I need love!

Perhaps, another thought, her AND her BF are both super ugly AND gay. Atleast if they were both cute then they would tolerate the sex with each other. But because there is no spark to speak of, I can only conclude that they are just a couple of mirror breaking gaybies!

 

i have to ask, if he's afraid to get his hands dirty does he not jack himself off either? i realize there's a difference between your own juices and someone else's but if he's not afraid to get his cum on his hands i don't see why he would be so afraid to get your cum on his hands (since i assume he loves you and is attracted to you)... i guess manual isn't what you're worried about so much though? for being afraid of giving oral, i would go with what the other ladies said and suggest dental dams and such, and ensure him that you will tell him what you like and will be supportive of any attempt he makes and all that...

i am surprised that he hasn't done any of that in two years though, and if this response is unwanted then i apologize.

 

I think you should let this so-called "boyfriend" be among the many guys who don't have a girlfriend. What the fuck good is he? Why are you with him? He obviously is not at all interested in being good TO YOU. Let him find a girl who DOESN'T WANT the things that he doesn't like to do, and you should find someone you are a better match with. If you like to be fingered and eaten, then you should find someone who likes to do that. Not someone who dislikes it and refuses to do it. Not someone who does it just because you want it. I mean someone who LIKES to do it. We ARE out here, you know.

But sticking with a guy who doesn't like the things you like is nonsense. He is not going to just up and change and suddenly be into it. So you'll never get what you want; maybe he might relent and do it once in a while, but you'll get it grudgingly and he won't be happy about it, so neither will you be.

Staying with him makes as much sense as if I were to get a girlfriend who didn't like long hair on guys, hated the idea that someone would skydive, and thought her feet were too ugly for a guy to pay attention to. It would be reasonable to question why I bothered being with such a girl.

Start over; find a more suitable guy. This guy doesn't deserve a girlfriend.

-Jeffrey

 

All of this is completely how I feel about it. Very true. Great post, Michael!

-Jeffrey

 

This thread is wreaking of gayness!

 

Well, i'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you wouldn't be with someone who is selfish.

So, perhaps he's afraid to do either of those things because he's insecure about his skill, or lack of skill.

If this is the case i'd guide him through it but do so discretely - If you like something give a little moan or some indicate, maybe even say "I like that" or "Keep doing that", etc. until he's confident about it...

Goodluck!

 

that's really messed up
I'm sorry.

 

an Ohio girl would never let this happen would they twiztid

 

wtf are dental dams?

 

basically a sheet of plastic you put over a woman in order to eat her out. it's good to keep from getting her juices (and thus the risk of std's) in your mouth. they taught us this in health/sex ed back in hawaii.

 

Forget about what you do sexually with your current bf. Don't have any more sex with him. He's so selfish that you should dump him and get a more caring, thoughtful, giving bf. Good luck.

 

AMEN!

-Jeffrey

 

I have always thought that if you need a dental dam to go down on your woman, you don't belong eating out that particular woman. Shouldn't you know the woman well enough to know you aren't going to be exposed to STDs?

On the other hand, if you're involved with someone who you both know has an STD and you are in love and want to be together, I guess it makes sense to use a dental dam just to prevent spreading the disease.

But I don't see using a dental dam to be "protected" from someone you don't know, just in case they should have a disease. I would just not go down on her.

-Jeffrey

 

Yes indeed, beautifully put, Michael.

Is your boyfriend religious at all? Like maybe of some very conservative, strict faith? He might be more of a purist or something, where he thinks that anything other than straightforward-missionary-position type sex is wrong?? Maybe??

 

Probably not since he's not opposed to her giving him head... honestly I bet he's just unsure and nervous. With a little guidance and support, I'm sure she could get him to be more generous with the lovin, honestly. Not everyone is really good at just jumping in with both feet.

 

exactly.... I think they were invented primarily to deal with herpes outbreaks, but if it's a step forward than not touching her at all, I figure it's a good thing.

 

I say leave him, any guy that doest want to finger or eat a girl is either gay or stoopid. And even if you convince him to, it wont be good cause its not something he will want to do. You need to find a guy that loves to get a girl off. That should be the most important thing to a guy when in bed with a girl-TO GET HER OFF!

 

Does it smell? Is it shaved? Did you have sexual partners., becuse i wouldn't go down if it was like that either. But if it isn't like any of them grab his ears and make him go the hell down there.

 

Try to be a little more assertive. He may need to be dictated to.
perhaps cursed at.

Its important that this be in the right sequence in foreplay.

Inform him that you require some preparation.