Girls, is your current Husband/boyfriend your best ever lover. And.......

Thanks for your reply. The more I think about this topic the more I realize some of these women replying give no background to their story; how old are they? Married? Single? Divorced? Do they have kids? How old?? How is their money?

I am 50, married with 2 kids, ages 13 and 11 and a job where I work 50-60 work weeks. My kids are in sports so there is alot of running around to do in the evenings. By 8pm I am wiped out. on weekends there are chores to do, errands to run. our money is tight so travel is not really an option right now.

why do I say all this? because if my wife and I had an 'open' relationship her taking off to fuck some other guy would mean I would be left to shoulder more of the family duties alone, not to mention using up the precious few hours we could spend together. We are not free spirits who can come and go as we please, we are a family, a team. there is no 'I' in team and there is no individual in me, in the sense of autonomous entity, I am a husband, father and employee, my relationships and responsibilities define me and the guiding principal that governs my decisions is not 'want' or 'desire' it is 'duty' and 'obligation'. those precious moments of intimacy with my wife are the oasis of joy, nirvana in a very busy, very demanding life. running off to fuck someone else would destroy that oasis, ruin the tranquility.

now if you are young and single with no mortgage to pay, no kids to raise and have money to travel and maybe a job that doesn't tie you down then you could 'hang out' with who ever you felt like at that moment because you wouldn't be hurting anyone by being selfish.

that is not reality for most of us.

so if you are one of the people out there with an easy come easy go life then you should say so, then your answers would have a moral context to show how you really treat other people.

 

That’s me in a nutshell. But unlike some of the people in this thread, I don’t a need 2nd partner to make up for what my gf lacks sexually. If I wasn’t satisfied with a girls sexual skills then I’d leave her and find a girl that could hang with me in the sack. I may choose to sleep around with other girls, but it’s simply because I like to experience; not because I’m trying to take aspects from various girls in order to fulfill some need that I felt one particular girl couldn't provide me. Perhaps that's a fundamental difference between a lot of men and women... I don't know. You'll have to ask them to explain themselves to you.

 

I think both of your perspectives are valid, and also serve as snapshots in time of the perspective of a male growing up in phases of how they might see the world, with work, love, family, fun, obligation, ego and purpose all wrapped up together.

 

People need to communicate with their partners and cultivate the qualities they like in them. Those women who have another "lover" because their bf doesn't fuck them properly, why don't you let your bf know about your desires? Oh yeah, you want to be an actual whore rather than muster the courage to tell your "loved one" to fuck you like a whore.

My gf is one of those affectionate, level-headed, good for long-term partnership girls, but I can get her to be a dirty fucktoy if I want to. All about mixing up lovemaking and fucking.

 

I have read nothing in the Ops post that makes me believe she wants to be pounded by her ex, in fact she seems to be very happy with her man and what they have together. Why are you being such a dick? Stop behaving like such an ass!

Are you kidding! That's very weird! WTF

When I read the Op's post, I just knew that there would be a few dumb ass guys that would come along and tell us how big their dicks are, and how they are the worlds best lover, even though the question was worded towards Ladies! One of them even tells us that being boastful shows that you are being insecure, and then goes on to tell us he is ranked "No 1!" Dumb ass!!!!!!!!

To answer the Ops question truthfully! No, my husband is not the best lover I have ever had. But, like your boyfriend he is the best complete package, and I love him.

As with Anya, the best sex I ever had was with a guy that I was just casual with. I had a boyfriend at the time, but the sex was so good with this guy, I just could not leave it alone. I went back for more and more. My boyfriend found out and it hurt him, and I'm very sorry for that because he was a nice guy. I was young though and Wow, was my lover amazing. He was a great lay, not a serious prospect as a long term partner though. In my experience.........the bigger the dick........the smaller the brain.

There are not that many GREAT lovers out there to be honest. When I say great, I don't mean good, or very good, I mean GREAT. I love sex, I have no problem admitting that I was a bit of a slut, but out of all the guys I was with..............I would class only two as being great. The complete package. Looks, build, huge dick, an ability not to cum till he wants to, an electric touch, great with his hands, mouth, tongue and an ability to make you cum over and over again till your weak at the knees. A guy with no limits on what he will do to get you off.

These guys are very rare, and yet on this site very guy is a stud! lol Sorry boys, but your full of shit.

 

so it's ok to hurt someone to satisfy your sexual desires? Do unto others. The biggest reason I don't cheat is because I would not want to hurt my wife and because I wouldn't want her to cheat on me.

why would a man want to be with a woman, help her, support her if in the end she might go fuck someone else?

why would he want to raise a child with her if another man might be the father?

how would you feel if your man was fucking someone else because their body was nicer, their pussy was tighter or she was better at sucking cock?

another selfish, ignorant post.

 

But why does it just come off sounding angry and jealous, like you are whippping yourself into a frenzy

Saying it that way, youd be so hurt being left with the kids and the chores if she ran off to fuck another guy, makes it sound like you have to put up with the kids, everything else is ancillary including the kids just a whole bunch of stuff so you could have sex with her, and no one else could

Whether its on your death bed or hers, or you get divorced: to find out the entire time she did have another lover the whole time or a few lovers....in the end becuase you were an angry overprotective little mutt of a man....and some people around you knew this, but didnt say anything cos they knew you were just going to fly off the handle...Then what?

But you already know the truth anyway dont you?, its why you are so overprotective, why you have to work yourself into a frenzy trying to convince yourself you have been the only one.

Re-read the thing again, do you seriously think it makes you sound secure?

 

Lol, yeah great first post!! Way to prove to everyone here that you're not a troll.

Just another trolling poster more like. It's amazing how people will come on a thread and try to attack people with no ground to stand on what so ever. Then when they find out you're smarter than they are and actually know a thing or two about what you're talking about... they run away and hide in a corner. :leaving:

 

I posed the 2 questions to my wife (of 19 years)"is your husband/boyfriend the best lover you every had?" And "if he wasn't, would you lie to him?". She answered yes and yes

Btw I have an average penis at the best of times but I probaly rank in the top 1 billion best lovers of all time.

 

No it's not o.k, far from it, I did not say it was! The ladies in this thread are not cheating though, their partners know, and don't mind! Just because you are a narrow minded person, don't assume everyone else is. At this stage in my life I would not want an open relationship, but I would not be critical of what other consenting adults do!

You come across as a very angry, bitter man. If there is a reason for that you need to get over it.

 

Who's running away? You made an ass of yourself and I pulled you up on it. That does not make me a troll. What kinda man boasts about being "Number one?" You answered that question yourself didn't you. An insecure one, which is what you are. Run along now. :2thumbsup:

 

You're saying every woman with two partners who replied to this thread lives in an open relationship? and both men have full knowledge of what is going on?

if the answer is no then why would a woman have a secret lover? what would they do if their SO found out?

why don't you want an open relationship at this stage in your life? Why wouldn't it work for you?

I have known hundreds of men and out of that only one had an open relationship. He is married to my cousin and my cousin is so depressed she recently attempted suicide.

 

I'm taking fx20736's side on this and would like to add that his reaction and views on this subject, cheating, is very mainstream so I don't know why he's being knocked for saying his opinion.

Also I think people have free will to enter into an open relationship, but if someone signed up for a typical closed relationship, which is usually the case, then fx20736's comments are not bitter, they're sad.

Certainly I would try to get my guy friends to cheer up if he discovered his wife or girlfriend cheating

 

The only person making an ass of themselves is YOU. For some reason you feel the need to try and hate on me because I speak the truth for a fair number of guys. You sound like one of those women that hates men for no apparent reason. And if you at least had the mental capacity to put together a proper argument for why you seem to think I'm insecure, or this or that, then I could at least respect you enough to engage in a proper discourse on the matter.

But instead you just make ignorant assumptions about people with no basis what so ever. Before you start trying to attack others and throw around names and insults (like insecurity), you need to check your self and get a higher level of "maturity". Especially when going after people who are obviously smarter than you are. :bulb:

And for the record, learn how to read properly. I never said I was number 1 on every girls list of best lovers. I said I would be at the top, but followed up to say that may very well not be number 1 because subjectivity comes into play, and that it makes no difference to me either way where someone wanted to rank me.

 

He's being knocked because people like aliceadams don't have the mental capacity to formulate a proper argument to why they feel someone is a certain way (or wrong in their stance on a matter). So the only thing they can do is resort to throwing around insults and trying to knock people off their stance that way.

 

truth

damage control & desperate lies.

 

I don't understand why a man would ask that in the first place. It's the equivalent of the female asking about looking fat. There is NO answer that won't cause angst.

My partner is gorgeous, adorable and damn sexy. Frankly I'd never insult her by asking if I was "the best", and I'm certain she'd never ask me.

It's not something I consciously think about, anyway. After all the women I went 3 seconds with when i was a kid may have been awesome lovers, but I never found out....

 

He would ask if he was concerned that his partner was not sexually satisfied. This would imply that he wanted her to be happy and content enough to stay with him.

I would say if you are involved in a casual relationship, the kind that people in their 20's & early 30's are wont to be in then the question is irrelevant. In those situations the now is what counts.

But if you are talking marriage, kids and a lifetime together it is very important to know if the woman you are with loves the sex with you and thinks you are the best ever. After all, if a woman has experienced better sex with other men, what would keep her from seeking that after marriage? What would happen if she got pregnant by another man? That could mean not passing your DNA down for future generations.

What is this great sex the female posters refer to anyway? I know there is one thing above ALL other things that makes sex great and that is passion. What makes passion? Two people who are crazy about each other and want to be together all the time. I have had women with tighter pussies and bigger tits than my wife, I had a gf who orgasmed as soon as I entered her. I had a partner who could deep throat me easily.

None of that matters and none of that compares to the sex I have with my wife. The way she touches me, looks at me, the noises she makes, the way she responds when I am thrusting inside her.Not one of the thousands of times I had sex before I met her could come remotely close. What random hook up could have that intensity?

I cheated on my first gf once. I couldn't lie, I confessed instantly. I knew it meant the end of our relationship but I could not have lived a lie. I kissed a colleague at a work function once when I was drunk. I couldn't even hold that back. To me intimacy is so bound up with emotional connection. how could someone enjoy sex with someone where there is no bond, no connection?

the truth is I never have to worry about any of this, I am happily married and would rather die than be without her.

what I am concerned about is the kind of people my kids run into when they become sexually active. My son is a bright and sensitive child and I could not bear the thought of some whore ruining him. likewise I don't want my daughter to run into some scumbag who is going to use her and then betray her. I read these posts because I need to know about young people today. What I am learning appalls, frightens and disgusts me. The lack of decency, respect and honesty nauseates me.

I live my whole life by one simple rule:

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"

I wish more people did the same.

 

So, if I want to know if my partner is sexually satisfied, I ask "Am I the best you've had?" That follows......not.


Silly me. I'd ask "Are you sexually satisfied, and if not what can I do to satisfy you?".

 

Yeah and if they're having sex with you over and over, then there really isn't a question.

 

I personally would not mind hearing I'm not my lovers best lover n(or maybe fucker is best to say). I wouldn't be surprised, especially if they have experience, and have met a "big dominant that fucks them wild & multiple orgasms." :roll:

I have the ability and willingless to put in the work, and so long as i'm not their worst or bad, I wouldn't take offence. If i can be sexy, seductive, fierce and passionate enough to make her O, albeit once at a time , I'm fine with that.