he can't stop thinking about me with other guys...

When first with my Princess, these same thoughts crept in.

I banished them, by saying to myself:

" You hypocrite asshole, you didn't wonder who was before you when
first getting into her pants. so shut up about it now"

that was in the Seventies




:grouphug:

 

Tell hum the past doesnt matter, only the future!

 

Have him talk to one of his close guy friends about it. A majority of both sexies in the US have had intercourse by your age and his, so what is the big deal? It is GOOD to have some prior sexual experience before marriage, as long as STDs or pregnancy do not result. Prior sexual experience makes for a healthier marriage for most people.

Or you can see a couples therapist together.

 

A lot of patience and reassurance. Other than that, you can't do anything; none that I can think of. Although this is a relationship problem, this problem begins in his mind and can only end there. Ultimately, he's the only one who can get himself to get over it.

 

Tell him you love him, and you love being with him. And you wouldn't trade it for anything else.

I'm a little insecure with my girlfriend right now, who I've been dating for 4 months. I can get very jealous when she talks with other guys too. It's just that I love her so much, it scares me to think about how many other guys out there want to be with her....she's the most beautiful girl I've ever seen, she's smart and has a great personality. She could get with any guy she wanted basically...that's what's scary. I have to be better than every other guy out there.

All my worries disappear every time she says she loves me.

 

you need to trust in her
would you appreciate her feeling this way about you?
I know them other guys can be annoying and worrying at times, but it takes two to tango, and if your girl feels the same way about you as you do about her, I don't think she's gonna be dancing with anyone else



and to the OP:
maybe, the source of his problems is worries of inadequacy (spelling stoned sucks, leve me alone :tongue
make sure to reassure him lots about his skills and such
and if it's really so big of a problem that that would seem out of place
talk about how great they were, how much you loved the way he did such and such - that time you guys did this and that

also, I agree with Piney that you should ask about his past girls to make things more comfortable to him
he's in a completely dark area, shed a little light on it

 

How you feel is understandable. Be careful not to let your jealousy get the better of you, though. Even if she loves you, excessive jealousy can push her away if you're not careful.

 

I know what you mean, and I've told myself that. It's only when I get to drinking a case of beer that I can't hold it back any longer, but I'm getting better at that too.

I must not be tooooo bad, a guy walked up to her a couple weeks ago, while I was standing 10 ft away, and said "Is that your boyfriend?", she says
"Yeah", he replies with "....do you want another one?".

I just laughed when she told me.

 

LOL! Now that guy was witty.

Yeah, if you can keep your sense of humor, I'd say you're right. You're not "tooooo bad."

 

Did you two know eachother for long, if at all before you dated? The girl im dating know has of course dated other guys before me, but how the hell can I help that if we didn't even know eachother. It's the same as telling you to feel guilty for dating your current boyfriend in case you date someone else a few years down the road.

 

INSUCURITIES.........thier a bitch.......but the fact is the blokes youve been with in the past have helped create who you are now.....the girl he loves....the girl who rings his bell........but now its his turn to have a influence on who you are going to be tomorrow and beyond........lucky barsted

 

I can relate to him. I thought it was a bit nasty thinking of other guys having sex with my ex's...

 

Explain the fact that (I dont know if this is true in your case) because he wasnt in your life at the time, that stuff happened. If he would have been there before any of this occured,it would all have been about him. That should help.