I'm with a 14 year old

hey its cool. I lost my virginity when I was 16 to a 25 year old girl. She was my a friend of my cousin's girlfriend and she wanted to "break the virgin boy". I never actually dated her but we fooled around a bunch of times. She was kind of like a sex teacher to me. well i was kind of a fuck toy to her if thats what you mean.

but now im 19 and I dont find girls under 18 that appealing to me. maybe its to do with the fact that a lot of them act immature, but I live in Thailand where the age of consent is around 14 or 15, so its waaay different from the US. different country different laws.

 

yeah. great. cool. whatever...

 

that isnt fucked up dont worry.. a lot of 14 year olds are mature.

 

I reckon it depends on how mature the 14 year old is. If he still looks and acts like a boy, then it's so wrong. But if he's like a man, then it's ok. I've known 14 year old boys who look like men, so it really depends how fast your boyfriend matured.

 

its wrong until its legal.... lol


dude, its fine.
Back in like the fucking 1700's, chicks were getting married at like 13 and they were marring like 50 years olds



ever seen the movie young guns? it's got a bit of that in it

 

emelia's got it right, a person doesn't magically grow up when they turn 18 or any age. These age limits are only a recent invention, and the enforcement of them is like enforcement of most anything else, mainly just adds to the welfare of the bloated and beaurocractic state. In centuries past people began pair bonding at much earlier ages as life expectancy was much lower. True a person's personality is still developing at 14, but a person's personality is still developing at 20 too, and even 40, in fact, our personalities are always developing. Our natural instincts cannot be denied, and should be not just accepted. but embraced. That being said, with the greatly enhanced need for furthering education, birth control should be promoted as a means of societal progression rather than shunned and considered immoral.

 

If he were 18, I don't think this conversation would exist. But since it's technically illegal for you to be doing this, yeah it's wrong! If you have to ask, then you're unsure. And if you're unsure you're probably doing something wrong.

 

Is it morally wrong? No, I don't think so.

Can I see what you're getting out of it? No.

 

I would stop if not only on the ground that you will go to jail if somebody else finds out about and decides to report you. There are other OLDER fish in the sea!

 

The age of consent changes with the seasons.

It wasn't that long ago that girls in the US were married off at 13 or 14 years old. It was normal. The current laws on the book are more a product of religious intrusion into government than anything else.

You can argue that it robs them of their childhood. Let me tell you something...in many parts of the world, even today, childhood ends with the first mensus. Once a girl bleeds, she is married off and begins producing little humans. Its been this way for thousands of years and all the laws in the world will NOT change it.

Men have software in their head from prehistoric times that tells them to mate with the youngest and prettiest girls they can find. Society can suppress this software, but it can't make it go away.

I think if two people truly love each other, and can provide a healthy and loving exchange between them, others should leave them be.

Most of you reading this are products of such unions that took place many years ago.


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I wouldn't wanna do it, but I didn't see anything morally wrong with it. I just would feel weird with some so far away from my age. But if you don't feel weird i think it's ok. but it's up to u

 

Age shouldn't matter.

 

people go to jail for that shit, remember that teacher who screwed her student? this is almost the same thing

 

if ur good looking this is any lads dream! shame on you for possibly making his life better that 97% other males

 

Some of these responses seem a little insulting as they probably should. But its the generation we live in, women are looking for Mimbos (male bimbos) a 14 year olds character is probably perfect. Also, many male models as you see are skinny small, and hairless... like that of a 14 year old. So odly its something that has probably been embedded in the womans psyche. Its what media portrays to be "beautiful". Instead the 14 year old doesnt have to shave, or "wax" OUCH... so at least hes naturally a kid. and doesnt do what other men do to achieve the child look.

14 year old either way boy or girl is pretty bad, its different when you get older because maturity kicks in and eventually everyone becomes a man or woman. He is still a child who still has life restrictions such as alcohol, smoking, driving he even has work restrictions at this age... The reason they have these restrictions is because children have a lack of common sense to make these decisions by themselves and can easily be swayed by others to do stupid things. Is it that hard to find someone on the same wave length as you at the age of 20? i know at 20 alot of dudes are assholes but there are many out there that arent.

 

Theoretically, i'd like to say roll with it..............don't get swept up in the puritanical ideologue, I don't see anything wrong with it in the least, as quite a few other people have said, it's a recent development that the sociological age of consensus has risen to 18, this is directly attributable to a small group of lobbyists representing the religious right. Just make sure you are careful and have the parents consent.

HOWEVER, unfortunately sexual repression has been sufficiently ingrained into society at this point that the vast majority of people will judge you as the perpetrator of a crime, I suggest you make yourself aware of the consequences, while it may not be wrong, you run the risk of ending up in shackles. Your best bet is to be a good little sheep and obey the man behind the curtain.

 

same here unless she's unhot

 

hell i wouldnt even mind a 39 year old rich lady if she was hot

 

everyone has their preference i guess i wouldnt mind myself a 40 yo hot rich lady myself. LOL

 

Honestly, you're probably doing a lot more harm than good.

It's a good bet that physically, psychologically and emotionally, he's not at the same level as you... and that you're taking advantage of that. You probably like the feeling of power, of being able to shape someone, or change them to suit your needs. This is an extremely impressionable age and they're much easier to manipulate. This is what pedophiles find exciting.

I honestly can't imagine the relationship being healthy or positive for either of you. In fact, I had a friend who got into a relationship like that (she was 15 and the guy was 25) and she's still pretty fucked up over it (she's 30 now). So please be aware that you're distorting his psychology forever.

Also please keep in mind that I teach kids that are that age and if I saw a 20 year old woman taking advantage of one of them, I wouldn't hesitate to call the police.