I almost made my girlfriend cum again!

If she has not been physically checked by a gynecologist, she should be. It would be prudent to rule out any physical reason first.

I agree with Vig in that the living arrangements are not conducive to self exploration and she is correct in that it may be in key part of why this is an issue.

She, by the sleeping arrangements has had to repress her own sexuality. Not a blame thing and not meant to be taken as an insult by me. There would be no option for her but to do so. She may need assistance to overcome this that you can not provide.

If physically she is fine then perhaps she will need professional counseling to get past this.

I mean no disrespect to her or to you. It is not "normal" to never climax. Sometimes it is more difficult for some to achieve but not nonexistent.

After 4 years it is time to involve professionals to solve this.

 

it is a big deal!

 

Dude, seriously, you listening to yourself? she's only expressed minimal interest in cumming???, does that make any sense to you, and the only conclusion you can come to is that there must be something wrong with her??? Wake Up!


What happens to you when you stare at her ass is the pretty much the same thing that happens to her when she stares in you eyes, and you've both trained yourselves very well to hide it


Then again its something thats done my head in for decades - Why are straight guys so dense about chics?

 

Maybe time to seek Betty Dodson's help.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Betty_Dodson

 

why are we listening to a gay man's advice about how to make a woman cum?

 

Ya killing me here

There's nothing wrong with the girl, she cums all the time, just doesnt need anyone else.

Imagine you are a little girl, from very early growing up, something as simple as just taking a walk makes you cum, why would you need anyone else?, why would you associate anyone else or even your own hand with cumming? and you'd train yourself not to pull O face in public.

Its not rocket science

 

I never thought anything must be wrong with her..

I was looking for advice on how to handle the situation, or if I should wait for herself to express interest, etc.

In fact, I'm quite bothered by Heat's implication that something must be wrong with her:

Has been.

I really disagree with this; plenty of women have trouble ever reaching that point.

23 women, nearly 12% have answered "I'm over 16 and have never had an orgasm" - in this poll, on this very website.

Hell, there's a similar thread two under mine.

So, she's never gotten to explore herself fully; so, the sensitivity is weird to her and makes her want to stop. Just because it doesn't align with your experience, doesn't make her some sort've freak -- it's a rather normal position for females to find themselves in.

Sometimes the best advice is from the outside looking in.

Thank you, I will check her out.

 

so your claim is that she is lying about her inability to orgasm. this makes no fucking sense whatsoever!

 

You are familiar with the male ego right?

 

i guess gay men fake orgasms too

 

god, if we knew the answer to that, girls would be getting off a lot more! I've only been with a couple of guys that had the faintest clue what they were doing..every other guy had to be taught.

duck, not being able to orgasm is a psychological problem. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with her per se, it just means there are things going on in her head that keep her from reaching orgasm. Shes only cheating herself if she doesn't explore those problems and try to figure out whats wrong.

Maybe she was raised to be ashamed of her sexuality, and thats why when she starts to feel pleasure she writes it off as weird and doesn't explore it anymore. I dont really know, I dont know the girl. But I feel bad for the girl if she goes through her whole life not knowing what an orgasm feels like and i dont think you should shy away from viewing it as a psychological problem. If you both are able to talk openly about her sexuality and get to the root of whats keeping her from cumming, I think that will up her comfort level and make her more open to the experience.

 

As previously explained, we talk perfectly openly, but she is not the most open or self-analytic person. She would be the stereotypical male in our relationship.

As far as she told me, it just gets too weird and sensitive.
I don't think there necessarily has to be anything deeper than inexperience psychologically. (Though I don't think that it is necessarily the only issue, either.)

I've read before of females having such troubles because when they feel it coming, they don't know how to react and tense up instead of relax. This could be from a multitude of reasons from insecurity, to habituation of repressing their pleasure, to just plain nervousness.

Figuring out exact roots is rather hard with a person that is so non-intrrospective.

So I'd prefer to focus not on why, but how to make her more comfortable.

I thought this last time was really going to do it, and it seems to have been the closest attempt.

I had already cum, so it was all about her. Appropriate music was playing. I kept everything going longer than I usually would, used some new tricks, and didn't let her pleasure me back (moved her hand away and quietly whispered: 'It's your turn now'), told her how beautiful and sexy she is, told her that I love her, asked her if she liked it, etc.

So, how do I make her more comfortable?




Thanks everyone, by the way

 

you sound like a couple of lesbians. Just hump her, screw comfort- it's sex.

 

Trust me, other times we're more like pornstars

 

tie her up, seriously. It's kinky, and she wont be able to has as much control- it's the controlling side of her that is stopping her hitting her climax.

 

Tried it once, we had fun, might be time to try again

 

She might tense up from g spot stimulation because right before a girl climaxes from the g spot it feels like shes about to piss everywhere. i only recently learned to orgasm like that; i always stopped myself because i thought i would pee.

i had an ex boyfriend once that made me cum just from blowing on my clit..it was amazing. you should try something like that if shes really that sensitive. Blow on it lightly or use a feather or something.

i dont really know how to make her feel more comfortable; it sounds like you're doing everything right. Mushrooms? sex is amazing on mushrooms lol

 

Well, I mean I know the answer


The only reason I've been watching Smallville for ten seasons is cos of:




Hummina humina, now if I met him in real life, especially with his shirt off, I would loose all brain function, and possible loss of some bodily functions (ewww! )



Still, to say this gal has a pyschological problem cos she doesnt cum with her boyfriend is bizarre, bizarre enough when it comes from guys, even more so when it comes from fellow members of the sistehood

 

Dump her. She is the one that is "weird." Probably from her pleasure denying Christian up bringing.