Is he/she 'the one'

As long as he disagrees, there isn't much you can do about it.

Best to wait it out, me thinks. See if he gives you any signs that he feels similarly about you; rather than sabotage the friendship.

And life isn't fair; but humans are unfair to themselves for expecting it to be. :sultan:

Actually, well-publicized polls show that among people 20-25, men are more likely to be in it for the love. :love:

 

Really?

 

No one is equal to the ideals of another. People who think that they are, simply overlook those things that haven't added up. Love becomes obscure with criticism and in this life some will embrace us and some will not, no matter what we do.

 

I would normally agree with that, but not now.

 

What is special about now?

 

Findings show men are more interested in love, marriage and children than their peers in earlier times; women want more independence in their relationships than their mothers did; and hooking up and one-night stands aren't necessarily meaningless sexual encounters.

One correction, it was 21-34, and one addendum; this was a US survey

 

men are in it for the love and/or sex, and women are in it for the status.

 

Nice correction, no arguments.

 

i am tempted but he's been with this girl for 3 or 4 years now and I just don't want to mess with that. I believe in karma too much to try to break a couple up.

That is unfairly true :2thumbsup:

 

I believe the girl I'm in love with right now is "the one".

 

Things are now very different

I didn't think it would be like that, you learn something new everyday.

 

I don't necessarily believe in "the one" because that's putting a label on one single person, when there's so many others out there. I do think that you can have somebody in your life that you feel that you'll be with forever, and that's what I have right now. I love my boyfriend, and I'd do anything to keep him in my life, so for now, I guess he's "the one".

"I'm not looking for Mr. Right, I'm looking for Mr. Right Now."
^_^

 

Haha yeah pretty much. I'm madly in love with my man, and of course I have hope that we'll grow old together and share all of lifes experiences yadda yadda... BUT, I'm not counting on it. Life is ever-changing... you never know what is around the corner (haha, how fun!).

 

Very interesting survey! Some of the results surprised me.

I feel my man and I are a good match so far. We are on the same wavelenght intellectually, emotionally and sexually and get along very well, plus we both think the other is hot as shit. I hope this will go on forever, one sure thing is I'll do everything to make this relationship work.

 

yesss he is <3 without a doubt

 

What exactly makes the one, "the one"?

I heard a stand up comedian say it best when it comes to "the one". He said, roughly, "If there was such a thing as "the one" guy's dicks would be shaped like keys."

People can get along well with and fuck thousands of different people. The one is simply the one that was there when a person decided to stop looking. Just my opinion.

 

Yup, and I think it's very important to keep this in mind, and very harmful to our relations with each other that our society looks at dating/marriage as a fairy tale sort'f deal.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KynIKjRwqDI"]YouTube - Tim Minchin - If I Didn't Have You

 

Yes. Perhaps the idea of the one has a bit to do with the way we as a society treat others in general. If, rather than thinking that there is a one, maybe you have them, maybe you don't, if instead we thought that everyone is a person worth loving, platonically and sexually, perhaps then we would live in a better place.

 

This is pretty much EXACTLY how i felt about my last boyfriend of 2 1/2 years. He was a really good man, treated me very well, we had tons in common and lots of fun together....but as time went on, I felt like something was missing. We didn't have that intellectual connection as much as I wanted. I could see myself being with him forever and it working, except for the fact that I would eventually probably go nuts because we weren't on the same level. Hahah.. wow..glad to know I'm not the only one who's been through this...

Eventually, I ended up breaking it off with him because I wanted more. Sometimes I wonder if I made the right decision...we are still great friends and talk all the time, even though I am seeing someone else. We just talk as friends, though. I still love him as a person, but i think i made the right choice... the grass is always greener and all that. Unfortunately, breaking it off with him was probably the hardest thing I've ever had to do...