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You're pretty harsh with your judgements on people, Peter. And it seems like you're saying that you use your negative judgements of people as an excuse to be cruel to them.

Why do you do that?

And please don't say it's because you want to help them. We all know that's not how you help people. Jesus wasn't an Inquisitor.

 

i dunno how more right you could be. I been mistreated so many times because I gave it too soon and she might like it now and be happy now but its going to crash and burn her self esteem once she gets hurt

 

im not stupid
and if u didnt read my earlier post
i fuck them we i want
not wen they want
and theres a diff
i have lovers
i dont fuck every guy i meet
theres a fuckin big difference there
and i do treat myself very well for ur information


c dis is were that stupid "double standard" crap comes in (that is comple bull shit if u ask me)
if a guy has girls hes a stud
but everyone thinks "fuck god forbid a girl has more then one guy they auttomatically call her a slut"

fuck that shit

 

Actually in my opinion a guy that has more partners really turns me off. For some reason I just think about all the disease they could pass onto me. Also I think about how that would affect a relationship with them. I don't think a person needs a ton of partners to become amazing at sex. Thats just my opinion.

Also if you are happy being with mulitple partners, then thats ok. Its just be honest with them. Thats all people want, you can have all the free love you want. Just make sure the people you are practicing it with are wanting to do the same. Just consider their feelings. Who cares what people think, if you like having more then one lover go for it. The only thing I ask is be honest about it. If you are honest and they are ok with it then its all good. Just don't expect them all to be, expect the worst and hope for the best.

Its not like losing one of the lovers would kill you or something.

Tiffany

 

I would tell him. It is a turn on for some guys and others are repulsed. Its a toss up. I would find it hard to keep my hands off you if you told me that ...so long as you were willing to tell stories.

But, I would tell him and let him know what you like that he does that no one else does for you. There must be something you keep coming back for. If he can't handle it and gets pissed are you going to change your life and your habits ...not likely, so why drag it on.

I am with you on your opinion for free love. More than one sexual partner, if they are all chosen carefully should be ok and its not nasty. I think everyone deserves to have multiple partners if that is what they want in life. It's not for everyone.

I guess it could be thought of as nasty if you went from one lover's house to the next without any cleaning in between, but I am kind of twisted when it comes to that and if that is what you were doing, I would always want to be last on the list ...just something about a freshly sexed woman that is really sexy to me ...sorry for trailing off.

Hope this helps.

 

I absolutely hate Peter Popper; but I sorta agree with him here.

To me, a slut is someone who sleeps around in a way that is selfish, irresponsible, or could harm others.

Multiple partners that you are honest with and responsible with: just someone who likes casual sex.
But when you start doing things like lying, to them, that's when you cross over to being a shifty slut (to me)

 

i guess i do gotta be honest with them

n no i dont go from one to the next in the same day

i need a 2 or 3 day break between them lol

 

"shifty slut"
ive never heard of that lol

 

get over it its just how the world is. face the facts. u know, i know it, everyone knows it. lol

nothing is ever free. just think of a porn star, its the acts that she does that make her the person she is. even when she isnt having sex, what she does comes through her personality, and it becomes who you are.
u end up just turnign out with a big whory personality.

you are trying to trick yourself and tell yourself everything u can to make u think what ur doing is ok. but the fact is you live in this society, and if some things arent fair, but things are juts the way they are.

and by the way duck you only HATE me cause u know i am right.

say you have 5-10 relationships before u get married, and u fuck all of them after waiting a period of 2-4 weeks before u fuck them then thats good. there is a book on good etiqqute* or whatever its called.

but having multiple partners all at once with no relationship is being a slut.
the unslutty thing to do would be to date one at a time and fuck them after dating them for a few weeks. getting practice from each one.

lol

 

back in the day it was even harder for our grandparents, the 'norm' was much more significantly on the fact that no sex until after marriage.... how slutty is society getting already, these young girls fuck ay sluts all of em. lol

 

I wasn't referring to this thread when I said I hate you. I hate you because you are an ignorant bigot that thinks you know everything. But this thread is about fighting with the OP, and for the time being we basically agree (I agree that she's a slut, not necessarily that all the guys she bangs realize it =P)

 

i dont trick myself into anything

 

mo matter much you might want to----You cant own another human being.

 

so true

 

i know some of the core concepts of humanity.
i have seen alot thro the use of acid, and it has given me very strong insights into all kinds of human behaviour and other things too. it has leaft me with strong beleifs, and im not afraid to speak my mind.
i have the benefit of having seen things from all sorts of perspectives.

but anyway, im not trying to control anyone; more as a release for my resentment towards sluts.

otherwise i just use this forum to speak shit.

 

Just because you've done acid does NOT mean you have perspective, it means you like to waste your time. Drug addicts are drug addicts, not enlightened. iggy:

 

acid doesnt really have anything to do with this.

u can even buy books that have proper etiquette in relation to dating and sex and so on. im sure she realises she has low morals, it just doesnt faze her. so whatever, she gets the privlege of us calling her a slut.

what is your reason for sticking up for this slut? there is always a reason why somone does or does not agree with somthing, and it depends on their life experiences.


by the way im not a drug addict. im at university doing criminolgy. gonna be a cop, or a fed.

the way i express my thoughts on this site, compared to the way i act in this world are two different things. what we think and what we do are two separte things.

 

Uhhhh... Here's what I have to say, SQ. I haven't really read what anyone else said, because yeah.

I'm in a very similar situation. I have several on-again-off-again lovers I alternate with every week. They know about each other, and they're not too happy with it, but I was up front and like, hey, you're both good in bed but you each do different things better. Honesty, to me, is the best policy, because if you outright lie ("No I haven't slept with anyone else!") you can get caught, and I'm a terrible liar so I don't even bother. I'm just honest with everything, it makes things a million times easier. If they're unhappy about it, you explain everything and work it out. If they can't handle that, fuck them.

Anyway, I suggest you do whatever the fuck you want. I suggest everyone does whatever the fuck they want, as long as they don't impose on other's happiness intentionally. Like don't go out and kill someone, that's not cool.

Do what makes you happy, because you gotta look out for yourself as best you can. We all do, cause no one else is gonna do it.

@Jerks on this site whose posts I've skimmed: Do not call her a slut. If you don't understand her way of thinking, that's completely understandable, and if you think she is a slut then fine, maybe you're even right, but keep that kind of immature name-calling and criticism to yourself. Have some respect for other people's beliefs. Anyway, arguing and attacking strangers is immature, a waste of time (because seriously, do you really care if some stranger on the internet gets upset?), and why are you people arguing about anything? Because that's just bad vibes. And no one likes anyone who brings bad vibes, right?

 

i would listen to this guy.


You obvious aren't TOO serious since you break so often, but i understand how it can hurt him to say you've been tapped by a few other spigot's. Does he see other people during your breaks?


And what i usually do to figure out which version of the truth would be the best to tell is determine which one will take up most of my time to recover from, or how much proverbial baggage is attached to each option.. Sometimes the truth is just too difficult to deal with, i have wayy too many problems to deal with as it is.

i' sorry i'm pretty baked right now, and rather sleep deprived.

Hope i helped, these are just kinda sorta how i handle things, your mileage may vary. :cheers2:

And Leftofthenight, awesome post, i like the way you think.

 

Haha, thank you, Wait. I do too.

I'm also pretty "baked" as well. :]