How to Bulldoze Rejection without looking Lame

I like to dwell on it.. its like grieving. I'm not saying I should, but that negative feeling will remain there for a set amount of time(sometimes even if you find a good distraction). Whether you dwell on it or not, the feeling will be there.

In my case it had been dragged out over a few months, so it's hard to then except that they're gone all of a sudden, and then find and work up a crush on someone else while you fear your lost love might be sleeping with someone else!

BTW.. the post is about bulldozing rejection.. not handling rejection

 

hmm, then i think even more, not dwelling on it would be best for bulldozing rejection, right? just hammer through it, right?

handling rejection is a different story, i think, but even so, i don't care to dwell on things aside from self-improvisation.

 

If you read the first post, I think the OP meant 'bulldoze', as in 'don't take no for an answer' from the girl.. NOT what to do when she does say no, but how to change her mind and impulse her

 

OH. my bad. i figured he meant the opposite actually. eeep semantics.

 

Look here how Christian rejects rejection at 13 mins in.. it is so cool

http://www.tubeplus.me/player/1187203/Nip_Tuck/season_6/episode_18/Walter_and_Edith_Krieger/

 

I don't think you can literally "Bulldoze rejection" and as for appearing or not appearing "lame" is subjective, therefore you will always appear "lame" to someone.

 

Christian Troy didn't look lame though

 

blessed is he who expects nothing
for he shurly shall not be disappointed

 

It comes down to this. If you and the person you are asking out know each other, and you get told "no", you can assume it's for good reason, and you do not want to play cat and mouse with someone who is more interested in playing cat and mouse than in being with you. If you are asking someone out as your first interaction with that person, you can CAREFULLY, and TASTEFULLY use INTELLIGENT and CLEVER means to continue pursuing them, for a SHORT TIME until you are absolutely sure that they are absolutely sure, that it's still a "no".

Sean Connorey once said (on SNL i think) that "Fifty no's and one yes, is still a yes!" and this DOES happen in real life, but VERY rarely. People make judgements of people and form impressions within SECONDS of meeting them. If you get told "no" and spend hours or days or weeks chasing this girl, you are just continuing to build your image as a needy guy who can't let go or move on and has nothing better to do. Better to say "No problem, your loss", give a warm wink, walk away immediately, and try your luck elsewhere. Your odds of getting with the girl are actually much higher if you do this, because if anything she will be impressed with how maturely and tactfully you handled the awkward situation, and how you smoothly moved on to other females. She may want to see if you are smooth and mature in other places, like under the sheets.