Is Marriage Just Crap ?

We got married and had a not huge but not small wedding. Around 80 people. Neither of us really cared much about getting married, it was more to have a big party and an excuse to have my family come out and visit (they mostly live in another province). If I did it again, I'd do it mostly the same, but I'd have a less formal dress code. Rented tuxedos are uncomfortable, especially in August when it was like 30C+ outside for the photos haha.

We've been married for 7.5 years now and have two kids, so I guess it worked out alright.

Damn, I feel old now.

 

Been married Twice so I must like it ! ??

 

I wouldn't know. I've been engaged twice but I guess it's good I didn't go through with it. I think so many people marry without thinking though so I can't be too upset. Better to be engaged twice than to be a 2 time divorcee at 27.

I think people should really be sure before they do it. Don't expect that marriage will fix or change anything. If you're happy as the relationship is, it's a good indication that marriage would work for you.

 

Marriage is fast becoming obsolete in American society every census shows us that as a percentile of the population marriage is in slow decline. I personally believe such a union is good for two people if they're properly matched and can function on the same page with each other, note this is often not the case.
Contributing factors to decline in marriage are,
1. Social welfare programs which boost payouts to unmarried persons thus incentivizing out of wedlock births
2. An increasingly self centered population completely focused on their own needs, wants, goals, aspirations etc.
3. Wage and income disparity resulting from declining value of labor primarily performed by males. If a man cannot earn a decent living he has little hope of attracting a suitable mate in today's world.
4. The rising number of young adults who grew up in single parent households have never seen nor experienced the benefits of a solid two parent home so can't be expected to aspire to something which is really the stuff of fairy tales in their lives.
5. Devaluation of traditional values by media elite and educational system
and really there's plenty more but these are just a few. With all this can anyone be surprised at the outcome?

 

It's bad for those that do not put any effort into it , they fall in love with the idea of being in love .

Some people say that they really didn't know the person they married , I often wonder why is that ...

 

So you think you know your wife?

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Your wife sses that list, what would she actually think, how does that affect plans for happily ever after

This is the part where you stare blankly at me, whats that got to do with anything

 

Your right I'm staring blankly ?

 

Well I have to tell you that my first 2 Marriage were CRAP, but I'm on my 3rd and it's been 10 years now and it's still GREAT!!!

 

I think for the most part it really is !
The state of relations between men and women have never been more negative in my lifetime and it's getting worse by the day. I rarely ever speak to a woman I don't already know for fear of being accused of something I haven't done.

 

I've come to wonder if the term 'happily married' is an oxymoron.

 

Smh

 

Why did I read this garbage? My eyes rolled so many times that my head hurts.

 

Its best to just not think about it.

 

I've been married for over thirty years now. True, there are challenges, disagreements, and verbal fights - it's not all a honeymoon. BUT, I have no regrets. I love my wife more than ever, and I know it's the same for her with me. She is my best friend, and I couldn't imagine my life without her. She completes me. No, that's not gushy talk, its the truth. I fell sorry for anyone who can't find that kind of love.

 

My wife and I are happily married. We show it in our actions. She is perfect for me!
Marriage is about love period
I know it's corny in today's time to say that! All that matters is this is how I feel!
Let me share what marriage is not about!
My second year as a firefighter. I got called back to military because combat medics were hard to find for these particular spec-op teams.
About 9 months into my tour I had a bad day. I was flown out to Germany!
When we arrived at Walter Reede Hospital !
I was so happy for my wife to hug me and kiss me...
The guy next to me was burned badly and on a portable ventilater. The curtains shielded him!
His wife came in and freaked.. told him he was burned and ugly she would never be seen in public with him.
She took her wedding ring off and dropped it on floor. The entire ward was quiet.
Damn!
She asked a nurse where the elevators and the nurse told her; she would show her the stairs!
He died the next day!
Very sad!
I am blessed to have the right lady who knows how to treat me but it's 2 ways. I know how to treat her also!
Sorry long and boring!

 

I wish I was a firefighting special ops guy flying all over the world....maybe that's why i'm divorced ….i'm so envious

 

Means you didnt love her as much before

 

Sounds rather unlikely some one with life threatening burns would be moved from wherever, to germany, then to DC

 

I tell my wife that us being married to each other Makes two complete strangers somewhere in the world happy

I wouldn't change things though !!