He got served!!!!

rapeing him with child support and being happy about it is not protecting your child.it will only hurt her in the long run.

 

Raping him with child support??? What are you a dead beat father too now?

He's never had to pay for a god damn thing for his child except for soy milk when she stopped nursing, and her food. My grandparent's paid for all the diapers, and wipes. And I was given 2 baby showers so I still have baby supplies. It's a father, or a mother's responsibility to pay for their children. If the children aren't living with one of the parent's full time, than it's always the responsibility of the other parent to pay. That's just how it's supposed to go, and it's the right thing to do. I never said that I was happy about the child support. We won't get it anyway since he works under the table, and when the IRS comes after him he get's himself laid off. So I know that we'll never see a dime from him, and that's fine. I'll just keep taking him back to court, or have him arrested. If he wasn't ready for this shit he shouldn't have brought a baby into this world. Believe me she's plenty taken care of here with me and my parents. We have more than enough money for her and for more kids! But he's the dad, and for him to not pay for her would be bull shit. Haven't you ever seen judge judy?????

I'm not surprised you come from the trailer park..

You're dense.

 

bump

 

Bump what? Bump and grind? Who put the bump in the bump-she-bump-she-bump? The thread was near the top of the forum anyway. It was an entirely unnecessary bump.

 

good call man, good call!

 

bump

 

well you can call me a deadbeat if it makes you feel good.but my ex is rapeing me so fuckin hard that its ruining my life.i am on the verge of homelessness.she lied to the court and got 300 a week.i couldnt afford that no matter what i had for a job.i told her i would help her when asked but i will not pay what a court thinks i should pay.we were raising that kid and her kid on less than 200 a week.i payed for everything for 7 years.she didnt have to work.she wouldnt work.i payed off about 30,000.00 in debt from her previous marriage so she could get her credit straightened out.a different car every couple months.i think ive payed enough.i havent seen the kid since sometime in august.i dont care to see him.i keep hopeing to find out they were both dead.i hate them both.its to the point that my own lawyer is actually affraid im gonna end up snapping and killing them both or myself.and ive been getting closer to killing myself.i told her i will die before she ever gets a dime out of me.and the funny thing is my lawyer said thats whats gonna end up happening if this shit dont stop.i have to have 1 of 2 people with me when i go to see the lawyer,thats how scared he is.is that what you want your daughter to deal with?i told you before it would be a better idea to try to make an agreement between yourselves about child support.if it doesnt work then by all means take it back to court.why totally destroy the guys life and possibly jades cuz you want revenge?like i said i wish you the best of luck with your decisions.

 

you should do him like i did my ex i send a bunch of gay guys to her house saying that she was a tranny..found all of the guys online and then watched her house from my car.

It was glorious

 

ah, now i feel weird!

 

Unfortunately the courts are being used as ways of looting some guys' resources but it's because too many dads run out on their responsibilities to begin with. The problem appears to be that if the mother gets a good enough lawyer, facts and common sense go out the window as the dad is treated as a defendant regardless of the facts.

It's a pretty compelling reason for guys to keep it in their pants until you're sure she's the one. Otherwise, you're going to pay and pay and pay. Bottom line is that the kid needs to be fed, clothed, and sheltered. If the court system gets used as a tool of revenge, the dad is likely to be constantly pissed to the edge of doing something desperate. I've seen both ends of the spectrum- a guy knocking up some girl then disappearing; on the other end of the spectrum I've known guys who pay up in good faith only to be taken back to court repeatedly because the mom wants more money- and both parents get so focused on nurturing their hatred for each other that they forget that there's a child in the middle who's probably getting scarred big time.

 

I'm sorry that I was a bitch to you. I do understand the problem you're having with the ex and the court system, and unfortunately it doesn't always work out for the best.

It's just that I've explained over and over what a loser my ex is, and how he deserves everything that's going to happen to him, and I'm so sick and tired of people who don't understand telling me that I'm just a bitch who is out for revenge. Well truthfully I sort of am, but that's not why I hired a lawyer.

See, I'm the kind of person who would go to the residence of the ex and the new girlfriend and key the cars, pop the tires, bash the windshields, etc, but I have too much to lose here. I've already jeapordized enough by sending harrasing emails and ims to the ex and the new woman.. I don't know for sure if either of them saved anything, but he could definitely use them in court against me. I'm crazy when it comes to men and jealousy. He was my man for the past 3 years of my life, the father of my child, and I don't deserve to be disrespected in that way! So I'm fucking pissed! I was in control of what happened, and I could either do a. nothing, and be irresponsible when it comes to the well being of my child, or b. the right thing, and possibly hurt him in the process. And I happened to choose b. which was the best thing to do. I know that child support does take a lot of money, but hey man kids are fucking expensive. I'm lucky that I have parent's who are willing to support me, pay for lawyers, pay for diapers, and take care of 2 kids now! Not every woman has that option. I just want my ex to own up to his life for once! And do the right thing. I'm honestly not trying to hurt anyone in the process, and believe it or not I do want my daughter to have a relationship with him. It makes me very sad every day, and sick to my stomach that we're not a family anymore. It's a hard thing to get over, but I know in my heart that I've done the right thing.

I'm sorry about what's happening to you, but at the same time I'm not. Because obviously you don't give a shit about your kid, and that's really ashame.

 

yea i find that strange that you want your own child to die... and you never want to see him again.

 

If I were a betting man I'd wager that there were some anger issues in that incendiary mix. If ever I have a kid the one thing that he or she would never question is that his or her dad cares about them. Strange yes but I don't know much of that story and am hesitant to pronounce any judgment yet.

 

jadesmom? The guy just said he wants his wife and kid dead and you are apologizing to him? He has problems serious issues.

He needs to get professional help before it is too late.

Seriously dude those feelings are not normal!

You know for both of you guys sake I hope you can't be traced to these posts. My daughter has a dead beat dad as well and she has been able to use a few posts like these in court.

Be careful Jadesmom.

 

well i guess i just felt what i said was a bit harsh..

but yea I know i should be careful.. but he's not really interested in researching me or what im doing.. he knows i gave up the pot in order to do this. Actually I'm pretty sure that he's at the bar right now..

But thanks.

 

been there,done that with the professional help.there is no help for me.all they can do is find ways to keep my mind off of them and on something else.i could care less if she finds these posts and uses them.shes already done that with IMs and emails.

all im saying is that child support is not as great as all mothers believe it to be.all it does is ruin the childs lives.youll see the daMage it causes in a few years.im supposed tro get rid of my towing business and get a job according to the court.i already told the judge,her,her lawyer and the probation officer its not happening.i am not paying.if she kept with the promise and agreement she made i would have no problem helping her.but a court is not gonna tell me what to do.never has and never will.this is something that can be handled between 2 adults.dont need courts or lawyers to do it unless he doesnt stick to his end of the agreement.

i am so glad that most of you people think its ok to screw the fathers like you do.all it does is hurt the children wether you believe it or not.only time i ever met or seen my real father was during a court session for child support.never seen him again.he hates me and i know it.i know its because my mother took him to court.im not stupid.i always wondered what it would be like to have lunch or something with him but it will never happen.in the whole 29 years that ive been on this planet my mother has gotten a whopping 1,000.00 out of him.i also have a brotrher and sister that i have never met that he had with a woman he married.is this something you want to happen to your daughter?it can happen.youre not just playing with the guys paycheck,youre playing with his mind and emotions.and by the way youve described him it does not sound like something you should be doing.restraining orders and shit only help when a cop is right in front of you.for your sake and your daughters sake i hope im wrong.

its always the child that loses in these situations.and everybody wonders why there are so many fucked kids these days.the answer is right in front of everybody but youre all so stuck on money that you dont care to see it.