Girls, is your current Husband/boyfriend your best ever lover. And.......

Hey, I feel you. But taking things from another perspective... although the rules of the game may change through time, you just have learn to adapt and play! So if you have to be great in bed to land and keep a girl nowadays, then guys better get practicing so they don't get blown away come game time.

Not much you can do about increasing the size of your dick, but I think a lot of girls overestimate the power of dick size because they haven't been with guys that can truly fuck their brains out. Then some may call it natural selection... who knows .

Personally, I have no desire to get married or have kids. However, one I have more control over than the other.

 

Yes my boyfriend does know, and yes he is fine with it. In fact it turns him on. We have an open relationship, and I'm fine with him seeing other girls for sex, although he doesn't. My lover is single at the moment.

Only if their stupid! I would never leave the man I love (my bf) for a man I did not, just because he is great in the sack. Don't be so daft!

 

Sigh.. In this day and age men need to start being men again, and be both a gentle loving partner and able to get his woman off sexually. It's what I do. I feel sorry for the women who can't find real men, and pity the "men" who just don't have what it takes.

 

thanks for clearing that up. I have no ability or desire in understanding the many people on this forum just like you. I have a cousin who has an open marriage and I think she is a disgusting freak. So I am repulsed by your viewpoint along with the woman who posted about having 100+ partners. I am not saying I never had good sex before my wife, I had 3 long term sexual relationships and 5 or 6 other encounters before meeting my wife but none of it is even remotely close to the intensity of making love to my wife. My wife had only had sex 6 times before meeting me but she too wishes she could have been a virgin when she met me.

To me, in a perfect world, I would have been childhood sweethearts with my wife and all of our sexual discoveries would have been together, first time holding hands, first kiss, first time getting naked in front a member of the opposite sex, etc. up to losing our virginity. Our love would be pure, undiluted, untainted.

why wouldn't anyone want the same?

 

because everyone isn't the same. i assume you're also repulsed by homosexuals?

 

Why would you assume that?

My sister is a lesbian and in a committed, monogamous relationship.


the truth is, I almost never think of homosexuals at all, especially after moving from NYC.

 

because you just made a post about how repulsed you were by people who didn't think like you, so i was wondering if you felt that way about people who didn't think like you on all issues or just the one.

 

I am not repulsed by someone because they think differently than me. I am repulsed by promiscuity and infidelity.

 

I am boyfriendless now:sad:

But my last was the best lover I had. I couldn't keep up with him

 

Because life is about experiencing and living. How can you say you've truly experienced sex, love, etc if you've only ever had encounters with 1 person romantically? How can you say you've truly experienced art if you've only seen art made from 1 person? How can you say you've truly experienced the world around you if you've never traveled anywhere?

Need I go on?

 

I have been in love 3 times with three totally different women; different physically, emotionally, sexually. I spent 9 years living with my 1st girlfriend, had a brief 6 week marriage that was annulled, then an on again/ off again thing with a woman for 3 years that drove me to bankruptcy and (almost) suicide before meeting my current wife. In between all that were a few random encounters, a few visits to prostitutes and many hours spent in peep shows, strip clubs and porno video arcades. I had 10,000 orgasms before meeting my wife but I don't look back on any of those experiences and think I'm glad I did that. Life is not a buffet. Love is all that matters. When you fuck without love you lose. I am repulsed but I don't condemn those who live this way, I pity them. Love is what redeems us, saves us from ourselves. I say these things to help not hurt.

 

This proves you've actually experienced a good bit, especially with deep relationships. At least enough to recognize "the one" when she came along. I really believe that one has to experience before they can truly know the type of love that you have with your partner. The real question is if you hadn't had the prior relationship experience that you did when you met your current wife, would your relationship be as strong as it is today (or even exist for that matter)? It's the whole nature vs nurture theory.

I think without your experience, you are not the same person. Therefore, it's unlikely that your current relationship would've ended up the same because you wouldn't have been the same, reacted the same, etc, etc.

 

to a certain extent, yes I figured out what was most important to me in finding a partner but with my first gf I hung on for dear life long after I should have given up. If she actually loved me and cared enough to try and make me happy then we'd still be together today. The problem is my 1st gf was massively depressed, insanely selfish and narrow minded. I stayed with her because she was the only woman I had ever slept with and I was in love with her. The 1st year was great, the next 8 were hell. Finally I could not take it anymore and cheated on her just so she would end our relationship.

after a train wreck of a rebound relationship that ended in a 6 week marriage I hooked up with the ex gf of a friend of mine. She was living in the East Village (NYC). She was everything my first wasn't; open, sensual, sexually adventurous, intellectually compatible she was a hot mess of a little jewish redhead. We had a torrid sexual relationship. I moved in with her. the problem is she had major committment issues and as soon as we started to act as a couple she started to get flaky. she cheated on me several times and dumped me three times. We kept getting together because their was such a strong sexual attraction and great intellectual camraderie. As a result she hurt me over and over to the point where I wanted to kill myself.

at that point I took a serious break from relationships and kept my sexual needs fulfilled by prostitutes as they were 'safe'.

eventually I met my current wife. So unlike my 1st or 2nd; stable, grounded, life affirming, feminine with a solid career (RN). She had avoided relationships because she was a victim of child sexual abuse. As a result she had virtually no sexual experience at the age of 28. I am a great listener and communicator and can be very gentle in bed, so I taught her what good sex could be. she fell fpr me right away. me, I was gun shy after my past experiences but day by day I came to trust her and eventually my love for her blossomed and continues to grow stronger every day 16 years later.

the foundation of our relationship is trust and respect. cheating is nothing I would ever do. once, when drunk I kissed a co-worker and was so wracked with guilt that I told my wife. it was only a kiss but clearly my wife was hurt. I vowed then that I would never put myself in that type of situation again. now the idea of getting in bed with anyone but my wife is anathema. she is a goddess to me and I would never do anything to risk that. when we lie next to each other kissing and then when I am inside her the whole world slows down to one heartbeat. there is nothing else that could compare to that. That doesn't mean I don't find other women attractive it's just that I have everything I need in her and don't want to experience anything else, most of all being without her.

so maybe this abbreviated story explains why fidelity is so important to me.

 

From what you say it doesn't sound like a lie. Being a lover is more than just having an orgasm or two. It sounds like your new man is more than your old. As much as I love the wild sex with the wife, there is nothing better than making love to her

 

This. If you need to ask the question then the answer is obvious

 

I asked this once, and the guy actually talked about a past lover from when he lived in Colorado. It crushed me, and it forever affected how I felt about us. I was recently asked this question in an indirect way. He asked if my sex with another guy was just as good as him. I told him that topic is off limits. It's better that there not be comparisons. There's way too many variables anyway.

 

love this. a voice of reason. a total virgin can become a great lover quickly if they are passionate about their mate. someone with many partners could be lousy in bed. Sex is great when two people have intense feelings for each other, not because they have master the 'secret' to great sex.

 

I wouldn't want to ask my guy if my vagina was the best he's had, but I can say the dick he gives me is great, enough to make me want him again and again. Although we've been dating about six months, so maybe we could be in that initial phase where you just want them to think youre the bees knees and not see your flaws.

 

WOW!!

turn it all around. Imagine a man saying:

In this day and age I think a man can have both. One woman who is affectionate and level headed and a good home maker, long term partner and mother, and another woman who can really drive you wild. It's what I have.

how does that sound to you?

imagine:

"honey, you want to make some popcorn and snuggle and watch movies?"

"No, I am going to take off for awhile so I can fuck some dirty bitch"

"I'm in the mood, we could make love!"

"no, you're a good mother and cook but honestly your kind of boring in bed, I like a real dirty whore"

"I can try and be more dirty, what would you like to do?"

"I like to fuck a woman in the ass and cum on her face"

"it hurt that time we tried it that way. why would you want to cum on my face? it sounds so degrading"

"exactly, you're boring. later"

 

What man with any self respect would allow the woman they are with to go fuck someone else because the other guy had a bigger cock and could last longer before cumming?

let me ask you this; do you live with your bf? do you have kids together?

could you tell your man; "can you stay home and watch the kids? I want to go fuck so and so, he has a huge cock!".

 

That's an interesting story of your experience. And as you say, those experiences help one figure out what's really important to them in a partner.

I certainly respect the relationship you've been able to form with your current wife, as well as your view on fidelity. I wish everyone could be as content being with that one special person like yourself.

My comments weren't towards infidelity, but towards sexual experience. I feel you're taking issue with the girls posting here that are "unfaithful" (in your eyes) to their lovers... but that would imply that they are in fact deceiving them with their sexual encounters.