I'm So Fucking Lonely

You will not be lonely if you are content in your own company. The outside people fill only a partial void and it is fleeting.

What is going to make you happy in your own skin? Take some time and find that as then you are not going to feel that way again.

What brings you pleasure and makes you feel complete.........find you.

 

I don't think that's true I'm like fine with myself but after weeks months years of being alone u need someone

 

When you think you need someone, you are going to make a mistake. The need is what you look from rather than seeking from a place where you wish rather than need. There is a difference.

When you find someone to compliment you and you compliment them, it will be what you wish it to be.

 

Right but to desire that and not have it is loneliness

 

To fill that with something that is not real, as in will not make you happy in the long run or not meet who you really are or what you really want does not make that loneliness go away. Sometimes that makes it worse.

It may mask it for a while but it is still there until you are really true to yourself.

So loneliness then becomes something you either accept or work to change. That can be staying where you are or moving on or deeper into why you are lonely.

 

Reminds me of a line from a Madonna song "To have and not to hold" here are the lyrics.


To have and not to hold
So hot, yet so cold
My heart is in your hand
And yet you never stand
Close enough for me to have my way

To love but not to keep
To laugh, not to weep
Your eyes, they go right through
And yet you never do
Anything to make me want to stay

Chorus:

Like a moth to a flame
Only I am to blame
Ba ba da ba ba ba
What can I do?
Ba ba da ba ba ba
I go straight to you
Ba ba da ba ba ba
I've been told
You're to have, not to hold

To look but not to see
To kiss but never be
The object of your desire
I'm walking on a wire
And there's no one at all
To break my fall

(chorus)

You're to have, not to hold
You're to have, not to hold

(chorus)

You're to have, not to hold
You're to have, not to hold
You're to have, not to hold
To break my fall

 

You got it.

 

(I've read this whole thread by the way.) Anwayhoo...

^ That, plus, I can be especially crazy and think that my lonliness and random other people's lonliness keep some kind of insane, unfair balance system in place.

You know there are ugly, stupid, STANK people that have someone! I just don't understand it.

Several years back, I used to perodically run into this other single gal at different bars around here, and I remember us saying, and laughing, how here were 2 of the best looking women there and single. It wasn't because either of us had movie-star-standards, either! BUT...we did have some standards, fgs!

I don't mean to digress...I hate that you are going through all this.

Have you ever had a doctor prescribe you anything like elavil or a type of salt which can make all the differency in the world, I am told...if your body is deficient in that area.

 

I'm pretty lonely a lot of the time.

I interact with family members, and people online, but sometimes that's not enough, since family members may or may not have the desire or the time to delve into the matters most prominent on my heart, even if it's in their interest to do so. Online acquaintances are fun, but relatively few intimate and reliable relationships are possible, with those whom you've never met IRL.

I actually have to supplement family time with time out in the retail sector (i.e.,,"going shopping",,lol), just because I get some pleasant interaction with the store personnel, at the places I frequent. My wife and I have drifted apart, or perhaps it's just that what closeness we have had was mostly strictly sexual, and not psychological, as our interest areas are so disparate. Talking with her about any particular subject on my mind is always risky, because it could be answered with an abrupt "Don't talk to me,,I'm busy", or some other form of brush-off, after which I feel like "WTF??? Why did I marry this woman?". But we've been married 40 years, and bad habits are hard to break.

I really haven't found a consistent community that I'm comfortable with,,a "community of peers". This site may be as close as it gets, so far.

 

Lynn, yeah I definitely need to see a doctor. I'm pretty sure I have a chemical imbalance I have all the symptoms. Also, I hate to admit it but bi-polarness runs in my family At least that's what I used to call it. No one has been officially diagnosed because we have all been way too poor to go to the doctor unless it's life threatening. At the moment I am on a waiting list for a county funded health insurance program...we will see how that goes. But in the meantime idk. My old lady switched jobs recently, but her boss from her other job gave her a guilt trip and talked her into somehow working a few hours after her new job, but she will have weekends off now. I'm hoping that will help things. At least during the week when I'm feeling down I have the weekend to look forward to.

Thanks for all of your kind words. How is everyone else feeling today?

 

the symptoms that that you describe sound a lot like what is described as kidney yang deficiency in chinese medecine.

avoiding sugar, alcohol, coffee, and citrus can help.

there's more I could say about the subject, but I won't mention more unless you show that you are interested

 

Its not how WE FEEL,we are trying to help you


How do YOU feel knowing you have so many who care??