you're too tense. you need to let go a bit. ithink that's why you keep coming back here. you WANT to let go a bit. it's exhausting trying to be perfect.
yup. you never really listen if you get defensive. it's just a slightly older version of covering your ears and yelling "LALALALALALALALA!"
Living with regrets is also not a good thing. Better commit sins you enjoyed than regret sins you never comitted.