Is Marriage Just Crap ?

Marriage is a legal contract in which the fine print is not revealed until long after the wedding. That's fine for raising kids.

True love is a partnership that does not depend upon a legal contract. Both parties continue to work hard, because there is no "ownership" involved.

 

Yet, less of a reason to work at it if you can just pack and split any time...

 

What you just described does not sound like true love. No one involved in true love has that attitude, particularly when they get older and wiser.

 

Actually, there is more of a reason to work at it. If you know your partner is legally bound to you and it would be difficult for them to leave, you might get complacent but if you know they could just pick up and leave if they are not happy, then you might try harder to keep them happy and vice versa.

 

That's how it works for my partner and me. We are going on 19 years by mutual respect. Plus, we don't live together, and we both have very active professional lives.

It works for us. The sanest and most affectionate relationship either of us has had. Sex once a week is something we look forward to.

 

My wife was watching the Golden Bachelor the other night. She asked if I'd ever consider seeking love and marriage if she passed away. I answered with...HELL NO. Too many rules to follow and loving somebody is too heart wrecking while you watch your loved one slowly diminish in their health as do my wife. It hurts me terribly watching her health decline each day.

 

not relly. I would and did so
my first wife passed awa 13 years ago, suddenly from a stroke. we were married 38 years
after the dust settled i got on a grief support site and went on dating sites
i had a few matchs and startted seeing some one
but she was 66 miles away. and i still had to take care of the dog and had an older son at home, but couldnt trust him to look after the dog. we dated a few times but it was all about her. she was a gold digger and looking for a sugar daddy. she had a husband or lover and 2 kids, hisshe would talk about him but didnt want to talk about mineher there son was in college and alwways wanted money. the daughter was in HS and a spoiled brat she also lied about her age
about the same time i met some one on the greif sit,also a widow and we would email each other or chat on the site
shortly after this other women now wife wanted to come visit me and I said yes and boke off with the other on. not to long after that iasked the new one to get married and she said yes instantlyshe is older but didnnt lie about her ageshe flew about and spent a week and not to long aftter I flew to she her down south
may of 2010 we got married and are very happy.
many people said it was too soon but w didnt care and it was time to move on. 13 years now

 

One of the biggest choices to make. Knowing what you want and like and then finding a partner that matches YOU. If I grew up in this era...with the internet and all the other outlets...... to easy for me.

 

It does depend on in part, the financial security and the sex being good at least. But the old standards still apply which are still communication, honesty, and trust.

 

Marriage isn't crap but that forced monogamy is...