Issues with our bodies/the way we look...:(

I have the same insecurity! I have pretty big top gums, so I feel like I'm all gummy when I smile really big. That is why there are no pictures of me actually genuinely smiling to be found. I also sort of hate my legs, but that's getting better because some miracle is taking place and the fatness is seeming to leave and they're starting to get some shape other than blobby. I still feel like a damn body builder when I'm in my underwear looking at the mirror, and I hate that. I'm afraid to do too much exercise or lift too much weight because I don't want my legs OR my arms to get any bigger. It doesn't feel very feminine when you have bigger muscles than your boyfriend.

 

Yes, almost all people, women and men, have insequrities about their bodies. The best way to make yourself feel better in my opinion is to surround yourself with natural beauty. Almost all my friends don't wear makeup and are very natural. Also, hf helps me feel better too. Everyone appreciates you for you.

It's definitely hard to get away from all the hype about "perfect" bodies and faces, but it's possible. After spending so much time around natural beauty and naturally beautiful people, I find it hard to look at supermodels and find them attractive. It's all fake.

 

I'm insecure about my weight (though I could stand to lose 20 lbs at most) and I have abnormally thick, dark hair that is everywhere (abnormal because I'm blonde). It doesn't help that my skin is sensitive either. The thickness of my hair from my underarms gives me a really bad rash, and its impossible to shave "down there" successfully because its just too uncomfortable. It makes me want to hide my body, because I can't wear all the clothes I want too, because I either have a rash, or am ashamed of how "big" I feel compared to everyone else. I'm thinking about laser hair removal, because the rashes itch and interfere too much (whether or not I shave or use deo).

And I would also do anything for that peach fuzz most girls have on their arms and lower back. Thick, dark hair sucks.

 

yeah i think laser would be the best way to go. or you could try waxing for a while, but obviously laser is permanent and you wouldnt have to worry about hair again it just talks a couple of months tho :/ but it would be worth it in the end

i think im goin to get it one day too, when i have the money!!!

 

I use to have insecurities but then I realize I could blame everyone. I feel better about myself but now I hate everyone :juggle:

 

I don't mind having insecurities. I like the insecure me.

 

I haven't been on HP in almost two years, but the time I was away I would still think of this beautiful womyn I met on this site from time to time. I just got bored and decided to look her up again. She is beautiful. Soft and curvy, like a Cabanel painting.

I'm overweight, but I want to look like her so badly it almost brought me to tears.
She is no skin and bones kind of womyn. She's just...perfect.

And I dunno. Seeing her just made me cripplingly insecure.

 

Fuck femininity. Challenge him to a race or arm wrestle him. Seriously, this is the coolest thing I've heard in a long time; I really wish I had some muscles to show off. I'm sure you're fucking gorgeous, especially when you're smiling.

 

I dislike the fake airbrushed rubbish, and I'm glad I don't look like that. I find it ugly. They always give them stick insect thighs and make them all shiny like a barbie doll. I'm only 5ft tall, so I have stumpy thighs. I love my stumpy thighs. Enjoy being you, and pay that garbage no attention. Anyone who gets sucked in and thinks that's what the attractiveness standard is is deluded, because they're never going to find it in the real world. It's 2 dimensional and unsatisfying, but above all, it's just lame when there's such gorgeousness all around us in reality.

 

you guys blame the media on bigger girls feeling insecure but has anyone ever considered the reverse side of that coin? I'm a naturally thin girl and growing up I always felt really insecure because anytime a girl showed up in a picture in the media looking too thin she was immediately labeled anorexic and everyone jumped on the bandwagon to talk about how nasty and skin-and-bones she looked.

Remember Calista Flockhart from Ally Mcbeal? Tiny woman, and her career was ruined because no one focused on the fact that she's cute and funny, all anyone cared about was the fact that she was "too" skinny. As long as someone is their natural weight, they are not too skinny or too fat.

Some women ARE naturally skinny, and its cruel to assume that every thin woman in the world must have an eating disorder.

The fact of the matter is that advertisers make money from both skinny and big girls, so they have incentive to strive to make both sides of the spectrum insecure.

There needs to be a focus on what is healthy and natural for every body type. Not everyone can be thin and not everyone can be voluptuous.

 

Everyone is insecure about something, but what is so funny is that everyone is so concerned about their own insecurities that no one notice's the other person's insecurities!

 

Good morning,

good attitude. That is what makes one sexy, not plastic boobs.

Regards
Gyro

 

I think we all have our insecurities, girls and guys both, especially teens, but I think girls do have a tendency to be more insecure...and I do think it's the media,.
One thing that bugs me a lot, that has already been said, is how many girls and women feel the need to shave. I hate it when I hear girls saying "Thank god I decided to shave last night!" when they wear shorts to gym. What's the big deal about having hair? It's natural!!


As for me, I usually think i'm pretty, but I do have some weight insecurities because I used to be overweight, and after losing 40 lbs, I gained 10 back from too much peanut butter and not being able to make it to the gym because of the job I got...now I'm back at the gym though, and trying to lose about 5...

 

I am a bit insecure about my stomach which is quite large and I get a lot of "are you pregnant?'s" throughout my lifetime, however, I wouldn't change my body for the world. I'm doing weight watchers right now to try and eat healthier and live healthier, but if it doesn't change my appearance, I won't mind too much. I've grown to love and accept my body for what it is and I feel like everyone-men and women alike-should do the same

 

Damn that's some wisdom right there.

 

guys are insecure too

i'm insecure about my hair. when i was a teenager it started falling out in clumps, in essence - i was balding.

allegedly it was a result of trauma via stress, which was understandable, but it was horrifying. i suppose mentally i never got over it and constantly worry i'm going to lose my hair

i'm concerned about something that hasn't even happened yet.

 

My hair fell out in clumps in school also! My pediatrician diagnosed me with alopecia, but I went to a dermatologist for a confirmation and he couldn't find any medical reasons for the hair loss. I broke up with my boyfriend and my hair stopped falling out so massively, but it's still wickedly thin and I still lose a good chunk every time I wash it.

 

it's rubbish, huh? what i had was something called telogen effluvium. it's much less likely in men

so i'm entitled to post here, it's a womanly issue

 

My hair fell out in patches when I was 13 or so. It was awful. I colored the bald spots in on microsoft paint on the pictures of my hair

 

For the most part, I dont let my insecurities bother me, but then when I see really pretty perfect girls, I start to get insecure. I compare myself to them and then I feel really crappy . I also worry that my boyfreind is attracted to other girls more than he is attracted to me. I have really small boobs that I hate, really pale skin with a bad complexion to make it worse, and a shitty haircut that Im still trying to grow out. I have small beady eyes with short and thin eyelashes. I recently got contacts though which makes things a little better from my scratched up and crooked glasses lol. My teeth are dull, and my ears are shaped weird. I have really thin lips and the shape of my mouth is akward...i also have a huge clefted chin. For the most part though, I like my body. I work out and im pretty tall, so Im not insecure about that, for the most part I just hate my face lol