girl wants my virginity

So if you fucked a few people, would that make you a slut? I hate the double standard of that word. Not bashing on you but if she has had sex with a few (meaning 3) then that would make her sexually active in my books.
Just be mindful of her feelings, treat her respectfully and you could be getting action regularly. :sunny:

 

Don't worry bro, I'm no asshole just used the wrong words haha

 

Hey, I'm a newbie here, a 57yr old lady, I've really enjoyed this thread. Great advice! Go have fun and repeat as needed LOL!! BTW, Here is my definition of a Slut:

A Slut is a woman with the morals of a man.

No judgements....just fun!!!

 

Your welcome as it is a valid point. I would have given more cautions advice to a female, but not because of any stigma accosiated with being a virgin....but for safety's sake. If a 16 year old girl was to go out with the purpose of getting laid, there is a lot of danger that could be brought her way. If it was in a very controlled environment with someone her own age that she trusts, then the advice would be the same. The reason I'm so much quicker to encourage a 16 year old male to lose his virginity, is because it's highly unlikely that the girl he's with is going to be of any physical threat.

It would be a lot more suspicious if a manwhore told a 16 year old female virgin that he'll do her the favor of taking her virginity. Double standard or not.....that's the way it is.

 

Yeah dude. Just because she's slept with a few guys doesn't make her a slut! As a 23 year old dude, I also enjoyed this thread and LMFAO the whole time. Just go with it bro.

 

Dig! Lovin' is dead on. Males are a lot more of a threat to younger females and there's no immediate reason to "warn" a male, of possible harm. We tell them to use a rubber and that's that.

 

You say you have helped her "move out" or whatever, a few times?

You're the nice guy, and would be friend zoned but she's a bit more masculine in her views of sex. She might also be rebounding a bit.

Have fun, wrap your willie.

 

Just kick back and enjoy the ride sweetie

I have been the first for a few guys and if she is like me, after what she said she is going to take good care of you. It can be fun to teach someone new. Don't go in overzealous and try to do things like porn; let her make the moves and guide you and show you what she likes. Learn the rules before you play the game so to speak, you will have plenty of time to work on your skills later.

And don't worry about cumming too soon the first time, it's to be expected. I would probably give you a handjob or suck you off beforehand to relieve the tension anyway, at 16 she can have you hard again before you're halfway down. Have fun

 

Really good advice! I like the idea of giving the guy a handjob or blowjob first until he cums to relieve the tension. I could totally see that make you last longer for the actual sex. Also good advice not to attempt to try any things you have seen in porn until later!

 

*cough*kiss ass *cough*

 

You put your dick in her pussy you idiot, I hope to god this is a troll thread.

 

If you're not a troll and the guy who publically professes that Timmothy Mcveigh should have a memorial tells you that you better be a troll, you know shit's serious........

 

+..Rep Coming Your Way...:2thumbsup:



Cheers Glen.

 

Whilst in general, that is so, there are other reasons a male shouldn't automatically be "egged on" in that type of situation. There are predatory females, just as there are predatory males (although yes, there are more males who fit into that category). And it is a fact, that not all 16 year olds are ready for sex. Many people have sex before they are really ready for it, and yes, that also includes males as well as females.

Although it is true that it's mainly women who express regret at losing their virginity too early, or to the wrong guy, I have also heard some men expressing regret at losing their virginity too early. Also, quite a lot of men feel the need to put on a hyper-masculine front as that is what society expects, and therefore, men are likely to find it harder to admit to that sort of thing than women are. So I can logically think that there are more men who feel that way than most of us believe is the case. The situation I was in that I mentioned earlier, where a male friend lied to people he knew that he wasn't a virgin is a classic example of that.

LetLovin admitted that it was a double standard, and so it is. I would no more encourage a 16 year old boy to have sex (unless I felt sure it was what he really wanted, and that he felt he was ready) as I would a 16 year old girl.

 

Outside of religious guilt, I've never heard of a single case where a male wished he had waited longer for sex. I'm sure they're out there but I think it's far from the norm. I'd be willing to say that the vast majority of men would say that they'd have gotten their turtle wet a bit sooner if they could have. But I guess you could be right and it's the social pressures of sex that won't let them admit their feelings. I personally doubt that this is the case very often though.

Either way. The op seems to have his head on right. He said that he's not being pressured about it at all and that he really wants to do it. He's either ready for sex or lying through his teeth.

 

I personally have heard of cases outside of religious guilt, though I would agree that is far from the norm. For sure, there are guys who wouldn't admit to feeling that way due to societal pressures. I think you are right to say though that probably isn't the case very often. But due to the fact that most guys in that situation wouldn't admit to that, it is probably a more sizeable minority than it actually appears.

As for the OP, he has said he feels no pressure about it, and that is the main thing. If there's no pressure and he really wants to do it, then of course he should go for it. But certainly, I wouldn't automatically encourage a young guy to lose his virginity as a matter of course, which I think a lot of people would do, especially guys. There is definitely an unfortunate stigma attatched to being a virgin, especially if you're male. And I think there has to be cases where this does influence young men's thinking about sex in a negative way.

Western society seems to have done a 360 turn as far as attitudes to sex is concerned. Casual sex, young people having sex, and sex before marriage used to be frowned upon. Now it's being a virgin that carries a stigma of shame (to some degree I am unhappy about being a virgin, but I'm not ashamed about it). When it's the middle ground between those attitudes that would be the healthy way for our society to view sex.

 

I'm just wondering. Did you do the deed yet? If so, how did it go?

 

let her take it