I see forgiveness as something that you should do for you. As long as you harbor the hate they are still controlling you and you are not free. Forgiving does not mean that you approve of their actions and it does not mean you ever have to be around them ever again, if that is what you choose. And it does not mean that you will forget the pain. If you do want to be whole you do need to let the hate go. I think the statement that moved me forward in forgiveness was something like this: Holding onto hate is like drinking poison and hoping the other person will die. once I heard that I realized how damaging holding onto hate is and I just let it go. :grouphug:
