i cheated.

Hell,quit beating yourself up so much. Everyone makes mistakes. Take this as a learning experience and cut back on the drinking when you're around people that will take advantage of you. You of course share some of the blame---alcohol is a bad fucken drug --believe me--I know. Just get yourself together,move on and be a better person for YOU. Not someone you've known for a week. I don't know old you are, but maybe it's time to grow up some.

 

i'm 20.

i dont really drink at all unless im around him, so yeah i definitely learned to keep that a habit...

 

Well,I read your other post and if you consider yourself as having had a threesome--then you're probably not ready for a steady guy at this time anyway.My 2 cents.

 

well yeah, i mean ive been really all over the place this past year especially, i mean i really dont like sleeping around, it makes me feel like shit but i do it anyway. i thought that dating someone would be good for me, and im really happy in the relationship and really want it to work out. i'd rather settle down with someone then just fuck a different person every weekend. but i guess i fucked that up.

 

Well,if you like to fuck lots of people,then carry on,but don't put some guy that may like you thru some heartache over it. I'd say wait 'till you're over that phase in your life to settle in with one person. You need to realize what your needs really are.

 

im tired of that phase, i want to settle down with one person. yeah, maybe my actions the other night disproved that, but like i said, i didnt enjoy it at all, and if i wasnt dating i still wouldnt have enjoyed it (i dont enjoy like 80% of the random hook ups that happen when im drunk)

 

There is nothing wrong with sleeping with multiple people, whether in or out of a relationship... when it is honest.

The problem here is the cheating and lying.

 

When was the last time you hooked up under no alcohol or drug influence? And why do you think you don`t enjoy it? Why would you do it, if you didn`t enjoy it?

Sorry, don`t mean to give you the third-degree. :2thumbsup:

 

thats ok. i mean not including my boyfriend, the last time i hooked up with anyone completely sober was.... sometime in february i think, and i'd had a couple glasses of wine earlier that night.

i dont know why i do it, i dont enjoy it because its so meaningless and at the time its fun but the next day i just feel like shit. i just make really bad decisions when im drunk/i cant say no to anyone..

 

If I were you--I'd quit drinking. See what happens to your mentality then. You pretty much sound like you love sex and/but need some booze to release your real desires. You find all this a dilema--but is it? If you like to have sex with lots of people ,then why should you feel guilty about it? If you want to stop--then make arrangements in your mind to do so. I think that would entail stopping the drug that is your enemy. Or is it? Only you can find out. You are at the controls.

 

Ignoring the fact that alchohol won't make you do anything you normally didn't want to do...

Who is it that decides to drink, knowing that when they do, they have no control?

Blame that person.

 

i've gone out and not hooked up with people... towards the end of the semester the only person i was getting with was chris, even when i did go out drinking with other people.
i dont like the guy i hooked up with, im not attracted to him in the least bit. in no way did i want this to happen, i was just blacked out and allowed too much to happen, it was pretty much out of my control at that point. yeah i drank a lot that night but its not like i figured i would drunkenly hook up with anyone, the only reason it happened was because they followed me into the bedroom and started hooking up and included me.

whatever, im sick of talking about all of this... im so fucking confused and pissed at myself, im a shitty person and i dont deserve to be with anyone.

 

You jump back and forth from, It not your fault, to its your fault, to its the boozes fault to its not the boozes fault back to it isn't your fault over and over and over again....

There is no confusion here... You made choices that you (according to the way you say you feel) were wrong. Now, you are trying to do everything in your power to avoid the responsibility that goes along with with making your decisions, including wallowing in self pity...

If you just want to feel sorry for yourself, have at it...

If you want to move past this, you tell your boyfried the truth (without the bullshit), accept the outcome of that and move on, either with him or without him.

The start of that, is by accepting the responsibility for the choices you made.

This has nothing to do with anyone else, not your boyfriend, not luke or his friend or any of us online.

This is all you...

Feeling sorry for yourself because you have to face the consequences of your own actions is beyond silly... it's destructive to you and your future.

 

Remember that whatever feels like the "hard" way is usually also the "right" way.

I don't think it's avoiding responsibility too much to break up with him and not tell him why - however - if he pursues you after that you are going to need to tell him the truth anyways... or if he comes back wanting you a year later or something - same scenario - will have to tell him anyways...

In general though - People need to stop deciding what truths are good for others and what truths aren't - it's not fair to withhold information from people that have a right to know.

 

What the hell?

She's in high school and only been seeing this guy for a week.

Why are you such a bitter ole so ans so?


In real life a 39 year old male talking to what I assume is a 17 year old girl like that, would cop a punch in the face.


To the OP: Dont cater to their sensitive little egos, if your new boyfriend is going to freak out over something as lame as this, hen he's just a big girl anyway. And P.S. - they arent gay - you'll see the value of the difference if you ever encounter the real thing

 

Big words from someone hiding on the net.

She is getting talked to that way because she came onto a public forum, said she was a cheater and wanted to be a lying cheating bitch...

If getting talked to this way, makes her realize that you live up to your own choices then its a good thing.

But regardless of the result, she asked for people's opinions... so if you don't fucking like it... too fucking bad.

Grow a pair and come see me if you want to discuss what should happen in real life.

 

It's a sensitive ego to react to your new girlfriend cheating on you within a week?
Hell, I'd say if he gets told and still keeps her, then he's a wuss

Shit happens but why the hell would one want to continue a relationship with someone who fucked it up by cheating in the first week.

Mistakes happen. Checked fucked up. Accept your mistake. Attempt to change your habits. Attempt to change your friends. (Your Bi friends aren't real friends, if they coerce you into this shit) Tell the dude and then accept the consequences.

Then move on and get over it. You're not the worst person in the world. We all fuck up. Don't go making yourself a pity-party victim - Learn and Move on.

 

wanna go get some drinks?

 

ok so there is a valuable lesson to learn here...

Know your fucking limits when you drink!!!!!!!!!!!

You made your bed sweetie, now lie in it!