i'm living in an "authoritarian family"

Because they're giving her free room and board and they're not obligated to. And a spoiled little suburbian is the perfect target to get raped and murdered. She has lied, plans to lie again, makes excuses for her performances in math rather than sucking it up... She needs to stay home with mama and daddy rather than trying to be a bad ass.

 

it's awesome that you don't let what your parents do get you upset enough to use words like "hate" in your original post but anyways here's what I want to say:

Call their bluff! Go to whatever you want to go to as long as you keep your schooling in perspective because your parents wont kick you out if you are still pursuing anything school related

 

Yeah, because having and expressing free will is so horrible.

When they had a child, they were immediately obligated to. Did you know that full-time employment for children has been abolished since quite a long time ago in the western world?

Do you have any evidence to support your claim?

Maybe her parents aren't supportive, and instead do like many parents, yell and rage at their children? Maybe that has something to do with it...

She's trying to be a badass (fix'd btw), by trying to get a more private room...? :wheelchair:

 

When this was first posted, a year and a half ago, the only thing the OP needed to be told, was to either shut up and accept it, or stop being a child and move out.

Now though, as she hasn't posted here, or even logged on (at hipforums at all), since May 15th, One could guess that she has either realized this and moved out, or has been grounded forever from the computer and net... So I have to wonder just why people are arguing about what she should do now...

I will admit though, I did get a chuckle at some of the answers... especially one in particular where someone posted the same thing they were told a while back when they whined about their parents...

lol, its nice to see people grow.

 

well, you can always guess

 

and by the way, I don't see how people can go around calling other people spoiled little suburbians... it's pretty rude. i don't even live in the suburbs.

 

Are you still living at home with your parents?

 

no, i moved out
i'm living in a dorm now i still meet them once a week or so, and i still have some of my stuff at home, but i'm enjoying freedom now. and they've loosened up a bit.
but they feel distant, and i can't help but feel it's going to be this way for the rest of our lives. i never really felt close to them. but i realized that they're only doing their job: raising their kids, worrying about them, trying to be good parents.

 

I'd rep you twice for this if I could.

 

She never said she isn't allowed to speak her mind. Just they don't want her doing as she pleases for reasons she, at the time, couldn't understand.

She's a legal adult.

http://www.wsbtv.com/news/18934576/detail.html
http://www.rep-am.com/articles/2010/07/20/news/local/496078.txt
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murders_of_Channon_Christian_and_Christopher_Newsom

Naive middle to upper class folks. Lots of 'em. That's just a few.

;_; Oh no, parents aren't allowed to yell! God forbid they reveal their humanity! (Remember, to all who are reading this, all children are unique and beautiful snowflakes that are not allowed to be criticized no matter what, so you can't say anything mean, you insensitive fucks!)

By running off into the night without telling her parents. Bad ass would be hyphenated, maybe, but definitely two words. Trust me on this. Spell check concurs.

I am glad OP has grown up. How can I call OP spoiled? Simple theory: If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, sounds like a duck, it's a duck. Maybe she lived in an urban or rural area, but it's a classic storyline. I'm simply glad she realizes it now. We don't get to pick how we're brought up. We do get to pick how we deal with it.

 

Congratulations! I'm really happy for you, and things will get better with your parents. Eventually they will miss you. I've gotten to a point in my life where I can only make a very small bit of time for my family every week (about 2-3 hours), and wow...it's so much more peaceful than it was a long time ago when I was living at home. Every now and then we have our disagreements, but we don't let them carry out because we have finally stopped taking each other for granted. But it's a good feeling when you establish an grown-up sort of relationship with your parents.

 

My family is super conservative christians, very strict. So when I moved out at 18, I felt free, it was great, I love my mom she is a sweetie, but the way they run their house, is so against everything I believe in. so way to go, for making the change to get out of that house. I hope it is going well. and YOu have found many new possibilities.

Good luck!! : )