I have always felt feminine and had personality traits that I recently, after extensive self examination, discovered are feminine. I have always thought my body was not all the way masculine like I was part female. I was born with and have a penis but feel like I am not a man (or woman) and can pass as either depending on how I present myself. I decided to explore my life and feelings and think I am a trans woman. I like my penis but I take hormones to make me more feminine. I’m growing breasts and gaining curves and I love it. I love going out in public as a woman and being treated accordingly. I don’t take testosterone blockers but I am contemplating it. My penis still works and sex has never been better. I love being with men who see me and treat me as a woman. Never in my life have I ever felt so physically and emotionally complete.
For years it was absolutely polluted by pornography. People online fetishized me and wanted to use me for sex because I was a novelty. But after divorcing my wife I decided to remain celibate and luckily my sex drive slowed. During this time I extensively examined myself. I have always had feminine personality traits as opposed to masculine ones. I always found myself saying this is what a man is supposed to do or act. It’s like I’m actually acting to make my behaviors match my outward appearance. When I’m able to I can spend days at a time living as a woman and it’s just natural I’m not pretending and just being myself. At first it was very arousing but when I found a friend that only sees me as a woman and recognizes my feminine traits. I am a woman with a penis it doesn’t matter how I’m dressed and I want to take it a little farther. I’ve always hated body hair and my skin and want to see what having less testosterone would be like and make my body even more feminine. At this point having an erection is not that important and I really only want sex rarely and in the rare case I do have sex sometimes I lose my erection or don’t even get one anyway and it’s almost inconsequential to how I now make love. When I am intimate with someone what I’m looking for is actually being held and kissed and snuggled by someone who sees me as a woman and that does far more for me than an orgasm. Feeling secure in a mans arms with my head on his chest is the best feeling I’ve ever had except when my son was born.
Thinking back to when I was a child I played Barbie with some of the girls and wanted to wear their dresses and would pick out girl things and wanted earrings and jewelry sets that were undeniably feminine. Then I started to cover it up and act the way I was ‘supposed to’. I’m definitely attracted to women but also always wanted to be one.
I was totally fixated on female anatomy when I was young! I didn't have Barbie - definitely didn't play with Cabbage Patch Kids (remember Garbage Pail Kids cards?). I had a fascination with Wonder Woman! I guess I thought she was hot, but I didn't really know how to express that... So many times I would pretend to be wonder woman playing with my friend from the neighborhood (think southern California 3 bedroom housing tract...). I also had Scarlet, the G.I. Joe action figure. Oh wow! I was sooo into Scarlet! I wanted that figure to have a p****!
I was fixated on breasts and having them and now I have some and it’s everything I dreamed it would be. I also loved Wonder Woman and watched it religiously after school because I wanted to look like her but also had a feeling that one day her boobs would pop out and I was not gonna miss that lol i was also fascinated and still am with sigourney weaver. I love her and her wardrobe and that’s how I picture myself. Her portrayal as a warrior in alien and her elegance her personality everything about her is me. At least what she shows she could be the absolute opposite behind closed doors.
I always dreamed of being a girl and wearing nice dresses. But I knew that I wasn't allowed to talk about that kind of stuff, so I didn't. There were all kinds of signs along the way, in terms of styles and interests, but I learned pretty well to suppress all that. It took me a long time to realize that that was my true nature. I have always been attracted to women and somewhat repulsed by men. That is actually pretty common. I know way more trans lesbians than straight trans women.
I just wanted to add something about my lovely bestie Pretty Toni. We are very close friends. I chat girly chat, it is natural. So of course to me, she is NO different to any of my female friends.
Thank you for sharing I am attracted to any gender I say I’m pansexual. I am repulsed by most of my male friends like in regards to they always talk about fighting and bragging about this and that and felt I have more in common with women as friends because I never meet their expectations of masculinity and I’ve never met a woman who likes feminine men or trans women, but being held by a strong man and feeling protected like is for me out of this world.
I’ve known I was different very early in my life. Always loved woman’s bras and panties. And even having an same sex encounter in my college years but mainly being a typical guy with many sexual encounters with woman. In my 50s I still wear woman’s clothes and my mind is always over sexually racing. Recently I’ve accepted my bisexuality but have started oddly wanting more. I’ve been using nipple and breast suction with great results wanting and feeling more feminine. I wear lingerie any chance I get. Can’t call myself trans. But I like the idea of being so open sexually. Good luck in your new found joy also.
I am glad that you have some more clarity about yourself. Being trans is not primarily about sex. So things that make you feel sexy do not necessarily mean anything when it comes to gender identity. Being trans is more about who you are. If you feel that you are really a woman in a man's body or a man in a woman's body, then you are trans. If you like to dress up, more power to you, but that doesn't mean that you are trans. I am happy to see that you realize this. We need more people who understand this.
Yes. Understood. I just feel so alive being feminine. Past the clothing of it all. I have these deep seated feelings inside of being seen and looked at like a woman along with my actions. It’s like a awakening of sorts. I don’t want to define myself as something yet but I’m much past just dressing feminine
Well that is sounding a bit like you might be trans after all. If you want to explore that, one of the best things you can do is to talk to a gender therapist.. Even if you don't have any long-term transition goals, talking to a therapist can help you understand how gender fits into who you are.