I Told my Mom...

Hey, so its not as bad as my OP states anymore.

It had bin a few weeks since I told my mom, and she just had been silent on the issue since I told her, and I was sick of it, so I confronted the issue with her and it was a mixed thing.

She said that "I am never going to lose you" and that it will take her time, but she will learn to deal with it and come to terms with it. She also has loosened her "celibacy!" response she had originally and actually, in a weird way, I think she endorsed gay marriage. She said she wanted me to stick to "no sex before marriage" even if I'm gay...so I can take that to mean, she supports same-sex marriage, no?

I'm happy my mom is applying her sex-morals equally to me, but I'm not realistically going to follow that. But, its almost like your dealing with a little child, you have to let your mom choose to be naive and have the false hop.

My dad still doesn't know, which is okay, I don't have the emotional/mental strength to do it rate now, and neither does my mom...she wants me to hold off on telling him anyways.

So I'm feeling better. Plus, I've lost a lot of weight (I was 185 in January, and I now weigh 160 lbs., not at my goal "appearance" yet, but I'm making some really positive changes both inside and outside), which has given me a boost of confidence lately.

I'm really really happy lately, I'm feeling my life is FINALLY taking a turn, for the better. I'm am dealing with my emotional issues (sexuality) and in only 6 months I've come to accept it and told my brother, mom, and 5 friends. You know how they always say you need to find out who you are, and who you want to be? Coming to terms with the fact I'm gay, has helped a lot with that. I'm truly digging deep, and finding out who I am. I have lost weight, and am making turns their, making more friends. University will be in little over 2 years now.

It feels like, for the first time in my life, I'm close to being "alive". I can't wait until I finally reach my physical body goals (weight, muscle, etc.), get into university, get out of the closet to my dad and everyone else, and finally start the dating/relationship chapter of my life, that I'm so desperate for...(its sad how many mini-fantasy relationships I run through my head, )

 

I am so glad to see it is looking up for you now. It is a shame that because of mass ignorance young gay people have to go thru all this drama just to do what every kid wants to do.


Hope it continues being easier for you. Be prepared for little setbacks as denial comes in waves and ur mother may yet fall to the desire/belief that you will marry a girl and give her grandchildren.

After I lived with a man for five years I asked my mom why she never got upset about it and she said she accepted that he was my roommate. Denial is an effective self-delusional mechanism that blinds people to the obvious. (Jim was my "roommate" in New Orleans, Miami, Pittsburgh and travelled with me to twice to Centro America and twice to India)

 

I am also really content with this!

P.S: Long time no speak, I'm starting to get sad now

 

Canucker, I think it's excellent that you are doing so well. I still haven't come out to my mom, or any of my sisters. My mother and father would be fine with it. I think my mom might even know, she hinted to the fact that I might not be into women when she said, "When you marry a gir.... or some significant other," which is what she often unintentionally refers to gay couples as. My oldest sister would "disown" me, according to her, my other older sister would be fine with it, although she is slightly homophobic, and my youngest sister.... I dunno about that one, she's one strange little "it." Hehe. I've told most of my friends, all of whom are perfectly fine with it. After I came out, I exited a depressed state of being and started actually opening up to people and being my true self. Being closeted is a terrible thing, and even though I'm still partially in it, I love having other people know that I'm gay. Though I can't really have many open relationships I see some things written in my future. For the whole sex part of your life, it's probably best that you keep your mother in the dark, just don't lead her on to believe that you are having sex, and always use protection, lol, just don't let her find that protection. I congratulate you on your accomplishment of coming out of the closet to your family and five friends, and the loss of some weight! I hope that your life improves and you can live a happy life as a gay guy.

^_^

 

aww i wish u were here so i can hug you!

dont worry itll pass..

 

dsavdss

 

hi where u

 

Oh...it's okay. I think some Christians may have a bit of trouble accepting this because of the bible *I'm Jewish* but you did the right thing. *APPLAUDS*

 

oh my gosh i cant believe it....u hav done something i cannot and will never do....gratz dude, i'm too much a coward...i feel 4 u man n i hope it all works out 4 u!

 

where u now

 

that was hilarious

 

*hug*
dont feel ashamed of yourself.
My advice?
move to LA they are sooo accepting of gays
Your Mom?
SHe'll come around
((read title for more advice))
hug*[again:]

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As soon as my mom suggested celibacy or councilling I would have been incredibly offended. I'd have probably gotten up and walked straight out of the house! Luckily my family have the sense to be Athiests and so they don't feel the urge to judge people based on views that are nearly 2000 years old