Is long distance love possible

awesome I'm happy for you, I love hearing stories like this

 

I'm happy for you both, luv! It's just so great !

 

Under the circumstances you stated. . .How can anyone fall in love with someone else totally sight unseen? No face-to-face in-person contact? No live Webcams? Not even a photo exchange?

I say an emphatic NO! I'm in a long-distance relationship that's almost 20 years old. . . But I met my partner in person at the very beginning.

And while the distance has been drastically reduced -- from 3,100 miles to 100 -- there's no way that the relationship between my partner and I could have survived all these years if we never had an opportunity to visit each other in person, even if only four times a year at the most.

No relationship can really get off the ground -- or stay in flight -- without that vital in-person contact. You can never know if you really love the other person -- or vice-versa -- unless and until the two of you can visit each other in person on a regular basis, even if it's on as limited a basis as mine is.

-- Skeeter

 

i met tigerlily and fell in love with her online before we ever met...then we met and fell even more in love with eachother.

 

if the two have never met, no, it is not love. it's a desire for love. there's nothing negative about desiring love, and it's certainly not a trivial thing. once your friend meets him, they might develop a strong, true sense of love... but not until they meet. i don't agree that you have to necessarily see the other person, because the blind can love. rather, you have to experience the presence of the other. you have to feel their energy.

 

thank you!

 

you guys just don't seem to get it. how is being 10 feet away from someone any different than talking to them over the phone or net. people are just as capable of pretending to be something they're not in person as they are online. love isnt based on looks and frankly i pity you guys.

 

i don't think that anybody is claiming that love is based on looks. the blind love. but being ten feet away from someone is different from experiencing the others presence. i'm talking about actually feeling and experiencing the energy that comes off of the other person, which can only be done in shared company. shared company is much, much different from a phone call.

personally, i am excellent at reading someone in person, but i am not very good at it on the phone or the internet. so a person might be good at pretending to be something s/he's not both in person and on the phone, but i would pick up on that in person much better than the internet. so i don't necessarily agree with that, though that varies between individuals. but universally, i still stand by my points, because they were stated under the assumption that both people were honest and trustworthy. even if both people are presenting themselves as honestly and objectively as possible, that does not take away from the gravity of experiencing the presence of the other. not to be rude, but if anyone is deserving of pity, it is both the individual who fails to have that experience and call love by a false name, as well as the individual who feels love is based on looks.

 

This is true. It was that energy that has made me understand that what I feel for the guy I met online is real love .
And it is a very strong feeling