Girls/Women

hehehehe. nice.

 

That's not bitter at all, that's just common sense. After all, you're opening the door for a woman to invest in you as much as you invest in her.

Now, you beat the social pressure to be a father-figure. Kudos.

Just don't fall for the trap of the girl who's nice-to-you-so-she-can-tie-you-down, kind of deal either.

Mother-figures are not any better.

Edit: I think all men of our generation went through that shit. Most of us were raised by women, and to be "gentlemen" and father-figures who do all kinds of little favors to women for nothing in return.

Luckily for me, I had the experience you describe when I was 17 and got it out of my system, early...Liked the girl, she gave me the friend zone spiel. Then she ended up with a guy who knocked her up and jetted, then called ME when she was going through the abortion...

I told her, "I'll help you this week. After that, you're on your own." She stalked me for years after that.

Now, who's the doormat.

 

There's a lot in between nice and not giving a shit, seems the people that make the more bitter posts blaming the opposite sex for not wanting a nice guy don't always keep that in mind. Ah well, I know that's not always easy to do but it seems a bit of a shame to me to live your life by it if you're actually a nice person.
Just because you're a nice guy doesn't mean that is the problem (even if the girls in all occasions have said that that is the problem), it's most likely some other thing connected to it, like for example that you could let yourself be treated kind of like a doormat indeed..

 

i love how you think it's not bitter when guys feel it, but it's bitter when women do.

 

Done.

You are, for letting a woman stalk you. There are ways to put a stop to that.

 

i suppose, for a lot of men, that when they're younger they weren't nearly as good looking as they thought they were and thus were ignored by the chicks they liked. i was frequently surprised by the chicks some guys would chase, when it was blatantly obvious those chicks were WAY outta their league.

i think that's how a lot of reformed "nice guys" come into some of their special kinda stupid: they grew outta their akward ugly phase and chicks started to pay attention. they calculate it with losing interest and being mean, when really, shallow creatures that we are, we became attracted to looks.

 

lol. im actually friends with the guy now. it took a while to get over the bad feelings i had towards him. i would never waste my time being bitter. ive seen what that does to people close in my family and it's a life i definitely don't want. i hope you can work through those bad feelings you have, cos it won't serve you well in your life.

 

Is 'The Gentleman' my style of picking up ladies? I always imagined myself more like The Riddler. "My fairest maiden, wilst thou escort me to the ball this fine evening?"

The riddle is the ball means my junk.

 

I have main tactics. If I think she'll be interested in my mind I'll just give her some of my thoughts and make her laugh and shit. But that can get tricky. Cause I have to work on being smooth and shit.

If I think she will have no interest in my mind, I just boss her around a bit. It's actually what works more than anything.

it would be so much easier if I could just fall in love with someone who would like me back. But eh, fuck looking for that. If it happens it'll happen, but questing for it just ends up hurting.

 

How hypocritical.

 

You're just trying to score PC points by saying something half-smart and fall in with the crowd. Grow a pair!

 

Dude, I kind of like you so I'm just gonna say this. Stop man. You will never win with Ruski. You two are always squaring off and she gets you every time. Every time.

 

Well, she's kind of hot.

 

You're basing your looks only. Girls arent gonna go for that unless shes a bimbo and wants a one time fuck

You gotta be chill with the ladies...charming but dont led them on. say what you WANT in the BEGINNING. Dont lie and think saying "oh im looking for a girl" will get thm to go in your pants. Just go with being friends and take her on a date, flirt with her a bit. Let her know you are interested and reassure her that "friends with benefits" would be cool to you and let her lay down all the rules...makes the girl feel appreciated and not feel like they are taken advantage of

oh and stay for a while for her so she doesnt feel like a "slut" or anything

IDK it works for me. I like a cute guy but I do aim for personality too. especially in bed. If we connect OUT of the bedroom, we connect IN the bed room too

Let her trust you and everythings chill

 

I'm not disagreeing or anything. But what are YOU going to do to measure up to a man's standards? Or is any chump enough?

Why give advice instead of following advice?

 

Why listen to advice from a girl who has so much trouble getting laid herself? And you aren't even asking for anything serious. You can't maintain a fuck buddy lol

Sorry sorry, just had a "fucking really?" moment there reading your advice and remembering your old posts/convos

 

Dude, this is why I like you. This chick just got a double penetration reality check. Ha


And yes, Ruski is hot. And I'd win that fight

 

Super hot, yes.

 

well im a 2 way street for sex. he does what he wants, i do what i want but im not gonna get treated like a dirt bag in bed, thats all, i personally ask. and they dont mind.

and i do follow my own advice. the problem with me not getting sex is that most guys are scums of the earth and think they can take advantage of women when women like me just want everything to be out of pure fun, no they gotta ruin it and cause drama and leave you at random. not cool at all.

 

That makes NO FUCKING SENSE! Every statement you made was contradicted by the next one.