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Kirsten, one more thing I would do with babies this age, not just Model "nice touching" or "soft hands" I would actually gently hold their little hands and SHOW them how to pet a dog, or touch the foot or hand of a baby, or "nice" an other baby their age. That way, they would get the modeling of my "soft touching" and also be shown how to do it, with the amount of force (or lack thereof) needed to be "Nice."

I still remember the feel of their soft, fat little baby hands in mine. :'( (I am missing babies in my house....I'm too old and my kids aren't ready to have them yet.)

 

we actually have a dog................... he's scared of her.
we have been doing the 'be nice' thing, with no improvment. But, now I'll try the soft hands thing. HOPEFULLY we'll see some improvment then....the poor dog is starting to resemble one of those hairless cats.
Today, it wasn't working so well. She was hyper as could be, and was not paying any attention to anything I was saying. today was one of those days where you feel like everything around you is spinning and you can't remember what you're supposed to do in a certian situation.
But for the most part, this is working. And you have NO idea how much more at peace i feel with myself; and therefore making Leane a lot calmer.
Thanks again for all the helpful replies. You don't know how much better they've made me feel.

 

Maybe you should keep a log of her behaviour alongside her diet? That way you can see if any FOODS are causing her to be more hyper and less able to hear and understand you.

 

My thoughts exactly hippyfreak.

And as for your friend, what a loser. That was completely inappropriate and I would drop her like a hot potato. But maybe that's a little harsh.

I've seen other mom's use the crying thing and I thought that was a good idea, but the other advice you got sounds really useful as well. And don't think that she is intentionally trying to hurt you, even if she were, it would still have nothing to do with you. Perhaps she is hurting you to test her power, see what she can get away with. I've read that biting is pretty connected with teething.

I've never made my mom cry, and certainly not intentionally.

 

actually, I just thought of that! lol but thanks for the suggestion! Majority of her food is homemade and the jarred foods I buy are all organic. I don't think that there should be an issue with them....I mean, she doesn't eat really any sugars at all....just lots of fruits and veggies, rice cerial mixed with fruit, and the odd bit of meat. Sometimes I buy the casserole jarred foods just to see if she likes them to help her transition from really pureed foods to table food, since she generally only seemed to like extremily pureed things. So far, so good. It's been working, and she's also learned to feed herself. I just hope I'm not missing something here.....is there anything in these foods that could be causing her behaviour?
But I'm definately going to start logging her foods and behaviours!

 

It could be an allergy, or it could be unfood related...I'd keep a log to see if there are any patterns.

 

with my kids, the problem foods are wheat/gluten (which is in just about everything you buy that is already prepared) and dairy. And, as long as Jenny was nursing at least twice a day, the behavior problems weren't so obvious. It wasn't until she started skipping days nursing that I was able to see the connection between food and behavior. Nursing was my magic bullet, cured all our problems instantly. All kids go through a tantrummy stage, it's perfectly normal. They want to do things their bodies just aren't able to do yet, and they get really aggravated. That's understandable, isn't it? What I didn't realize, was that my kids' behavior went far beyond your normal tantrums, and when I tried to narrow down what was triggering it, there wasn't any obvious thing causing the fits.