Found me after 33 years

If he knows this much information about you already, then blocking him isn't going to do much good, he may break and confront you in person...Just because you don't remember him and he obviously remembers you doesn't mean he's a weirdo. He's a person too, and just because you obviously meant more to him than he means to you doesn't mean it's right to not take his feelings into account and treat him like he's some criminal. I'd say you should tell him about your husband and make it clear that you've settled down and treat him like a normal person and then see where it goes from there. If you treat him like dirt and ignore him you're obviously going to upset him, especially if he cared enough to keep track of you for 33 years. I'd say it'd be better to let him down easy then offend him, especially since he knows pretty much all your information already...

 

You make it sound like he'd be rational.

 

Be careful, this could just be some trick to get you to give out info so he can say "yes, that's me, how did you know?"
Someone who is insulted about others being careful on the internet sounds fishy....



I had an old boyfriend find me after 12 years....did he ever get creepy... I felt sorry for him because he was on his second divorce...but he kept saying creepy things to me...so I quit chatting with him.

 

Well, I'm torn about it. I don't know he's some stalker and, yes, maybe he deserves some explanation of how things are (ie: I'm not 17 anymore, I'm 100 pounds heavier, I'm monogamous, my sexual libido is not what it used to be), but then, I start freaking out about it all over again and think maybe not answering is the way to go. My block just sends the e-mails to my deleted file, which empties on exiting, so when I open my e-mail I would see if he has sent me a new e-mail. He hasn't.

 

Tarabelle, I think he followed you here!

 

Um thanks for the insult and rolleyes when i'm just trying to help...

No, i'm not a stalker, but i've been hurt many times in my life by people who didn't give a damn about me but i cared about them...so maybe i'm just feeling bad for the guy and assuming he just cares a lot about her and is not some crazy guy.

 

It's called a JOKE!

Lighten up.

The guy sounds like a quack. There's a difference between caring about someone and acting a FOOL when someone doesn't respond they way you think they should.