I completely screwed up my first time.

I hope you are right Cobe.
Anyway, let us know when you get back, and tell us how it went.

 

Do what you want, I hate it when people start to preach. You are old enough to make a sensible decision.

 

Well I'm back, and it was perfectly fine, like I expected. The only thing that went wrong was a bunch of homophobes trying to pick a fight with us on the third night, but other than that, it was perfect

 

Buy some anal ease lube. It numbs your ass a little so it wont hurt. Also tell him to try fingering your asshole first before ramming his dick in. You have to relax your muscles first and ease it in.

 

Pleased To Hear It......*but you left out the naughty bits*...



Cheers Glen.

 

Well, glad your still with us. I know a lot of us got on your ass about this, but at your age kids often forget one important thing;
Some shit only has to happen once to fuck you up for life or end it all together.

 

Yeah, he's not going to listen to you.

By the sounds of it, 15, not living with the parents and already hanging out with adults of his kind, his instincts are no doubt sharper than yours, and most up to 4 times his age.

As a gay teen, all of the unpleasantness of any flavour I encountered always came from straights, there is a certain level of mistrust that develops even before 15.

I already knew by 7 years old there were certain things I couldnt talk about with my dad because I knew he was clueless about girls and I knew why, couldnt talk to mum cos I knew she wasnt one of those girls.

Then at 12 had half the adult male population looking at me funny, then around the OPs age had my mum saying stuff like its just a phase - didnt make sense, ok if its a phase I'm going through, then when are THEY going to stop looking at me like that, from my perspective made it seem mum was part of the conspiracy, hence the mistrust towards her or anyone else claiming it was a phase

And its something that never ends, 2 days ago I got from a 22 yr old female who knows me and my partner "You need a girlfriend, so you have someone to care for, so you care about your life" which was said to the only guy that turned up to her little get together, and in angry way with arms crossed

 

What Did You Do, To Make Them "LOOK AT YOU LIKE THAT"....?



Cheers Glen.

 

A nice big smile, flutter my pretty eyes, back then cos I wanted to be a doctor, asked if I could practise the Heimlich on them

 

Hrm well you guys were half right... Since we got back he's been ignoring me. I saw him out last night and he acted like I wasn't there for the first few hours and then I went over and hugged him and tried to kiss him, he moved his head away so I was just kissing the side of his face and then he pushed me away and walked off, and I didn't see him for the rest of the night.

So I'm guessing he was either using me or there's something else I don't know about... But being used doesn't seem very unlikely.

I'm pretty upset but I guess at least there's always the next guy. And hopefully the next guy won't turn out to be a tool.

 

Yeah, maybe you should go get screened. You had (I'm assuming) lots of sex at this getaway and now suddenly he wants nothing to do with you. It may just be nothing, but who knows, he could've given you something.

 

We only had sex twice, and we used condoms. Even though obviously condoms aren't going to prevent everything, the chances are clearly pretty slim but I'm not stupid and if anything appears out of the ordinary then I'll go get checked out or whatever

 

A few tips from someone who will be a nurse, then I'll tell you what I'd tell a friend:

1) I am sure you're trying to have him enter you while you're face down. That is the most difficult, painful way. Try the missionary position. It should feel like a lot of pressure, but it shouldn't hurt.

2) There is no such thing as too much lube when it comes to anal.

3) Foreplay is very important. Try having him place a finger, then two, and try to relax. You can give him a handjob to keep him excited if you feel like you're "waiting too long."

4) You simply may not like anal sex. That's okay, too. Lots of gay men don't.

Now, friend advice:

1) Don't have sex with someone who isn't responsive/considerate of your pain. Lots of people will be. You don't have to settle.

2) Given your past with this guy, do you really want to be stuck with him for an extended time?

 

=/ He came over today and said we should stop speaking to each other because he's found someone else and he doesn't want them to know about me. He said we can't keep in contact anymore. I'm really upset.
Oh well. I guess that's the end of that and you guys don't have to worry about anything anymore.

 

found out how old you are, didn't he?

 

Of course we do, if you're too dumb to worry for yourself.

That's how groups work.

 

Haha, we care about you, even though you are being a dumbass .

 

Errr, if you hadnt noticed, he didnt seem to be listening, in fact got offended at one stage about the age thing.

This guy is 15 and getting into clubs, and the older guy seemingly initially couldnt pick he was underage, means he most likely looks bigger and or older than your average 15 year old.

The advise from "The Group" so far has sounded like you are all talking to a 15 year old girl, when its quite possible you are all talking to a guy who at 15 makes most guys nervous and who by 25 will scare the crap out of them.

He starts a thread basically just about "Fuck, first time anal, why did it hurt so much?" and he gets a lecture on stranger danger when he's worried he's going to get dumped if the other guy finds out he is underage, and you call him the dumb one.

 

If you think I'm so dumb, how come you just replied essentially "that isn't what he was asking", when I can simply read the OP, and see what he was asking?

I don't care what he wanted to hear; I can tell him whatever I like - that's how communication works!!


I didn't say shit about stranger danger, I don't care what the rest of the group has had to say (if they all disagreed or if I'm just echoing them), I was just telling him that his behavior overall is reckless and thoughtless and dangerous -- if he doesn't care, so be it.

 

No this is a mixture of projecting their fears, thoughts and even desires onto him and his friend. Older guy must be a murderer cos they understand fighting back the desire to strangle a faggy little 15 year old. Older guy must be a rapist cos they understand the desire to humiliate a faggy little 15 year old. Older guy must be a pedophile, better to make out the gay guy's more likely to be a pedo than them

Notice how the girls that responded gave advice on anal and left it at that.

The truth about the world:
Rape victims are far more likely to have known the perp
Pedo is far more likely to come from immediate family than anywhere else
The OP is going to go through life more cautious of this lot and those like them than his recent fling

Someone mentioned Dahmer, who from memory, killed his first victim while still living with his parents......such controlled rage and anger....I wonder where that came from


Stranger Danger, sure, a caution here and there, but when its frothing at the mouth like this, just gets retranslated by the OP and myself as something else