Help...Never had a boyfriend

on some of your prewious posts you said that they haven't worked a day in their lifes and have brand new cars on their 16 birthday.... and that makes them immature.

i've changed 2 high schools so far,
i've met all kinds of people, rich, poor, very poor, very rich,
but it doesn't bother me at all to be friend with any of this people as long as thay don't have problem with my financial situation and as long as they don't judge me before they even get to know me

so my advice is to chill, stop opessing yourself with their and yours money, and to try to get to know them better, you might be suprised and meet people you like and even find a bf who suits you

 

Either that or maybe the opposite. Maybe you think that they are better than you because they have money.

I know for sure you have to change your mentality because u portray rich people like a different type of people.
Yeah they drive better cars and hang out different places, but they're still human beings and they're just like any other person in the world.

 

well, I'm 18 and the boyfriends I had...better waswithout them.It happens, I know a friend of mine which is nice looking, calm, smart and good and never had a BOYFRIEND TOO-AND SHE'S 20!I know you miss someone's presence in your life, but don't push yourself...just wait a bit more and things will be okay.

 

lol, how did this post get to be about money, who cares about the money thing, that isn't my problem

 

i understand what your saying , but i do gotta ask what allonym asked why no responce to the suggestion of flirting or asking some1 out.. not to mention my question about is there any1 in particular u r into? if not why be with just any1 if your stuck in a school with ppl so unlike you then realize you'll meet ppl more like you when you get out, or elsewhere so just wait till u meet the 1 u want to be with & tell him u want to be with him...u said u dont know any girls who initiate relationships? well trust me many many do & they work out just fine the fact u dont know any only proves the limmited personalities of the people u know.. i know how u must feel, but your only there for another year & there will be guys u will like & want to be with so just be with them, i dont see this attitude these ppl are talking about i just see a girl whos fine but hasnt met the kind of guy who shed want to be with & doesnt feel enough confidence to get him when she met him..its all too common..just dont worry about it & don't be afraid to reach for all u desserve

 

heres the thing. after my first bf (who i met in high school), ir ealized i had no clue how to meet guys. so i pokeda t some silly dating sites. and lo and behold, i found interesting peopel! been on probably a dozen or two first dates with folk, found a few who were worhty of being boyfriend material includin gmy current amazing one who i am moving in with and plan on marrying. not saying it will work for you, but waht sthe harm in looking and trying?

 

That is true.
But this girl is seeking for experience. On the other hand she has quite high criteria when choosing friends and boys.
My advice is to chill, be more opened when communicating, have fun...
The right one would show up.

 

I am a 47 year old male and i am having a similer problem,i have been completely by myself for over ten years,down through the years i have met a lot of women that i liked and would have been very happy with but none of them had any feelings for me,most said they thought of me as a freind and nothing else.I have spent a lot of money on online dating clubs,there were plenty of women that caught my attention but when i would send them a message they would not return it or say they already met someone.I met one through a dating club and we went out for dinner and a movie,during the movie i sit my hand on her leg and had no entension of putting it nowhere alse,within two days she sent me an e mail saying i wanted to serious of a relationship and she did not want to go out anymore,one problem is that relationships and dating is far more complicated than it was years ago.

 

at 17/18 meeting new people shouldnt be too big an ordeal... thers this thing out there called the internet, its this giant networking tool that you should look into with -free- dating sites out there (okcupid.com and plentyoffish.com are two that come to mind)

 

Exactly, meeting new guys should not be an issue at your age at all.
You go to the one place where hundreds of people your age go for a couple of hours every single day(almost)... school.
There is no better place to meet friends and lovers than school. Think about it, you are there for what 5,6,7 hours? You go to the same classes with some of them, you hang out the same places as others, you have lunch hour with couple dozens more... that's plenty of time for you to connect with people.

Internet is also a great tool! especially with dating sites like the 1's allonym mentioned and other popular sites such as myspace, bebo, youtube, hipforums, msn spaces, etc, etc, etc

 

hun, i completely understand. and most of the things these people have said are true.
The only actual boyfriend i had was a few months older and still acts like a toddler. Not to mention he treated me like shit. But the older guys that i have had an interest in, I seem to have a better connection with. Still, i wouldnt worry too much about it. If you just relax and be yourself, your bound to find someone who will treat you right. Oh i almost forgot...expand your horizons.

 

maybe you are 2 hott and they are scarred to ask you out???

 

Yea I agree that school is a great place to meet ppl, but i go to an all girls school, and sorry, im not turning lesbian any time soon.


There are ppl i am interested in but they have girlfriends.

 

Wow, this thread turned into a gang up on Southerngal thread
Free chill pills on the house!! *hands one to everyone*
ahhhh thats better
southern, what kind of guys do you like if its skater guys maybe you should go hang out at the skate park and watch the guys do their thing, you might get approached, or perhaps you could approach them. If you prefer nerdy guys im sure you could find tons of single at a comic book shop, but you'd deffinatly have to do the approaching there
are there all ages shows in your area? that would be another good place to look. think of the kind of guy you like, and where those kind of guys typically hang out and go a searching!

 

Oh, u forgot to mention that part haha.

Am sure you'll eventually find some1, it's just a matter of time.

 

SouthernGal, be sure to take all of this with a grain of salt, none of us actually know who you are, and we've only had about a paragraph and a half to work with. You seemed to take some of the criticism, constructive of not, a bit personally. If you try to justify yourself not having a boyfriend, there's a bit counter-productivity happening.

None of the guys you meet in high school are going to be pleasant, none of us are, really. You can get stuck with an asshole or a timid guy, but on the off chance that you meet a genuinely nice, intelligent, and all-around fun guy who happens to be single, then just whip something up. Look at how people around you set up relationships, meet someone for coffee or at a restaurant, get to know someone and if things work out and things happen, then good for you. Being open is really going to be the key here. If you wait for someone to come along then you're in for a wait.

If you trust them at all, or if you have a certain friend who you think could help you out, ask them to fix you up with someone. Go on a blind date, a double-date, whatever, live a little. Worst case scenario, you went to dinner with a friend and two guys and nothing happened. Does your school ever do dances or anything? I know it's an all-girls HS but do you have an all-boys school in the county/area that you do social stuff with?

At 16/17, I wouldn't recommend the internet as an option. I'm not sure if that was your intention or not, but the internet is really the worst place to find love for a teenager. To tell you the truth, and this is just an opinion mind you, I'd take being alone over looking for internet love any day.

If you like a guy that has a girlfriend, just talk to him for a while. If things don't work out, give him it a week or two or whatever you feel is the appropriate time, and then make a move. The most important thing is to be happy, don't jump into a relationship just to be in one.

 

So you go to an all girls school and your young. Where are you meeting boys? That could be the whole problem there.

 

I have a boyfriend and tons of mates and and i'm totally ugly (i dont care) so i don't know why you're bringing looks into it you just sound *popular*or rather the stereotype which may put people off.

Also i asked my boyfriend out and he said yes even tho i really thought he was gonna say no so jus ask out a guy you like and if you're really that hot and fun he should say yes.

 

Well, to you those girls have sucky personalities and are ugly. Beauty is relative, those guys might not see what you see. Don't focus on those girls, be happy for them. Focus on you. What is the main problem here? Creepy guys ..huh? Well maybe the guys that are decent looking that like you...give them a chance. If you can tell they are lfiritng but dont come out to you...come out to them. If you want something bad enough, grab it, don't let it go. It's ok for girls to make the first move sweetie . Maybe they might not be amazing at first but you know what, they might grow into you. Don't expect the first guy to be the one that makes your knees weak and all. Make sure you really liek him. Dont settle just cause your turning 18. I know two girls who are very close to me, family, who are older than you and I and havent had boyfriends. They aren ot ugly and have awesome personalities and have been hit on but yet, they dont want a boyfriend and do fine wihtout one. Maybe thye do want a boyfriend but they dont pine over it, he will come to you. Just be more aggresive in what you want (and I mean go for what you want) and get to know people better. Don't let looks make you not give them a chance at al. Age, whatever age you're going for. Peace!

 

I'd ask you out. It's a shame I'm not a little closer.