How secretive...

Yeah, I'm 19.
And I dont know...I guess I feel like I owe them so much. And honestly, I would hate to disappoint them.
I just want to make everyone happy, as stupid as it sounds.
Come to think of it, I dont really think I ever actually argued with my parents. Bleh. I dont know what to say. I cant really answer your questions well. Sorry.

 

my wife knows I still come here from time to time, and used to alot. She pretty much would just shake her head and keep on walking past. Sometimes when she would read something really disgusting she would get all turned on and start flickin her bean.... but not very often

 

Didn't your wife use to post here...?

 

No need to apologize. I didn't ask this question, but it seems pretty relevant to the topic. You said you have just "basic" conversations with them, about like you said, grades and behavior? Do you actually talk about your emotions and feelings with them? Do you ever discuss life and it's many joys/sorrows? Or is it always about how well you are doing the things they want you to do?

There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to make others happy, in fact in most cases it's beneficial to the second party and yourself, but if it ever means compromising who you are then it can become harmful. You say your parents have done a lot for you, and I'm in no way trying to say otherwise, but is it not the responsibility of parents who willingly bring a child in to the world to provide for them and teach them how to provide for themselves, until they can actually do so for themselves? It just seems logical, as when anyone knowingly brings life into our world they must also realize that they are going to have to raise that new life and sacrifice for it.

Sorry if I am over-analyzing the entire situation, it's just that I'm really interested in why young adults feel so obligated to subjugate themselves to the wants and needs of their parents, even if it means compromising their own.

 

upon occasion, but ever since her computer crapped out a year or so ago, she just gave up.... and my fat lazy ass ain't walking downstairs to fix it.

 

We dont discuss emotions and such things in my family. They dont even ask : How are you ? ...or something like that. I am used to it and its okay. I guess it was just the way they were raised. And their life wasnt exactly the easiest.

And yeah, I guess it is their responsibility to provide for their kids. But still...Dont you feel like you should give something back ? And not take everything they did for you for granted.

I guess young adults do that cause of sense of duty/obligation/guilt....
I dont think parents mean to make their kids feel this way, but it just happens.

 

Although one cannot choose their family, I do agree that one should try to make the best out of what they are given. If anyone has a duty in this situation, it's a parents duty to raise a kid they willingly brought in to the world. There's no need to feel obligated to do things for someone because they've given you material things rather than expressing their love for you through none other than love itself. Everyone is raised different, I just feel it would be nice if many parents talked more with their kids about how they are actually coping with life, not how well they are doing the things they are expected to do. Perhaps if they supported what their kid actually wanted to do, rather than what they want for them. I just see this shit everywhere, not just in trust fund babies but in just about all families that have enough money to give their kids a bunch of "shit". So the kids grow up doing some things for themselves and pursuing some of their passions (a lot of the time not fully), but for the most part they just go along with whatever it is that is asked of them in order to maintain their cosey life. To each their own, I guess some people really do enjoy living like this, and so long as your happy then do what you gotta do, I just could never imagine selling myself out in even the slightest bit (I view any form of deceit, or compromising oneself in order to "fit in" as selling out.) It's great to go about life trying to make others happy, but trying to please others especially for the sake of making your life easier or more comfortable I just don't see as being 100% true to oneself.

 

Ummm....Oh wow..This is all so true. Ugh. You made a good point. I kinda recognized myself in that Damn.



And lol..trust fund babies...


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