I just LOVE men....

lol -_- i know, but not being in college makes me feel like i'm not. especially since i JUST finished highschool.

and when i think college, i think ages 21 - 24 lol

 

My man! Hold nothing back, man. Let 'em know how you really feel!

 

.....whatever.

 

Don't listen to them, sweetheart, you can wax off here anytime.

 

k.. uh, i grew up in the 90's and i dont know what wax on and wax off means.. lol

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IlQOmO44_bA

 

It's kinda weird. The generation gap.

The other night I was having dinner with 2 young American volunteers and I made a reference to Carl Lewis. And they had not got a clue who I was talking about.

They hadn't even been born when he won all his golds. It stunned me.

 

Just so you understand, Cate, it's not a snub.

It's just that men in his position do not need WOMEN FRIENDS or expressions of friendship.

They need women affectionate partners and male friends.

It's really no harm intended.

 

hey, i actually went to the trouble of looking up how to wink in my post, just so it wouldn't be taken the wrong way..


although this does further my point... as soon as i mention the concept of myself as a sexual being, the conversation takes a downhill turn

 

Not at all. It was just a really poor choice of words.

 

oh sorry...

 

Im sorry too. *hugs* No hard feelings, K?

 

Alright, bare with me. I can only explain it riddled with metaphor.

Gung Fu, (which is intself a meaningless term... It means any skill. A good chef posses kung fu) is the art of mastering conflict.

Conflict is important, because it drives every aspect of human interactions. Every aspect. Read Machiavelli, or I could discuss this aspect more.

Gung Fu, is a metaphor for conflict.

The first stage of this is wasting your energy, pressing against your opponent. In the metaphor of dating, your opponent would be a woman. You waste your energy recklessly trying to impress.

Or avoding it all together, which is some peoples attitude toward conflict. And babes.

The second stage of mastering conflict, is seeing your opponents fists and yours, and what will happen between them.

With our metaphor, this is the stage even most solid relationships are in. It's a stage of constant conflict. Sometimes they can work it out, because their love is so strong, sometimes it doesn't work out.

The final stage of conflict, is to have such a deep understanding of conflcit that your fists disappear completly. And only peace remains.

In relationships, this would be a point where you're only concern would be the well being of the relationship, because your knowledge of conflict would be so deep, that your only concern is to resolve the conflict.

How can only peace remain when I said that conflict was the nature of relationships? It sounds like I'm just suggesting rolling over for her or something right? ....

 

omg, i watched that movie before..

 

and now i know how to do strange things like this and this

 

But that's not what I'm suggesting at all. I'm reminded of a story of a monk and a student in Tibet.

The student was studying Metta. Metta is a buddhist term meaning loving kindness.

The student was robbed in Tibet. The teacher asked why she didn't defend herself. The student asked the teacher, curious that it would violate these rules of loving kindness.

The teaher resonded, "I would have lovingly hit him in the head with my cane."

That teacher, through years of deep meditation, had also mastered conflict.

Being this passive in relationships doesn't mean you're going to role over and be a doormat. It's the opposite. You're so comfortable with this person, that these differences resolve through time and compassion.

The difference between steps two and three of conflict, is that in step two, whilst you're trying to resolve this conflict to become right, in step three, you're trying to resolve this conflict best for all parties, so that only peace remains.

Now, understanding the connection between conflict and relationships, seems esoteric. That's a given. It's a great mystery that takes years of dedication and commitment to even begin to understand.

But once you're ready to work with this, you're dedication and compassion will engulf every other aspect of your life, and will begin to affect everyone around you.

Kung Fu is spirituality my friend. And Jet Li's god.

 

Jet Li taught me that.

 

:sombrero: :sombrero:

 

meow.