i dont know what to do about my g-ma

Yeah, I'm wondering the same thing as Cate...

 

no one talks to our mom any more and my father works from 10am to 11pm everyday. Its not so much the money issue but seeing my grandma in that state. I hate how she tell me she wants to die, and i hate hearing her cry. I cant deal with it, and im being kicked out of my house because i choose not to go take care of her for two more days. im also not going to college anymore because of this. My two friends say to tuff it out, but they dont understand what it is like. They arent in the same situation and its gotten bad for me. I tried to get away from negitive people and my grandma is negative by her being sick but she cant fix that. she is dying so she cant all of sudden stop. I give up on my family. I have one week to find a new place and 300 $ to my name. I can shower at the gym I signed up for so alls i need is a place to sleep and some means of transportation...i can take the bus or something. Whatever. Ill do it on my own without anyone helping me. I have 1 year and a half until i come into money from my grandpa and its enough to get started.

 

Seriously your willing to be kicked out of your house over two more days?

Tuff it out geeze.

 

i came today and i will come tomorrow. i wont be here for my family anymore though. if they are willing to black mail me to give them help with what they want, im not going to be a part of it. Fuck them, seriously. I told them I was uncomfortable with the situation.

 

hey, i can understand you
i also would feel that irritated....

but think....only two more days for you granny, you are doing a kind thing to be near her and help her...this kindness will come back to ya one day when ya need it most

so dont feel bad about this
money come and go...if ya granny go, you might feel guilty you havent cared about her better...

 

Thats the thing though, your brothers right. You shouldn't have to be blackmailed into helping your family out. Thats really lame. You should do it because its the right thing to do.

 

Some people here are a bit harsh I think. It's very hard to deal with an incontinent, ill, depressed grandmother that sees no joy in life, let alone to take care of her if you're just on your own. I don't have any real advise to offer I'm afraid, I just hope for you and your granny you can do it for two more days! :cheers2:
I really despise the idea of retirement homes, my grandparents hated it there as well. I fully understand the complaints of both children and the old people about the caretaking, it just sucks to spend your last days being cared of by your family while you can notice they don't do it with joy or in an retirement home without seeing your family ever again, being bored to death. I don't want to spend my last days either way like that. Wouldn't hold a grudge against my grandchildren neither though.

 

Oh, please.

 

Im definitely over reacting. After my two best friends who dont like each other both agreed that i was being a baby and its only a couple days, i realize how stupid i am. I've been very moody lately and i feel bad for making this thread but thank you everone who gave me advice. I appreciate everything even the harsh comments. You opened my eyes up and i should be able to help out my brother.

In the back of my head though, i wont forgive him for black mailing me because thats the way my family works to get what they want. if someone doesnt do someone a favor, blackmail is the way to get what you want. I like to think i dont black mail my family as much as they do so from now on, i wll be nice to them until i move out and do my own thing. it will be easier for them and give me a place to live. but really, thank you everyone. Im a baby.

 

You would be glad to put your grandmother in a retirement home and feel no guild at all?

 

I'll wait until I'm in a similar situation and see.

I was quoting because there's no such thing as 'the right thing'.

 

Tsk, you're not since you are still putting your shoulders under it!

 

family is very very frustrating

 

Isn't it..

 

Especially old familymembers that just want to die because they're ill and the sad fact they know they only cause inconvenience.
I would have the same thoughts that you have posted in this thread..

 

I'm sorry, I was a bit harsh today I've had a awful morning. But I'm glad that your understanding the situation from a different point of view

 

I am going to stay as healthy and active as possible so I can wipe my own ass right up to the end...

I will say, though, that my grandmother had to watch her mother go through Alzheimer's, and told her own kids to just put her in a home if it ever happened to her, because it is too hard and she would not know anything anyway. She did get Alzheimer's, but died before it got too bad.
If I get that way myself, I don't want my children resenting me or to be a burden worse than a newborn on them. All I ask is that they make sure I am treated well.

 

Today was my last day and he gave me a check for 385 dollars. i didnt think he was going to do that. I feel really bad taking the money but he said to take it and cash it. I felt really sick the whole day and im still freakin sick. My grandma is good for now and her nurse comes back on monday.