Maybe you are insecure about the potential of being alone because subconsciously you understand that the guy you have a crush on is only interested in you as a conquest which won't take long to fore fill. A large part of the dialog on this forum that is not addressed is the relationship between matriarch and patriarch worlds colliding. A boyfriend/girlfriend serves other purposes than we consciously notice. They usually are obligated to be a companion on holidays and other things that don't just include sex. Boyfriends act as a partial no trespassing sign to the advances that girls don't appreciate. If you openly admit that you are single abusive males see this as no reason that you can't have a physical relationship with them. Girls use this to keep their affairs from their boyfriends.It operates as a tool of discretion. Other people won't talk openly about it in case your boyfriend overhears it. People usually get the maddest at the messenger. If you want to be open, you will need an open boyfriend to have a relationship with.