I need sex but I feel bad ... when.

You're so very right. I won't pretend I'm not working things through, myself. Especially since my needs have changed as I grow older.

I won't lay blame on all women for my hatred (though I may joke about it).

But I also know I can't work these things out intellectually, and it's going to take satisfying relationships with women to change my feelings about them.

What I'm trying to do now is remain aware that my "hatred" is nothing other than the need for validation; something I can only give myself.

And at the same time keep an open heart to new relationships with women which will be different from the manipulative or co-dependent ones I've had in the past.

Cheers.

 

man maybe it shouldnt be that important. focus on other things...

 

If you're doing something and feel bad about it... stop doing it. What kinda question is that?

I for one don't see anything particularly wrong with seeing a prostitute. I kinda feel it's beneath me, but I'm a snob, and you shouldn't make your decisions on my opinion. I think the problem for you is that it's become habitual.

So either knock it off, stop buying women, invest that money into something you'd enjoy like a boat, start taking care of yourself and learning to appreciate yourself. The reason your not attracting women is because you think you have nothing to offer them, which you make true through your lifestyle.

But maybe you're a rich nuanced sensitive guy on the inside who just needs some polishing. I don't know you. Invest in yourself. I'm not talking about the money really. Just your attention. Then spend some time learning how to talk with women, and you'll probably meet someone special.

Either that or be content with being a John and stop wallowing in self pity... maybe start taking care of yourself anyway.

Also, 40 KM in one run? Was that a typo? That's a marathon.

 

dude, lode, it IS beneath you because you're freaking hot. ugly guys have a harder time.

 

Yeah, we ugly guys need the h00k pussy.

 

Handsome or ugly, only losers go to hookers. Winners pick up skanks on craigslist.com. bang them silly and never call them again.

Join the winning team, LoserGeorge.

 

but with that...a "normal" girl could lie about being clean too

 

Why does everyone keep bringing up HIV? The odds of contracting HIV with a condom worn properly are in the neighborhood of 1/100,000,000. He's honestly probably much more likely to be beaten to death by a jilted ex lover by seducing girls who aren't whores.

And thanks KC. :biggrin: Honestly I have no moral problems with prostitution. But I think even if women don't find you handsome, you probably have something to offer if you work at it.

 

i'm sure you can find someone to fuck without paying them.

 

Impossible. Unless you mean men-sexin'. :cheers2:

 

It's hard to do, but you need to stop visiting hookers and start bettering yourself. Even if you aren't overweight, you need to start exercising regularly. It's obvious that you have some self-esteem issues and working on your body can really help with that. Also, you'd be surprised how quickly people start to notice you when you gain muscle. You might think other people are shallow for being attracted to your physical features before you personality, but everyone is like that. Including you.
You also should work on your inner self. Get a hobby that you enjoy. I love to paint and make music, and you might too, but maybe you like other things. Women are attracted to men who do things with their lives and create things with their minds. They are also attracted to men who invest time in sports, or anything else really. The important thing is to spend your time constructively and make sure that people can see the results (but don't be needy or pushy with it). This will help with your self esteem issues too.

 

Your guilt is there for a reason. Have you ever thought it is there to tell you you have betrayed yourSELF? You seem to have spent a long time trying to justify why it is ok for the women. What about you?

I doubt your weight has anything to do with women not being interested. Id say it was more your attitude...and the fact youre the kind of man who goes to prostitutes to "slap some ass". Nice. Its hardly partner material, is it?

 

I wouldn't ponder it that intensely George... certainly there is no reason to ever feel you have betrayed yourself. Prostitution is just an outlet, has been there through history, and the sale of sex will be around forever.

You shouldn't be so down on yourself. Someone will come around eventually... but daamn $300? That must be some good pussy:sifone:

And verseau, show me a man who wouldn't "slap some ass" and ill show you a fucking leprechaun.

 

Not sure I believe that. I've had sex with about 20 women, most of which were girlfriends. If your goal is only to have sex, believe me women will know that when you're interacting with them.

 

Haha. Sorry, just had to laugh. Not because it's not true but because it is.

 

I've known some pretty immature 40-somethings. I suggest you give the age thing a rest son.

 

Are you serious? You find slutty females more of a turn on than innocent ones?
Wow.

 

I must be a rarity then, because I haven't seen any drop yet, Daily sex - with someone I'm in love with is my preferred pace.

 

To me that's just weird. I could never have sex with someone I hated, let alone merely disliked.

 

Don't forget anything you can catch through intercourse you can catch through oral sex.

Easy sport, generalizing any group is bad manners.

Are you intentionally trying to alienate people?