I saw a documentary once on human sexuality (I'd site it if I could remember the title) in which a psychologist said something like: "To say that there are only two sexual orientations, gay and straight, is Ridiculous. To say that there are only three, gay, straight, and bi-sexual is slightly less ridiculous. To say that there are four; gay, straight, bi, and transgendered, is slightly less ridiculous. And so on... The truth is that there are as many different sexual orientations as there are people on the planet." Now, maybe you have a point when you say that we're not really all THAT unique. But come on. Only 3 options? I usually call myself bi, because I like to have sex with both men and women. But I know that a lot of people would say that I'm not really Bi, because I only have relationships with women. So, am I hetero-amorous, but bi-sexual? If romantic relationships are the important factor, then look at polyamorous people, who organize themselves into Triads, Quads, etc., in which some relationships are primary, some secondary, and some non-existent. Plus, there ARE asexual people out there, as well as pedophiles, zoophiles, necrophiles, furries, etc... I'm just saying that this issue is complex, and the broad categories are just that, broad. And everyone's sexuality manifests itself differently. I would agree with The Mistress' suggestion to the OP. Don't worry about whether you ARE bi or not, or whether its a phase that will pass. Just enjoy what you enjoy for however long you still enjoy it. ~Ian
lol. i'm fully aware of the Kinsey scale. have you actually seen the thing or are you just quoting 3rd person opinions here? because Kinsey scale rates people's sexuality from 0-6. 0 being exclusively heterosexual and 6 being exclusively homosexual. categories 1-5 describe bisexuality. so Kinsey scale can still be represented with 3 categories: heterosexual, bisexual, and homosexual. furthermore, Kinsey scale pertains to sexual behavior, not sexuality per se. therefore, some heterosexual guys fall under bisexuality on his scale, as do all the homosexual guys that have had sex with females. any male who ever experimented with another guy is automatically 'bisexual' on his scale. as are all the gay guys who, while struggling to accept their attraction to males, ever had sex with females. however, many of those young boys that experimented with their friends in their youth never felt actual sexual attraction to guys, it was just physical release. and thus they are not bisexual, even though on Kinsey scale they fall under bisexuality. likewise with gay guys who have had sex with females for one reason or another; once they 'came out' and accepted themselves all that ceased, sex with women ceased and they identified themselves as 'homosexual'. and those sexual encounters with females does not make them bisexual, even though on Kinsey scale they most certainly fall under some level on bisexuality. and i am fully aware of the complexities of human sexuality. but sexual orientation is clearly categorizable. the psychologist who said there are as many sexual orientations as there are people on this planet was obviously out of his mind on that one. a lot of people have said a lot of stuff; does that mean we should take anything anyone has ever said as infallible truth? of course not, and we don't. and don't try to wiggle the zoophilia or pedophilia and the like into the argument and say sexuality is so complex and undefinable based on their example. we are talking about human beings being sexually attracted to other human beings here, those behaviors are clear deviations from this norm. and, yes, of course, deviations from the norm exist in everything. but just like it would be ridiculous to abolish gender solely because there exists a phenomenon of transsexuality, it is just as ridiculous to abolish sexual orientation just because there are some people that think they don't fit in those boxes. if you don't like to be in that box, then that's you, that doesn't abolish physics.
Well, I can see that neither of us is going to convince the other on this one. And I can see your thinking. If the only definition you're willing to accept for sexual orientation is based on gender, and we only have two genders to choose from, then there are only three possibilities. That's happy and concrete, and is probably really helpful when examining trends within a population. I'm just not sure its as helpful to the individual (or the OP). To the OP, all I'm saying is that there is a vast and diverse landscape of sexuality out there that can be explored. And if you're worried about how you 'should' be behaving based on which 'box' you think you fit into, you're going to miss some experiences that could be rich and fulfilling. So, do some exploring. Don't be afraid to discover new things about yourself. And when you have a handle on who you are and what you enjoy, you can decide if it's helpful to think of yourself as belonging to a specific category.
only u can know 4 sure, but remember only 1 life... enjoy it to the max I think I'm lesbian inside idk... to be honest I'm a bit confused too ; everything started with a fantasy a couple of years ago...with partner(girl) and a starp on... but long story short, now I like felling like a girl, I like taking the submissive role, I have fantasies that I'm some type of school girl and I get fucked... as a open relationship couple she enjoy it too a lot (I have lingerie, bra's, dresses hahaha...) But now many many times I fell more identify like a girl attracted to others girls. I don't fell attracted to guys whatsoever, but I do have fantasies that I'm a girl and I'm getting fcked or I'm making out w another girl when I go out I check out other girls, not guys, but I don't think DAMN she is so hot I wanna fuck her like most guys will think... I think like if I was her btw I had 1 sexual encounter with a guy years ago(experimenting)... I did not like it. it felt strange, guilt and un-natural idk did not enjoy it at all I love women! they are beauty in the purest form... I'm sure if I was a girl I be lesbian 100%
skinny.jeans, I'm sorry, no offence. I think when I was writing that, I was trying to make a clear concept of being in a bi or straight relationship. Like black and white. Now that I have had time to think it over, I've come to the conclusion that it shouldn't be as big a deal as some judgmental people make it out to be (again no offence). What I mean is who cares if someone likes guys, girls or both? as plur4all said "only 1 life... enjoy it to the max". great advice
