Have You Ever had a Extramarital Relationship?

Kinda started a new one today and it’s the first time in 21+ years. We made out and felt each other some. I’m alone for the next few days and she says tomorrow it’s on. I hope so, I’ve been attracted to her since I met her.

 

Well, it happened! She called on her way home from work with a check engine light. I told her to swing by. Not sure if she actually had a light on. She pulled into my shop and I closed the door. I took care of the light and we chatted some. Then I asked her if she wanted to go to the house, I’m home alone until Sunday. She said, “I’m afraid of getting caught and I said I can put a blanket in the bed of my El Camino. She said, that would be cool. But we didn’t move forward then and chatted some more. Then I said, do you want me to go get a blanket for the bed of the Camino? She smiled and said yes. We locked up my shop and moved to the other side where the Camino is. Long story short she orgasmed several times before we were done and said that I had meet expectations. I told her to come by tomorrow if she had time. I don’t know if it will happen again but first time in more than 21 years that I’ve been in another woman.

 

Blow jobs don’t count. Lol. A blow job is like a hand shake. If you go to a puppy pile and don’t tell me, I’ll be upset till I get a good bj.

 

My wife has. She's had the same steady boyfriend for the last 6 years (we've been married 12 years, and together for 15 years). She spends plenty of time with him, and has just as much sex with him as she does with me.

 

Ok, I’ll start from the beginning. I met my ex, his cousin and my now husband when I was a sophomore in high school. Dated my now husband first and ended that my senior year. Started dating my ex after that and all through college. While in college, I started to go out with his cousin as well and continued having a sexual relationship with him. Went on a week vacation and outings for a while until I broke it off with my ex and moved away. After moving away the relationship with his cousin also stopped. No reason, we just went our own way. Reunited with my now husband 7 years later and got married and had kids. Fast forward 12 years after that and Facebook happened. My ex popped up on FB as “people you may know”. And his cousin popped into my mind. I found the cousin, messaged him and we reunited like no time had passed. We went into a sexual relationship with even more passion than ever. We were both married with children, but we were together like two lost souls. This went on for another 2 years and soon stopped again. Again, continued with our lives. I got a message 3 years later and started sexting, and talking on the phone because by this time he had moved to Texas and got divorced. I am still married. We then started seeing each other once a year due to the distance. He would come to California visit his parents and/or business trips. To the present, the last time we saw each other was 12/2019 with plans to meet again in 6/2020, but this damn virus happened and put everything on hold. We talk, txt and FaceTime. 30 years of this affair and no plans of stopping. I have never talked about this to anyone, not one soul. Just you!

 

Thank you for sharing. I condensed your story so I could better understand. It seems you are having a on again / off again relationship outside of one marriage. The one with children. Have I got this correct? It is quite unusual for a extramarital relationship to go this way especially for 30 years. Most extramarital affairs last no more than 2 years. Plus most people who involve themselves in an affair find another once the prior one has faded.

 

You are correct, Barry. It is on going. We still talk and see each other once a year for about 2-3 days.

 

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And your husband has no knowledge of your on going affair with cousin. Quite remarkable that it has lasted so long.

 

No, he has no knowledge. I am very discreet. I don’t want to hurt him.

 

He is a good man, and an amazing father. I can’t imagine hurting him. Because I can if I want. I can just divorce him, but why go through all that if I am happy with my home life, just not my sex life.

 

You won't get an argument from me on that. I feel the same about my marriage except I want to have sex with a woman more often than once a year. I hope you can remain as you are and not be discovered. Your husband may or may not understand. I know my wife does but needs assurance so she will feel secure I am not going to leave her. That's why I never tell her when I am going to meet up with a sex partner. I keep that part of my life very private.

 

That's a nice story. A few questions if you don't mind. How do you feel about having extramarital sex now that you experienced it? Have you met up with her again? If not do you think you will find another partner since you have taken the plunge into extramarital affairs? (Feel free to DM if you don't want to share publicly)

 

What about yourself? From other posts on this forum I have a sense you engage in extramarital sex as well.

 

Barry,
This is not my first affair, in fact it’s the 3rd, it’s just been 21 years since the last and probably only because the chance never presented itself. I have met with her again and hope to this coming Tuesday but with a tropical storm heading this way it probably won’t happen. So, maybe Thursday. My wife is sexually vanilla especially since menopause and this woman is a no holes barred, anything goes. Like others on this thread I’m only supplementing my sex life. Hopefully, that answers your questions.

 

Yes it does, thank you for sharing.

 

Glad to.

 

Of course. You can relate. I am discreet and this is why my affair has lasted this long.

 

Bunch of naughty people .......................................

 

Thank god for them!

 

These naughty people are engaged in something that gives them a lot of pleasure. Having extramarital sex is fun, exciting, risky, taboo, exhilarating and many other things to the participants. I engaged in extramarital sex just the other day and have had a smile on my face since. The feeling I get is addictive and I know I will do it again.