I'm horrible with the ladies

That doesn't surprise me.

 

:cheers2:

 

they look cause you're a cutie!

 

You know what else helps? Being kinda bossy. At work I do really well, because I'll just tell people to do things to get stuff accomplished.

But otherwise it's been kinda hard for me, because I'm naturally a go with the flow kinda cat. It almost feels a bit more forced, and I don't actually want to change my character.

 

It's a little dangerous to play up. I never play up because that sets a precedent and you start getting trapped into that little box.

Or, I should say...I never play up consistently. If I play up (confident ), I play down (vulnerable) soon after so people never figure me out.

It sounds malicious or analytical, but it's not. It's natural to my character. I do not want to be pinned down...by myself.

 

*punches you in the face*:hat:

 

lol!

 

don't be such a pussy and you might get laid

 

Well any attempt to hit on women feels like I'm eventually going to ruin them anyway.

 

It's all very silly, isn't it?

 

What most guys don't get is that attraction is not a choice. If you can get someone to feel awesome positive emotions, they will be attracted to you. Don't get it twisted though, it's more of a curious "I'm fascinated and wanna know more" type of attraction not an "I wanna fuck you now" kind of attraction but, that's all you need to proceed things further. Also, if you lock eyes and she smiles, that's an approach invitation. Green light!

 

I feel like I'm the karate kid of babes when you guys are around. :biggrin:

 

I wave first.

I think what they don't get is that you got to flirt. All these guys talking about approach, approach, approach. Be confident, this and that. Invite her somwheres. Ask her for her number. Strike a conversation. Be interesting. Blah blah blah bleh bleh bleh.

Flirting is better than a confident approach because it puts absolutely no pressure on the interaction.

Then little by little I feel more comfortable and touchy and it's natural to suggest we should do something together, whatever it is.

My advice: don't be confident, be playful. :biggrin:

 

Yup, and that's why the be like a second grader thing is awesome! Playful is always better than serious, too cool for school, or too deep. Get her laughing and teasing back and you'll get her period

 

Italicizing "period" was a good thing to do

 

I can get laid whenever I want. That's not the problem. I have probaably 15 numbers in my contacts I can call for a bootycall if I wanted. The thing is, each of those 15 numbers is a girl I have no interest in and no interest in having sex with. Like I said in an earlier post, I don't need sex and I have no desire in having sex with someone I have...well, no desire in.

Maybe I should clarify the thread a bit. I'm horrible with the ladies in which I have interest. I could go up and talk to a blonde bimbo with fake tits for an easy lay no problem, because I wouldn't be interested in her for more than an hour or two.

Call it being a pussy all you want. I call it dignity.

 

id say your pretty not confident.

practice talking with the ladies, it gets easier the more you do it. they can only say no what do you got to lose anyhow?

 

Ewww.... fatties.

 

Sometimes you have to take one for the team.

 

I kinda know what you mean.



I have a friend who naturally goes for fatties. He can do so much better... but he goes for fatties. I guess he's attracted to the lowest common denominator. At least we can make fun of him, and subtly ridicule the whales he brings over with constant witty fat jokes.

He still gets to stay in Team Satan, but that's only because he's black inside and can't help his need for phat booteh.