Is sex a need or a want?

I wasn't being critical of you--it takes a lot of will to make the decision you have.

 

Unfortunately,my computer NEVER works on the xs-never has-or I'd check it out.

 

Oh, I know you weren't being critical of me. lol Saying Im deprived is only stating the truth.

I feel like the decision "I made" was forced upon me, so I don't feel like I've ever had any real choice to make other than the one I made. It doesn't take any will on my part really, to me the alternative would be far worse, so my "decision" is really the lesser of two evils. If the only way I can experience intimacy is in a way that feels completely unnatural and horrible to me, then Im better off without it.

 

the whole purpose of life is to reproduce.
my dad once told me if i didn't have babies i was worthless.

now you tell me. is sex a need or a want?

 

Guess I must be worthless then. lol

 

Wow. Your dad has a poor idea of life no offence. Life is about being alive and having free will. One of the parts about having free will is the decision to reproduce.

 

Is he religious? My dad raised me in a fundamentalist christian cult and said about the same thing to me. It took me about 20 years to realize that although he is my father, he is a quack. (I am not being sarcastic, either.)

 

If you're not gettin any, you need it!
If you're gettin some you want it again

 

It is highly likely that the father is some sort of christian fundamentalist. Although its not an opinion shared only by religious people, it mostly is. That reproduction is the only real purpose of life, and people who don't reproduce are worthless is normally an attitude associated with religious fundamentalism.

What's always really struck me about that attitude, is it not only attacks those who choose not to reproduce, (which is bad enough) but also those who physically can't do so as well. Why should someone be classed as a lower form of life because they won't or can't reproduce?

 

True. I was just curious because it sounded so similar.

Absolutely. It's disgusting on several levels.

 

Yeah, it was my immediate thought when I first read the post. Which I think says a lot when it comes to religion being connected to such ideas.

It is totally disgusting. I myself, cannot reproduce. Now, Im not saying I would necessarily do so even if I could, but not even being able to make that choice for myself is something that causes me a lot of distress. So to hear people saying you're worthless if you don't reproduce, is something that strikes me personally, even though I don't believe that is the case at all.

 

not at all; nor am i.

 

i'm really sorry if i offended anybody with my first post.. i tend to be very easily persuaded by what people (especially those i look up to) say and i'm real gullible as well. but after reading some of the posts and thinking more about it, i really do not believe reproduction and/or sex is the purpose of life. i mean, what about women who are infertile? that kind of view on it is not right at all and i'm sorry i made that post, but i'm glad cuz you all gave me great insight.

 

Well, it's good that you can see that now. I actually have heard people saying that people who don't have children are inferior, and they still believe this to be true, even if you physically can't have children. Being infertile, is something that Ive struggled to come to terms with for a while now, and I already feel less of a woman due to that, and other aspects of my condition. So to be actually classed by some to be of lesser worth, or even no worth compared to those who can give birth, is distressing for me.

Im glad that you feel the past few posts in this thread have been insightful for you.

 

I didn't read all the posts.

I don't think sex (intercourse or play) is a need, but a want. We use it to be close to others. Some people don't even orgasm or produce chilren, the main biological purposes of sex. And, lots of people live without it.

Orgasms on the other had, for me, are a need. I orgasm daily. Some days I am literally vibrating with arousal and can't focus on daily activites, as well as I should. Plus, biologically, I am being told to get off. Of course, I probably could learn techniques to control my desire...others do, so it would be a need too. Unless, I couldn't control the arousal and my body continued to go crazy for realease. LOL

 

For me, sex is just a want. I don't feel that humans need sex unless trying for a baby But sometimes others have very different opinions. I know a woman who is in her 50s and still a virgin, intends to stay that way forever, and then I know people who will have sex with anything with a pulse. The thing about sex is, it's a very intimate, personal thing, and for some people is a need, for some a want, for some a pointless inconvenience

 

As mammals and animals, humans do need sex.

 

Food is a need, if I don't eat I die

Air is a need, if I don't breathe I die

I can't see how sex is a need. Particularly from the perspective of a relatively well adjusted person who doesn't need sex.

 

Whether it's a want or a need, I damn well love sex. If my body could cooperate, I'd have sex 24/7. Well, 23/6 maybe. lol