Is the number of sexual partners your lover has had important to you?

i think its important to me, because different people ahve different views about sex. so its important to find someone, for me at least, who has the same views. i understand that if your single for a long time, you still need the occasional lovin. i dnto see much wrong with that. i would think anything more than two or three different lovers a year gets a bit slutty, for me. so i would want a girl who felt the same way.

 

I have beeen with my man for 4 yrs now.... We have never really talked about it. If it came up in discusion , fine. I really do not want to know who he has been with. I know he does not have or did not have any stds. I dont think it is important tp talk about that kind of past. I think as long as you are together, and being with each other, great!

 

youre fucking right it does matter! if my girlfriend has done a lot than i wouldnt be able to take it. id get jealous and id hate those bastards who she did shit with.

- youve got sexual references
- inside jokes
- sizes & shapes

those are just some examples of what you would have to deal with. plus, i dont want a sex fiend! i mean i do, but with just me, not with mike, or dan. id want to know shes still fresh, and hasnt done much. id rather date a girl who had did stuff with 3-4 guys rather than someone who has done stuff with 10-00 guys.

 

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I've noticed that the guys who are younger say it IS important...while guys who are a bit older say it's not as big of a deal.

I look at it like this...If you're 16 and had fifteen partners...that might cause concern...while if the person is 25 or 30 and has had fifteen partners...I don't think it's as big of a deal...especially if they have been sexually active for awhile.

It's all about perspective.

 

i insist that they have slept with at least 300 people.

 

It's not important to me in that I don't think someone with 8 ex partners is more "used" than someone with 6 or anything like that. The number might be an issue if it says their approach to sex was different than mine (me=low double digits). If a girl has had no experience at all at age 25, I wonder what the reason is. If she's had one or two partners, I'd think maybe she takes it very seriously and I'd have to make sure that her expectations and mine were matched up before I got involved. If she'd had 100's of one night stands I'd think maybe there was a psychological issue. But any number in the "normal" range (let's say 3 to 30) would be fine with me.

It's pretty important to me to know what her experiences were in terms of how old she was when she started, what types of relationships, etc., including the (approximate) numbers. But that's not in order to make a judgement, but rather because I think it's part of knowing her and understanding her. Sex is like a journey and if I'm with someone who has travelled, I want to know what countries she's been to, what she did there, etc. But I'd never say "25 countries--that's too many!!"

 

honestly.. I dont wanna know.

But if a guy asks me how many guys I've slept with in the past..
I just say more then Jessica simpson, less them Pam Anderson...
Enough said.

 

i dont really give a damn about that.
past is past, i care about the present and how he manages a relationship
with me.

 

Nice post...agree wit ya completely.

 

it may seem important, but trust me it isn't!

 

yes under 5 is preferable everyone I have been with except for one person had under five partners and suprisinly they were better lovers...more gentle caring their heart was in it, it meant more to them.

 

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decided to keep my words to myself

 

It doesn't matter how many, more the circumstances.
A man who's been with prostitutes would be a no.
I don't care that people do, it's just something I would not want in a life partner.

 

id have to say no.

 

that's the difference between you and me...

for me- it's more like it depends what the person is doing currently....
im not gonna judge someone for something they did years in the past if they arent and arent gonna be doing that....

kinda pointless to me and i dont hold things against people.

 

its important because she gives me half of the money those stinkin tricks cough up .....

 

uhmmm okay assertive thearapy techniques being used again to counteract your complete passive agressivness and lack of respect for my privacy...before we even officially broke up you said carla was the best lover and best relationship you ever had...publicly...yet I can't express my feelings? I stopped posting on your forum the second I got home so I am sorry but I am not playing your mindfucks anymore....stop reading and responding. This is my outlet and I will speak the truth and say what I need to get of my chest. It's a form of thearapy for me.

I am being honest here I was just number 10 for you-that's how I feel. With other men who have had the same or less then me I feel like I'm special one out of a few- a lifetime lasting memory not just a piece of ass and for some reason they're freerer and like to try new things with me. I know I am not the best 'physical' lover but I could care less about that I like an emotional lover, somone who holds me so tight during making love that I almost can't breathe, who is verbal and tells me how much he loves and cares for me over and over during it. we just weren't sexually compatible-doesn't mean you're shitty in bed, most girls would think you're great- just not my cup of tea....plus I have a shallow canal.