cutting most often comes from the abilityto cry being beatten or shamed out of a person..parents hitting a child everytime they cry.. or stop crying like a little baby.. crying is a natural pressure relief valve writting will help if you put your full emotions down on paper, but its not the dsame as allowing yourself to cry & yes i said allowing, you have the abbility everyone has, but you have to allow it to happen again cutters are made to feel being emotional means weakness..& they refuse to ever show even the sightest sign of weakness they could be raped and tortured and never admit to feeling anything fromthe experience..anything that is except the need to cut that doesnt mean the emoptions arent there, or cant be felt..only that theyre minds shove those emotions deep down where they cant affect you (or so u think) but they fester there tearing your mind apart begging to be dealt with, but since u cant even aknowledge they exist u only feel a hollowness cutting therefore is a pain you can understand & deal with but it solves nothing, its like a bandaide on a bullet in the brain only really dealling & feeling the true emotions..recognizing the causes & allowing yourself to feel bad can really permenantly release them lil sis talk to jojo..or talk to me..but talk to someone who understands & can guide you back to emotional health hugs
thats so crazy...i could never cut myself...i hate getting cut.. for all those who are emo...dont be emo life goes on trust me, always know some people have it way harder then u and u feel slightly better, if u have no friends then message me! i can be your friend and ill talk with u im very open
What kind of problems could 13-15 year olds have?They don't pay any bills,they don't work,what is causing so much stress that you cut you're wrist over it?
You know, alot of people look at me, see my scars and I know what they think, that Im only seekin attention. Well, Ive met girls who do only do it for attention. But there are some who do it and people never know, they never tell a soul, its their secret, its the only thing they can control. You never know it, until that person grows out of it, grows out of the shame. I never before pranced around in sleaveless shirts, showing my wounds to the world, as a matter of fact, there was a time when I wore nothing but long sleeves and sweat bands where my best friends... But Im a different person than I was before, and my scars are only stories of the past.
i'd actualyhafta agree with u helter.. not to mention that the very fact that theyre 13-15 hugely increases the chances that they'd be dep[ressed & unable to deal with overwhelming emotional turmoil telling someone whos depressed to just ..get over it..or stop being so emo..is simple ignorance depression is a disease that requires treAtment, its not something you just decide to turn off cause someone told u to get over it and statements like stop being so emo makes a depressed person even more depressed cause it makes them think they should be able to just stop feeling a certain way..so they must be weak or pathetic for alowing the depression to control them but true depressions never able to just be turned off,it requires treatmen, by someone who really understands the causes of the disease
What problems could we have? how about friends that dont even like you. the preassure to fit in SOMEWHERE. feeling loved. parents who CONSTANTLY fight. having a stepmom who treats her dogs better than you. the effects of being beaten as a young child. A sister in a mental hospital. The only person that even cares a little bit being over 1,000 miles away. is that good enought for you? I would fucking hope so.
and thats nothing compared to what many 13-15 year olds have to deal with how manyy have dealt with molestation or rape repeatyedly from very early ages? what aboiut the downright stupidity & cruelty of theyre peers? lets not forget the insensativity of dumbasses who just assume your following some emo fad some of u act like u were never 15... those years were the hardest of my life..& are for so many people
very true. and LOL, it says "dongs" and its supposed to be dogs. I changed it onmine, but its still gonna be l;ike that in the quote.
Okay, I'd like to put my opinions out here. I used to cut, and yeah, when i was 14 i could have gone on and on for hours about how stressful my life was. I'm not going to go into detail, but honestly, the stuff i stress about now, makes the things i stressed about before seem...small. And also, you shouldn't stop an addiction (because really, that's what it is, medically.) just because you can't find a dress with sleeves. There should be more of a reason, because then the results will be more solid. For instance, I quit because someone I cared about very deeply had taken up the habit, and we made a deal "I'll stop if you stop". And even though both of us have gone through some really bad bouts of depression, neither of us has picked up the razorblade since. And yes, there are far healtier ways of dealing with stress. Have you tried talking to a counsilor or psychologist? It helps sometimes, it really does.
yea i agree withya there (oh cute sig critter ya got there btw) the probs of today are bigger then he probs of back then, but at 13-15 your not ptrepared to deal with lifes problems so every lil thing feels much bigger then it really is & yes counceling is the best way to learn to deal withthings but may not always be an option..so finding someone u can tyrust & really talk to who acts like a councelor is an option..so is writting & being your own councelor but then u risk the lack of an objective viewpoint & possibly reinforcing your behavior..especialy if u only write about the behavior & how it feels insted of writtimng about the hidden underlying feelings that caused it
i pretty much agree with everyone on this one except the oh its so emo people, because its just not, unless you prance about in a short sleeve top blatantly showing the world. I used to cut when i was 13-15, and it was the worst roughest time of my life and damnit im never going through that again. now that i look back on it all, it just doesnt make any sense to me now.
that was when you were 13-15? & your 16 now? wow what a difference a year makes youve always seemed to be happy & healthy & well 1 of the beautiful ppl on here..so i'm suprised
it still surprises me how much ive changed this year, and im happy before i had so many self esteem issues but over the summer (helped along by a bit of ganj and meditiation) ive come to realise that we're all insignificant in a universal sense, but special and wonderful as people, and that minor things like that just arnt worth the pain they cause
what was the medication? i do remember reading that cutrers tend to have a low or high level of some hormone or something..& that there was some med that proved helpful in many cases
ahhhh oops lol yea my eyes are blurry..never sleep enough yea that would explain the drastic quick change & all the love & light