I am 30 and never had a girlfriend

I studied at university and girls did not talk. I already mentioned about it.

 

I studied at university and girls did not talk. I already mentioned about it.

 

That’s impossible even the lowliest 98 lbs weakling at college who stutters in the presence of women, suffers from the occasional neck twitch, and wears broken glasses with masking tape in between the lenses, can get laid at college.

Perhaps you should move here to america where women are much more forgiving (and easier) ..lol..

 

OMG that made me laugh. x

 

You should settle down with someone.

@Grandeur, present yourself as a viable alternative. Hold yourself to account for being what a woman needs.

When you're representative of the things women need in a relationship - commitment, consistency, maturity, etc. - not only will you find a happy relationship, but you'll be happier in general.

 

How can I settle down for someone if there isn't anyone?

 

This country is Turkey, not USA.

 

I think what I'm trying to say is figurative. I think you may have taken it literally.

All I mean is for you to do well, and by making yourself presentable you become a more attractive asset for a prospective female partner.

 

I had not realized your in Turkey until it was pointed out to me, and I know very little about life in Turkey.

How are your friends finding gf’s ?

Are the marriages arranged still ?

 

I studied chemistry at university and 70 percent of the students were girls but they were extremely cold so there was no way for me to talk to them. So I gave it up. They don't want to talk. So, what can I do?

Unless my marriage is arranged, there is no way for me to marry anyone. That would be the only way for me to marry. But people who are married this way are the people that live in conservative families and I am an agnostic myself.

As for girls at university, they are pretty cold and have egos so it was not possible for me talk to them. I cannot reach their egos. I am not a handsome man so I don't stand a chance against them.

 

I have a friend “he was 25” that resembled Sam Kinison, “look him up” he had the same long stringy hair dressed very plainly, he didn’t smell bad but didn’t smell good, he was very shy and easily overlooked by the girls when we all went out. No matter what we said he would not listen.

Finally after much convincing he let a couple of our gf’s gave him a makeover, haircut, a nice shave, and took him shopping for new clothes, etc. That evening the group of us went out for some fun, being shy and lacking confidence he still would not approach any one, finally he made eye contact with a woman, they slowly got to talking, and things worked out.

The 2 dated for a couple of years, now married with children,

If you look good, you feel good, you feel good, you do good,

 

I recommend the law of attraction. Feeling positive. You keep complaining that turkey sucks and i feel for you. But if you focused on visiting europe or something you could do it. You have to really believe in yourself

 

Just a heads up, that there's plenty of racism towards the Turks in many EU countries, so a change of scenery might not be an automatic victory here either. Choosing the right country matters a lot.

 

I didn't choose to be Turkish myself. It is not up to people. They don't ask you which nationality you want to be from before you are born.

They could have been born in Turkey as well.

 

I believe I can help. Please answer these questions below:
1. Which city in Turkey do you live?
2. Are you employed? Are you a student?
3. Would you date with yourself? Why/why not?
4. What are the pros and cons of dating with you?
5. Do you have any female friends or any female relatives you regularly talk with?
6. Since you are 30, many possible girlfriends will date with you in order to marry you if we are talking about Turkey. What do you think about marriage?
7. Is there any chance you are funny?

 

1.) İzmit, Kocaeli

2.) I am not employed but I have money and my own house ( I don't mean I am rich by that). I am close to graduating from university with online exams during corona time.

3.) I would have had to be born as a girl to understand that. Even men who have criminal faces and also are as ugly as pigs have their wifes.

4.) I didn't understand the question.

5.) I have no female friends. None. I didn't have any female friend in the university either. They were extremely cold and never talked to me.

6.) There is no girl who will date me nor marry me. Because I am not living in the kind of family whose marriage is arranged by. I come from a liberal family and that is the way how men in conservative famillies are married.

7.) No I am not.

8.) You forgot to ask the 8th question but I will answer. I am an agnostic so what good would '' the conservative style arranged marriage'' do when I am this way?

 

My friend's brother is 41 and never married.

If it was about age, he would have been married by now.

 

Enjoy it or not you have to make female friends; you have to become friends with them, even the ones you don't enjoy talking with.
The thing you want is something mutual, so your chance is too low if you keep yourself in your ideals and your own world. You should accept the fact that you need to stand those mainstream annoying folks, those conservative girls around other attractive like-minded girls. You should become friends with girls before dating them. You should always approach them as a friend, otherwise you would look awkward.

I agree with someone above about looking good. You need to look as good as possible to multiply your chance. You can find good tips on internet by doing a research on google. You are a science student, you can write an essay for youself. Seriously! Do you search. You can get tips from girls on kizlarsoruyor, reddit, quora, forums.

You need at least one environment where you can meet people. You can't wait them to knock your door while sitting on your chair since we live in a real world. Here are some possible places would work:
1. Public courses - Halk Eğitim Merkezleri (I strongly recommend drama courses since this one offers many girls and you can work on your soft skills. Force your limits. You will feel ashamed in the beginning but don't give up.)
2. Find a part time work in a cafe or in a pub. I know you don't need it but just do it, trust me. It will help you to learn about people and how people communicate with each other.

I feel like these two are the only options during pandemic.

To sum up:

1. Get a new hair cut. Get dressed. Start working out. Practice smiling everyday. Smile like an insane person without any reason in the mirror.
2. Find a drama course in Halk Eğitim Merkezi.
3. Keep attending courses and always meet someone new in the course. Go and have a small talk with them. You can ask them these questions: 1. Why do you take drama courses? 2. What do they do for living? 3. What do they think about teacher/people in classes? Ask them anything possible and keep talking. Maybe you will look awkward in the begining but you will never see them after a few months if things doesn't work as we except but if things work you will get better with your soft skills and make new friends. And these will strengthen your hand significantly.