How do you forget....

a bullet.

 

I am not suicidal, although if I had it in me, she would have driven me to such measures. I just don't have that little mechanism in me.

 

I wasn't being sarcastic. You asked how to forget about her. Well, I feel pretty much the same as you aftre a longterm relationship came to an end just over a year ago. There is no way to forget about her, Sorry. In fact, I have come to the conclusion that i just have to live with the pain. It sucks. But that's life.

 

Yea, what else can you do....

 

Move on...the pain eases over time. Trust me I know.

 

I hope so. Thanks again, everybody.

 

Time wounds all heels.

It'll get easier. You'll move on and find someone new. Such is life.

I know it sucks friend. Take care of yourself.

 

You want me to see if I can talk Fitsy into dancing for you?

 

How many million in a billion ..... a thousand? That means there are six thousand of her scattered around. I'd be packing my bags and hitting the road with BOTH eyes on the ladies.

 

It's been over 4 years since I fell in love the first time and I still think about him every single day. The first couple of years were pretty rough, but I've grown and even looking back on the pain, they definitely weren't the worst years of my life. You just have to find happiness in something. And especially for you and any future relationships you'll have, you have to find happiness in yourself. If you aren't happy alone, it's not exactly fair to depend on someone else to make you happy. The pain will lessen with time and the scars will fade. And your paths will either cross again, or you'll move on and find someone who makes you just as complete.

 

haha, that's a good way of looking at it Waking. You're right though, I guess.

 

How long did you two date and how long have you two been donezo?

 

We were together for a little more than 6 months, but the connection was so strong, it felt like we had known each other for years. We broke up in February.

 

I HATE this sort of question. It implies that love is measured in time. How ridiculous?

Love is measured in depth not months together.

There are plenty of people who have been together for ages and don't love each other. They are just in the habit of being together.

 

^^ Agreed.

Love is a deep connection, not fermented grape juice. Hell, Romeo and Juliet knew each other for a week.

Sure it didn't turn out well, but it happens to the best of us.

 

Wait .... what? I'm not sure I follow you here. You HATE that sort of question? Thats a little odd don't you think. It isn't like I asked anything ultra-personal or offensive, is it? I asked the poor guy because in the great VAST MAJORITY of cases, a short term relationship isn't love. It is infatuation and affection. Unless you're going to quote C.S. Lewis, I'm not prepared to allow affection its proper right as a love in this case. BUT in the instance that this poor lad had his heart ripped out whilst genuinely in love with the lass, I'd like to know how long they were together. Not so that I can gauge how much he loved her. More so I might give the guy a little bit of insight as to how long he might expect to feel like shit. It will no doubt take a long time, but it will happen. He will get over it. Though, a four year relationship is much tougher to get over than a six month relationship. Simply because of that silly MEASURMENT OF TIME. Time is tied to love. Not to the emotion itself, but to the impact that emotion is allowed to have. I don't think we'd need to ask droopy what he'd give for just one more day of reciprocated love with this gal. You may be right that love is measured in depth. I won't make that assumption. I have no idea how love is measured. How one might come to that conclusion is something I'll never know either. Either way, you're free to say what you say. Its just that now I think you are a little bit odd. Who really HATES a question, after all?

 

The traditional approach is to go out and have as much empty meaningless sex as possible. Also drink a lot. Combining the two activities is surprisingly easy.

 

Thanks for encouraging me to say what I like. I'm glad you think I'm odd. I mean who aspires to be normal?

Anyway, I have a reason to hate this question... I've been asked it a million fucking times this last year. I've also been offered a million fucking formulae including such bollocks as

"Expect three months of heartache for every year you were together."

I really disagree with the idea that love's depth depends on time. And I even more strongly disagree with any formula anybody might have that uses the length of the relationship as guide to the length of the hurt to be expected.

Sorry if my oddness upsets you,
Aidan(the lonely half of the odd couple)

 

Getting laid and trashed always solves the problem. haha Unfortunately I did just that, and I ended up in worse shape. (I've slept with more girls since we broke up than my whole life up to that point.) The thing is, they couldn't replace what meant the most to me, which was that connection I mentioned before. The trouble with empty sex-no matter how good it is- is the connection is gone as soon as she leaves.

 

Why don't you try tying them up?