Had an interesting date, now she doesn't want to see me?

Ugh, I have to ask?

Did this date take place in Los Angeles, CA?

Lots of high maintenance, types over there.

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Anyway you seem like a nice guy, but I do have to recommend you take a leaf out of the Asshole playbook, and that tip of advice is:

1. Keep moving and playing the field.

What this means is to see lots of women, and not get hung up on a few because of things like their physical beauty. Jerk guys, do this because they're playing the field, and are usually in it selfishly for the sex.

But a nice guy like you, can learn from the aspect of not being hung up on one girl, learn to disassociate to a healthy extent, rather than an unhealthy extent, which is what the selfish guys do, because they like the power trip and physical enjoyment of sex with many women.

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Personally if I were you, I would've been turned off by this women's behavior, but I might've made a play to keep her within my social network just for learning purposes, but I'd put up a wall for any romantic/sexual future possibilities.

 

You missed an opportunity right there. You should have either made the first move to "end it" or replied to her text that you had reservations about her as well and I bet she would have been interested to know why.

 

Yeah, I agree Noxious, he did miss an opportunity here.

 

Since you're into #1's, 2's and 3's let me give you my version.

#1 This kind of girl probably want's a rich guy as she knows time is against her and is using her looks now to try and secure that. Sadly I'm assuming you aren't that guy (which is probably good for you).
#2 She has a pole stuck so far up her ass she probably doesn't know what love is or wouldn't know even if it hit her like a bus
#3 I would have ended the 1st date mid way and said "Thank you for your time but I'm just not interested, I'll catch a cab."

And I would have never looked back... Seriously she may be a model and she may be beautiful but few things are certain in this life: #1 we pay taxes, #2we die, and most certainly #3 looks fade... Take the best looking model or whatever and 20+ years from now they are not what they used to be. I'm not saying that to be cruel but that's reality! What's inside a person endures far past what their outside looks are. Not only that but even the best looking woman may look like shit in the morning. Their breath stinks in the morning. There farts (excuse me models don't fart, they toot) stink, the shit that comes out of their ass stinks. Understand where I'm going with this?

And yes ladies this goes every bit the same for "Hansom" men as well. Just so you know I'm not playing one side of the fence

 

I am with you on this Kingwilly, I gave up looking for Mr Handsome many years ago when I found he acted on his looks and I needed to be worried all the time about who would he thought was interested in him. My guys have always been on the rough looking side, best part is they have hearts of gold hidden under their jackets. My last hubby passed on and I will always miss him. Some peeps didnt know how to take him till they knew him because he had a serious look on his face and could even make some people think he was an assole. He was my everything and he knew it.
My hubby before that was awesome but we had a need to drift away in our interests so after nine years married at a young age, it ended with a hand shake and one laywer just to do the legal bits that had to be done. A few good relationships in between that ended over one of us having to move and such but never did I need to be looking over our shoulders to see who he was eying or did they ever treat me wrong.
My BF now has a very serious look, kind of grumpy look even with a big moustache that hides his smiles and he is hard for some to figure out. He has a big heart and doesnt have a problem reminding me often that he loves me, is a one woman man and if he thinks something is wrong it worries him if he cant figure it out. He likes to know everything between us is strong on both sides and talks of long term and how he hopes this is the relationship he has hoped for all his life. He has had a few walk on him in his past and all he wants is stability backed up with love. Its nice to hear a man say those words and it doesnt have to be a model type or rich man to say such altho he isnt poor by any means. We both have businesses to run and are serious about our work and now each other. Its a good match. He is a hard workin man and he plays hard too.
I met a few others while finally seriously looking for a new man in my life,,, wanna know something,,,, the hot looking guys I connected with for a date or two were No fun at all. Hate to say it but some of them were full of themselves.
Looks and profession are not everything, in fact that can be a problem if that person thinks they are just too much for themselves. Be sure they arent looking for a pot of gold instead of the real you you want them to care about and love.

 

I totally agree but I do want to say that there's a double standard in the looks department for women and men. For instance there are some men to that look great in the 40s, 50s, and in rare cases 60s if they've taken care of themselves, whereas society generally considers women in the same age-group as "past their prime" in the looks department.

Certainly there are exceptions, but you have to admit the general trend is true.

 

I dunno if thats all that much true. I was one who was maybe average when I was younger, not a looker to speak but I didnt look bad either, as I get older younger men are commenting on my butt and my tits more then I remember they did years ago. I have a tiny butt, for some reason much smaller then it was in my early twenties.
Not so long ago I had a younger gent telling me I am sexier then his GF which confuses me a little, she is in her early twenties,,, and ya she has a large butt but she does have a younger looking face then I do. He told me often that he'd do me if he didnt have a girlfriend and yes I worry for her in a way.
I do take care of myself to some point but not as some people I know, I could do more but I have to admit I do look younger at my age then my mom did when she was my age. Sorry mom if you ever see this,,, hee hee.
She had three kids, I had none, could that be why? Also it might be I dont dress as women my age, I am into my long blond hair flopping all over the place, hipster jeans and hoodies or short shorts in summer with Ts, gym pants and runners or cute sandals with my toe nails painted blood red.
My BF is three years older then me and he says I look hot and thats all that matters to me I guess. I have actually been called a hippy girl by many in recent years because I like funky stuff in my closet. I hate to wear what general clothing stores sell to everyone in town as the trend goes so to speak. In fact I have to admit I am not cheap but I buy most of my stuff from second hand stores and even alter it if needed for my style. Yup, I feel younger and funkier then I did twenty years ago.
Even sex appeals to me more then I remember 20 years ago. I am the horniest sex hound you might know, seriously. If I dont get it I get Freakin cranky, had a few friends telling me they can tell I'm not gettin any before I met BF. Some have recently commented I look healthier lately,,, maybe sexual activity makes one feel or look younger.

 

For sure, I bet it does. And of course what I said in my last post isn't always true.

But I reiterate what I said, is what I said true of the AVERAGE trend as a society?

I still stand by my post that, your circumstances are the exception not the rule.

The fact that your body has not endured the stress of pregnancy most likely contributes to why you look younger compared to your mom at the same age.

But other factors are important:

1. Diet
2. Exercise
3. Where you live geographically and socioeconomically speaking
4. How one manages stress
5. Their perspective on life

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And the other one is genetics which we have little control over.

 

So, yes,,, I can agree with your thoughts as well but I really think its because women tend to go to high top elastic waist jeans and pants and Dr sholls shoes, they cut their hair short like a carpet so its easy to deal with making them look butch IMO and they wear big flowery tops and cardigan style sweaters once they hit say 50 or 60. If I do that when I hit that age I want someone to shoot me because it just looks like the fun is over. Better be married to that guy and be a good cook and hopefully he has had a toe or two removed or has a big belly hanging over his belt with suspenders on and she keeps him fat with her muffins so she knows he wont wander too far.
But seriously most of my friends my age are quite like me, just hanging loose and having a good time. One friend I have is a bit older then I am and the way she dresses and keeps her hair,,, she looks older then her own age already.
I have tried to imagine her with a little more sex appeal and she could do it, I think anyway.
Here is a funny thing to think about, my grandmother looked like a grandmother when I was a little kid, never changed much in her years, just a few more wrinkles, liver spots and more grey hair that was thinning over the years. Grandmothers look younger now then I remember them looking when I was young. Does anyone else find this true?
At any rate, its more about what some peeps want now in relationships, like the OP has come up against, he should pass on her and find someone who no matter how gracefully or not she ages is looking for real love. Why try for that one when she has placed her order already on the first date and he probably cant or shouldnt try to write the cheque she is asking for just so he can say his GF is a model?

 

For future reference, the easiest way to "bed" a woman like this is to show a total lack of interest. It defies their life experiences, and they start to wonder, "What's wrong with me?", that this guy isn't falling all over himself trying to get me into bed. Something as simple as flirting with the waitress at dinner, or someone less attractive that you encounter during your date. However, there's a fine line you have to walk here and you don't want to go overboard with it.

When I was younger, I had skewed priorities and ended up with a lot of experience in these types of situations, but I can assure you that you do NOT want to get involved in a long term relationship with a woman that is this materialistic and stuck on herself. To me, it's foolish to spend $400 on a pair of blue jeans whether you have 100 million net worth or 10k, but that's the scenario you'll be dealing with when dating that type of woman.

Chances are, the car came from her divorce settlement, and she's just looking for another guy to latch onto to keep her financially secure until she also tires of him.

Again, I guess it all hinges on what you're looking for, but I got the impression you were just looking for a "short term" romance.

-Duc

 

You want her because she's "hot"? And when her looks fade? (Because no one can stop time, and looks fade for both men and women.)

She wasn't very nice, but you are vain. I wouldn't date you either. Maybe she picked up on your vanity and kicked you to the curb.