Is a year too long to ask someone out?

The Imaginary Being · Jun 18, 2013

boys huh?

boudinballs · Jun 18, 2013

just go for it, dude. don't think too much.

cfernn said:

I've known this girl for about a year now. I don't know her that well, she actually works near my work. When I first met her...a year ago!...I felt attraction from her... She acted giddy and smiled a lot and complemented me...but I had a girlfriend at the time and I was sort of blinded by all of this. A few months later I stop by her work for something..and she's there and she again shows me signs that she likes me. I remember being really nice to her, but I again don't give her much of a response...in fact, I think I even rationalized in my head the fact that since I had a girlfriend, it would be wrong to flirt back with this girl..

So a few more months go by and by then I'd probably seen this girl 6 or 7 times, either in her work or around our work (we work in the same mall)...everytime there's something. Either we look at each other or she'll smile at me randomly. It's pretty subtle but still...feels like something's there...

So maybe 2 or 3 more months go by..and it's now October I think....and suddenly (and seriously...within the blink of an eye) I'm overwhelmed with feelings for this girl. It's like a love spell was cast on me...I remember seeing her walk past me while I was on my break, we just briefly looked at each other and that was it...for some reason that triggered something in me. I don't know why it took so long. It's actually reeeaally frustrating because I had a clear window of opportunity months and months ago, and now it feels late and even awkward to ask her out. It's just been such a long time...

I tried walking into her work to ask her out a couple weeks ago but my nerves got the best of me and I ended up asking her a bunch of boring questions. Also, she didn't act as excited as she used to, which makes complete sense...it's been almost a year! The sad thing is, I was so calm and collected before, and now I'm kind of nervous. Also, asking her out seems slightly "out of the blue"

Anyone have any feedback/advice for me? It would be great to hear what any girls out there think

Note: I'm no longer with my girlfriend at the time
Click to expand...

deenalowens · Jun 25, 2013

Don't think about it too much.

Ask her out. Tell her you've thought about her throughout the year but were involved with someone and didn't want to disrespect the relationship.

If she says yes, enjoy.
If she says no, move on and focus on new women.

Log in or Sign up

Is a year too long to ask someone out?

The Imaginary Being PAIN IN ASS Lifetime Supporter

boudinballs Member

deenalowens Guest

Share This Page

Log in or Sign up

Is a year too long to ask someone out?

The Imaginary Being PAIN IN ASS Lifetime Supporter

boudinballs Member

deenalowens Guest

Share This Page

Useful Searches