UPDATE!!!!!!! Placing an unrolled condom over the clitorus to allow willing oral sex ----- works! I first used my finger on the outer side & then used my tongue against the same side. Both parties are now happy with my suggestion! Anal touching on the outside (with a surgical glove fitted for wife's benefit) was recieved with average comments. So my experimenting with ideas works well sometimes & not so good with others. Now, if only I can get her to try licking briefly (?) the tip of my penis with a flavoured condom fitted, I'll wait & see?
Her monthly has arrived so will wait till we are both sexually active together again. Not getting my hopes up thou - oralwise! But she doesnt seem to mind mastubating me occassionally when we are both able to have sex. So that's another thing she does allow herself to perform on me or between us.