he's 28 and ..me, 16

I'm sorry to hear that, darlin'. If you know your relationship felt like the most natural thing in the world, don't listen to anyone's judgements unless they know the guy and are completely earnest about what they think of the situation. I do hope you're in touch with yourself and know what you're doing because of course there are men who take advantage of younger girls - I just hope you're a very mature 16 year old.

 

Sadly he is right. Some guys will do that do you, but if you're careful and cautious until you are certain they arent that type of guy then you have no worries.

 

yeah, they are right....

 

I think when you're in a relationship it's a two way street, so he must like you.. I understand that when you're a 16 year old girl you want older guys, but when they want you back there is something wrong here in my opinion. It's a difference to be 16 and 28 or 26 and 38.. You live in totally different worlds.. If I look at myself and my friends at 16 and how we are now, it's a difference between night and day.
I can understand the attraction, I like 28 year old guys aswell, the difference is that I'm 24.

 

I think it varies on a case to case basis. My guy has explained to me why he is attracted to me considering my age and I have no objections to the fact that he's never really been cared for. He actually wasn't attracted to younger girls until we became friends and I pursued him, and as odd as this is going to sound, he's more afraid of dating a younger girl then I am afraid of dating an older guy, simply because its frowned upon in todays society and its always made to look like the guy is only out to rape or kill the girl, which isnt true all the time.

 

Ofcourse you have to judge it case by case.. I guess some relationships can go very well.. But still.. I would think twice dating a guy who's that much older when you're that young.. But if you're happy and he's good for you, go for it! The reality is that it often goes very wrong.. so just be carefull..

 

Well we've been planning our future for almost a year now and as miserable as we both are being alone its worth a try at least, and if it doesnt work out, I'd still like to remain his friend. But considering how much alike we are I think things will be okay but again i cant predict the future so who knows. I'm just a risk taker sort of.

 

I was aswell, but got burned one time to many..

 

Ah yes, child molestation and enticement. Gotta keep the authorities busy somehow!

 

who said anything about child molestation? Why else do you think I'm waiting until I'm 18? Consentual sex would be fine with me right now but considering my guy's age I dont want to risk getting him in trouble for something like that.

 

I dated 18-24 year olds when I was in my 30s. There was nothing wrong with it, they wanted someone older, more mature, and someone who would provide for them and support them while they finished college. I took a lot of shit for that from friends and family. Not that I wouldn't have married one of them, but as it turned out we each were looking for something different and I didn't want to feel like I was someone's sugar daddy forever. I'm marryng someone my own age now, but again, that's my choice.

And as I said before, the males seem to have big problems with this while the majority of females don't. So it still seems like a case of sour grapes to me.

 

In some states, it's not illegal to be with an older guy when you're under 18 (if I'm interpreting the law right). In Georgia, it's only illegal under 16 but 17/18 year olds who sleep with 16 year olds or under also get in trouble.

I used to think strictly by the high school rule, meaning that anyone I dated had to have been in high school while I was (so like oldest being 3 years older when I was a freshman and he was a senior). My scope has broadened but I'm picky about guys of ANY age, and the way I see it, the most abusive and horny guys I've been with have been within months of my own age. The older guys have always been the most "normal" and much more romantic.

 

This is entirely unrelated but did you guys know that in places like the U.S. where the age of consent is more or less 18, if two underage peopel have sex and decide to video tape it they can both be charged with creating child pornography? I'm sorry but I think thats a really lame law, especially considering it is likely consentual sex.

 

Older Man + Naive Teenage Mind = Child Enticement and Molestation

 

No offence, but I've read a lot of your posts, and you really seem to assume a lot. Maybe the younger guys you were with, the ones you seem to think weren't good enough for you, just simply didn't give a crap about you? I'm not trying to be nasty, but you do seem to think you're superior to everyone. Maybe the older guys were "nicer" because they were desperate, and had to act more appreciative, plus if they were older, then it's only logical that they should be more mature, isn't it? I don't know why you assume you're more mature than other girls your age. It is a two-way thing, you know, in that a relationship isn't just about a man "earning" the lady's company... she has to offer something too, you know. Where's the equality?

Teenage girls always seem to think they're more mature than boys, but all the teenagers I ever met were wankers, so make of that what you will.

 

What I make of that is you may be a wanker lover. No?

 

Certainly not, my circumcised homeboy.

 

Your circus clown name should be "Wankee the wanker"
Dat's a good one!

 

I really don't understand how a guy at the age of 25+ can put up with a 16 year old girl long enough to have an intimate relationship with.

 

It's called earplugs.