How do you cope with defeat/loss/rejection?

Thanks for the chance to do so.

I'm a new man, and it's going to start showing in my posts. I've had much to offer for years, and was selfish in keeping it to myself. Didn't want to expose myself in that light. Didn't want others to be happy because I haven't been happy. Well I'm going to be happy, and so are you guys dammit.

"I'm talking to the man in the mirror. Asking him to change his ways" - I'll mail a dollar to anybody that can tell me the song and artist. Cheat and use the web if you want, but you'll have to deal with that later if you do.

 

I cry.

 

How do you feel afterward?

 

well, i have stumbled upon a few gems in your posts from long ago haha

 

Michael Jackson...

 

I suppose I am the silent type. If I fail it is my responsibility 100% of the time.

Everything in my life is my responsibility.

I take a few deep breaths and move on.

 

always always more calm and resolved.

 

most of the time i'm quiet and keep everything inside, but then sometimes i'm quick exploding

 

yeah youre quick and explode cause you keep it in for so long haha

 

I guess it depends...I handle defeat, loss, and rejection in different ways.

If I lose or fail at something, I try again...and try harder! I don't really feel angry...it just makes me more determined to do it right.

If I'm dealing with a loss...say, of a loved one, I'm the "fixer". I try to figure out how to help everyone else out, how to make THEM feel better. It makes me focus on something else rather than MY grief, which at first seems GOOD...then I realize that I hadn't dealt with MY grief at all, and it becomes a big jumbled mess that comes out at the worst of times. If it's a loss of a mate, I bounce back pretty well...usually takes one trip to the bar LOL.

Rejection? I hate rejection...but it depends on the frequency of rejection in my life. A job? I can handle it...there's always another along the way...usually a better opportunity. A person at a bar? No worries...I move on to the next one. But if I keep getting rejected, I always seem to look at myself like there is something wrong with me...

I'm typically the person that looks on the bright side of things and takes everything in stride. I figure everything happens for a reason...

 

i grow.

 

I'm silent while thinking various homicidal scenarios

 

I am generally a pretty weak spirited and negative person when life is going through its slow, mediocre motions but defeat and loss seem to be some sort of life regenerating tonic for me. The greatest things i've ever done have always followed times of trouble, especially when i've been hurt by another person.

I can move on from tragedy in a flash, but as soon as I get bored i'm as meek as a mouse.

 

defeat of what. rejection, i don't expect to be accepted.

the universe hasn't declared war on me. it's too big to give a shit or need to.
which i'm rather glad goes for everyone else. especially those who would narrow and keep beating their heads against trying to.

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