How Do You Encourage Someone To Work?

So what would you advise such a person (if you had to )? Drop out? Or maybe a lucrative criminal career?

I would like work as it is structured now wasn't needed either, but at this moment sometimes the best thing to do when another person needs to get their shit together is to advise them to find a way to provide for themselves, which often happens to be a job.

Now that I'm thinking maybe the guy could start growing his own food (he has the time right?)

 

I encourage everyone to drop out from the system, that is my advice.

 

You can't change a man, honey. If he doesn't want to work, then good luck trying to make him work.

I'd suggest finding a more suitable suitor. But that is just my opinion.

 

best thing to do is keep making excuses for him and continue being a cash-machine.......start introducing him to slutty women and hopefully he will become a problem for someone else

 

Thats what I thought. The solution is simple - stop enabling him!

 

My advice on chooing a life of crime would be to at least not pick the ones you couldn't tolerate the time for if you get arrested and sentenced. The time you can get for any felony should deter you from those classified crimes, unless you make one hell of a mastermind, that can foolproof against going down for a felony crime.

As for a form of higher learning... I recommend the more cheaper kinds. Truck driver school costs about $1000. Beats paying a college that will leave you having to pay off debt.

I wonder how much it costs to learn how to style and/or cut hair? You girls on this board have the intel?

 

I have given him empathy.

 

I don't think he is lazy. He just doesn't want to work.

 

He likes to rap, that's about it. The rest is typical stuff that we all like, such as listening to music, watching shows and movies.

 

I agree, but sometimes it happens that way.

 

This idea is great, but like I said I don't know if he has a topic to talk about.

 

If I know unemployment blues (and fuck me, do I) most of what paralyses you is feeling worthless, like nobody wants you to work for them and sees no value in you. Also, depression and boredom are so closely linked as to be synonymous. you need something that gets you out of the house, gives structure to your day and involves achievement. The best way to get a sense of value back in your life is to put yourself to work for free. Do some volunteering for charities and non-profits in your local area. Not only is this a huge boost towards giving you the confidence to get back to work, It also looks pretty good on a CV if you don't have such a massive gap in your employment history and can say you were doing something to contribute etc even when struggling to secure paid work.

Also, job hunting is soul and energy zapping. Join a load of temp agencies and call them once a week to pester them for work. Let them do the work for you. I'm signed up with 5 and between them they keep me in pretty much permanent employment.

Also, if he raps, get him to start a spoken word night in a local pub. all you need is a pub with a top room on a quiet night when you can guarantee that you can get people spending behind the bar. Organising something like that allows you to meet people, be creative, make contacts etc. And if he's unemployed he's got more than enough time.

 

That works for kids, not adults. And if we cut him off, it's not just his 'goodies' that he won't get anymore. He also won't get a place to live, money on food, etc.

 

Lol, you are indeed a very good lecturer. But, I still don't know how it would fly for him.

 

I'm sorry, but I'm not sure what you are saying in this post.

 

I totally agree, but the thing is I can't just tell him to work for himself. Because then he won't do anything. I need to show him how to work for himself, so that he feels motivated to do it. I'll bring it up, but considering I don't have any ideas of how to start working for yourself, nor do I even have an idea of what he can do... he will just blow me off.

 

Yea, it's hard figuring out how to make someone who doesn't want to work... work.

 

So, we should all be hippies?

 

Haha. You know you're not the first person to say introduce him to another woman, so it could be her problem? That's messed up. People are messed up. Lol!

 

That's why my advice was the best