different girls tell me they like to go out with girls that are not as attractive as they are so they get all the attention from guys (while we were out together)

This is why I stick with my friends, we actually care about each other and care about what we're talking about and doing together not whether each other is F-able

 

Im not too happy with my body, ive had 3 kids and i feel fat. People tell me im not and they tell me im pretty but i dont feel it.

 

Oh get over it.

We all have issues with ourselves; we all have envy of others.

It isn't the media, it isn't other's expectations - it's your own viewpoint; take some goddamn responsibility or you'll never be comfortable with yourself.

 

I hate my male hair.. that all.. I love my body, dont like the way it feels sometimes..

 

Easier said than done, but that is the best way to deal. Remember what mama said? "there's always going to be someone prettier, taller (shorter) whatever...but you've always got it better than at least one other person in the world."

If you can't live with that, well then move to U.P Michigan, they're bound to make ya feel better about yourself.

 

Yeah I think the media is a lot to blame about people being insecure with their weight, especially girls. Every girl wants to be thin, have perfect skin and hair and all that [including me btw]. And I think because a lot of celebrities are thin and have great bodies, it's what all girls think they should have, and what they want. Also I think it makes lots of girls think that thin is normal, and normal is fat. Then fat is like massive. Can't say I disagree with this though tbh.

 

Ugh yes! I feel this exact same way ALL SUMMER EVERY SUMMER. I told my boyfriend the other day to remind me to never wear shorts and a tank top to a buffet again because I wasn't sure people were staring at me thinking I was attractive, or if they were thinking, "Why don't you just fill up another plate, lardo?" Haha, and I know how silly that is, because I shouldn't even give a rip what people think, it's not like I'm grossly overweight, but my legs make me feel SO self-conscious.

 

Natural girls that aren't afraid to eat an extra portion, that are just comfortable being themselves, that have a little extra weight on them, that aren't trying to be as skinny as possible or wear the most stylish clothes-those are absolutely my kind of women

My wife has some extra weight on her after having our third child, and when she's working around the house in old baggy clothes and no makeup, I tell her she's never looked better-she doesn't believe me, but it's true.

 

My main thing is how society pushes us to shave when it's unnatural!!
I don't want to shave, but I feel so uncomfortable showing my legs/pits at school, and pits in general. It's not fair...
I like my legs unshaven, don't like my underarms to be bare, either, and it looks strange to me to have them bare. But on the other hand, it looks funny to wear dresses and have hair show... argghh >.<

 

Sunny I don't shave either!!!! YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I agree with you completely.

 

Yay, a nature-buddy!
I really need to work up the courage to go to school without shorts on!
I really hope it's not going to be like this in the real world!

 

I never shave my thighs, I just love those hairs there

 

Nature buddy for sure. ^________^
The real world hates women with body hair...but I flash people my armpit hair all the time. It's funny to see men whimper away like little babies because a woman doesn't give a shit about shaving and only cares about HER comfort.
You just gotta show it off and loveeeeeeeeeeeeee your hair and if someone is cool enough they'll wanna befriend you.

 

i don't think the real world hates women with body hair at all!! maybe the majority of people but it's fair to say the majority of people are brainwashed and conforming so cannot be considered real they are pretty damn fake IMO.

 

I wish i was a hairless squirrel.

 

http://www.wish.org/

 

make a wish is just for people that are sick and dying.. Meet a baseball star kinda crap.. im sick in the head, I dont think they will grant me any wish. I dont like baseball anyway..,