Hippies and the military?

It's all about freedom of choice and perspective. I don't see how your *love* for this guy can be changed because he went into the Army. It's either love, or it ain't.

Seems to me its more about "conditional" love, than it is true love. If you're looking for a reason to leave, then I doubt the door is locked.

If rationalizing your decision is important, then by all means blame the Army, and give your guy the space he needs in order to do his job. I've seen many, many spouses' inability to accept their husband's career choice cause the relationship to melt-down as well as the soldier's career alongside it.

Be true to yourself, and leave if that's what you need to do. Not only will this be an act of liberation for you, but it will also allow your "guy" to do what's expected of him without the added burden of an unsupportive spouse.

My 0.02 cents worth, and I'm probably FOS. ~