How can I seduce an older man?

Do you use "mature" to mean more aged than early 40s, or to mean his level of personal maturity? Sorry for all my clarification requests throughout this thread

Yes, I agree that knowing him better is a key to making things go smoother. Unfortunately there isn't enough time, or opportunity, as things go.
Thank you for your input as an older male

 

I have my own place in a manner of speaking, but it would not be useful for this purpose. I do have access to a private building that I want to utilize. Thank you for the ideas, however I think I will need to proceed without a date-like or regularly domestic atmosphere. But I might be wrong, will need to think on it.

 

Easiest way to do this without all the blah-blah,is to ask him "how do I seduce an older man"? He'll tell you. See what I mean? Simple and to the point.

 

Maturity comes to each and all at different times in our lives - I used the word with general reference to 'older' maybe gving the wrong impression(?)
- If there is a time/opportunity issue - (knowing time waits for no one) - and for you to post this personal question on a public forum seems to me, that you have already set your mind to a desire and want - Go for it straight and simple sentiments - what's the worse that could happen? Disappoinmeny? Embarassment? - That's far better that missing out on what coulda/woulda/shouda be or, have been - to coin a phrase "Sieze the day"
- "May you ride the wave of Good Fortune"

 

If there is still anyone reading this thread who is interested in sharing their advice, I want to spell out another concern of mine:

Since he's charming, in a position of power, and all that, what if he has a preoccupation with his ego and has been (possibly) flirting and being extra nice to me, only to stroke his ego, and watch how he can manipulate those around him? What do you think the likelihood of this might be, based on your experiences with men?

He doesn't SEEM like that type, but idk how much to trust my judgment. He is kind of shy, seems very much a "nice guy" type with an adventurous, possibly darker side. He does not have an intimidating persona, but says and does things in a way where you can tell he's self-assured and confident even though he's a little bit bumbling and goofy (something I find charming). He's masculine but not overtly so. Kinda seems nerdy/scholarly.

....I highly doubt this is enough information to form an opinion over haha.

 

Too much thinking.

 

This may be viable. It is probably because I'm female, that I have all these deepseated thoughts about the situation. For him, if his mind is on a similar track, it is probably just a more basic carnal satisfaction thing, without all the psychology and complicated details I'm dwelling on.

 

It's in my nature to dissect things to death

 

:iagree:
Fortune favours the Brave - and Actions do better than In-Action - MeThinks

 

I understand. Meanwhile ,you're not getting laid. Sometimes direct action is soooo much easier than mulling a problem to death. But that said--hope you get what you want.

 

Trust my instinct and act, with the security of understanding the worst that could happen is not as painful as losing this opportunity. I have historically been a person of "dreams" rather than "action". An ongoing project of mine is to change this characteristic.

 

because you don't seem to want to be straight forward with him, and you claim to have been isolated to the extent that this was not a learned behavior.

 

I value the advice you've given me, thank you.

 

I don't disagree with you that the majority of females have a game-playing nature. I agree with that fact, and believe the majority of men are petty and false in their own ways as well.
But does one's level of straight-forwardness necessarily equate to whether she's playing dishonest, teasing head-games, for the sake of her own ego and at the expense of the man's? I don't believe so. Withholding straight forwardness can be a method used in playing games, but it can also be a non-malicious tactic in meeting a serious-minded, honest, known-to-him end.

 

Men are easy. Age doesn't really change this. No need to over complicate things. Simply ask him if he wants to grab a drink. Everything will unfold from there pretty easily.

What are you looking for out of this? Do you want a one night stand, an affair, a relationship?

 

I think I want him to be complicated. And am seriously in danger of projecting my desires of what I want him to be like, and setting the stage for disappointment when I find he is easy and simple as you guys here and others have stated. Over thinking it may be building an image of him that has little to do with the Real him.

I want an intense, spiritual one night stand. And I need to measure how likely a candidate he is.

 

It doesnt have anything to do with the guy or guys in the end. This is one example of what you are competing with.

One like Samantha, meeting a guy, small talk, very touchy touchy, then within half an hour they heading to someones bedroom, where he pretty much gets raped (in a good way) then she's the one thats like oh, dont get all clingy.

If this guy you are talking about is a certain level of hotness, and he sounds like it, now and then getting the attention of girls like Samantha.

Then how are you going to look compared to that? Crapping on about a deep spiritual connection

They've seen ones like you before, ones like Samantha, They are going to know the difference.

Snooze you loose. There was probably one like Samantha he had his hands all over last night

 

I was on the metro aka subway. He was reading the paper and I sat next to him and introduced myself. Yes we seem to be in the same league.

 

He makes a great point. Think about it. Then for Christ's sake stop thinking so much!:sunny:

 

I understand what you mean. I think I got overexcited and made this something in my head that is definitely is not. This is why I typically consider myself asexual and uninterested in relationships. I don't have a desire for anything other than my fantasies. When I stop seeing someone through my imagination, I lose interest.